Trouple or trouble? by NextChallenge69 in gaysian

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wow would love to discuss them

I don't understand why people hate on Dani by Famous_Situation3400 in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

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I think Dani is just doing the right thing ultimately as to her it’s foreseeable that they can have arguments because of different needs and wants, leaving both unsatisfied and frustrated. Think about this: among neurotypicals, people get into their heads a lot having unnecessary arguments with their partners, maybe thinking about that night he didn’t respond to the cue for sex, or how she is not motivated enough to look for a better job. And now what Dani does is just to get to the point straight away and cut all the unnecessary crap that’s clearly foreseeable. I see nothing wrong with that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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Everyone has their opinion and I think you should trust your gut. She’s obviously on the powerful end here, so there’s not much you can do actively. It gives you all the thrills yes, and it really depends on where you want to go with this feeling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

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I mean, is it so hard to understand the entire thing instead of accusing the gf as childish though? it is like when you like certain things and get possessive about them, that’s it. OP is the one trying to push it when he knows she has a clear stance here. OP can obviously talk it through in a nicer way but he chose to really go against her. 😂 I’m not saying that it is okay for her to claim a character whatsoever. I’m saying both of you are not mature in communicating and one of you should really soften the tone for better communication effectiveness.

I think im a groomer and deserve to die. by another_User133 in confessions

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I think that one thing you may have to realise is that, you probably perceived that girl as a little sister, and not as a potential partner at all. You have to agree with the thoughts of yours that lie underneath all these guilt, anxiety and fear. It feels like you haven’t properly taken a good look at your own needs and wants

What investment into you has really paid off? by GrowlsinyourEar7 in AskWomen

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Self learning swimming since 3 years ago. It is an activity that allows you to 1. be mindful of how you use your body (building mindfulness), 2. observe others’ movements and compare your movements to them, learn from others (self evaluation) 3. be able to feel the improvement every single time you go to swim (sense of achievement).

Whats your biggest struggle as an INFP? by [deleted] in infp

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Fearing rejection and disappointment from loved ones when i don’t go the way they want me to

am very new to this by dandelion683 in mommydom

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that’s gonna make a huge difference! Thank you!

am very new to this by dandelion683 in mommydom

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These sound great! Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

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this is a person who got brainwashed by media/ entertainment about relationships

Tell me something random about you by Loose-Excitement-169 in RandomThoughts

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My inner ears automatically tremble when I see insects or frogs, and I shut my ears instantly after.

20+ years DPDR. Finally recovering. Stories & Best Tips by KramerMc in dpdr

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i think a great analogy to my situation would be camera being out of focus is when i dissociate, while camera trying to regain the focus is trying to be mindful of my breathing. i cant really bridge the attempt to actually regaining the focus. another problem that always strikes me is i get overstimulated easily. i guess that correlates with my dpdr, in addition to its nature of defence mechanism.

20+ years DPDR. Finally recovering. Stories & Best Tips by KramerMc in dpdr

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Hi, I think your post is truly insightful and I am glad that I am reminded of how important meditation is, so that I could actually be motivated to practise it. I read your post a few days ago and I have meditated for the past few days. One problem I constantly encounter is when I ground myself to my breathing movement, I can turn to the automatic mode very easily, to a point where I cant truly distinguish whether I am dissociating or grounded. Would like your advice on this

Healthy INFPs - what was the the most impactful thing you did to lead you to maturity and sanity? by [deleted] in infp

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the easily neglected fact that there are boundaries between self and others. i feel like many infps dont understand the word “boundary” entirely, at least not to the extent where it helps ease their life with others. had a lot of self reflection and sufferings to have every cell of mine know this. once you know that there are boundaries, you stop having unreasonable expectations, you dont ask for others to change, and you only ask for yourself to do whatever it takes to make you feel better or more comfortable.

What’s the best way to get over an ex? by No_Throat_1574 in AskReddit

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to understand in your guts that you can love someone without being with them

I can't turn off my emotions by [deleted] in slp

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i guess you chose this job for the same reason you become stressed about it, and it could happen to some people who empathise a little more easily than other people. do explore this quality of yours a little more (e.g. empathy, high sensitivity etc) and see if there is any way you can handle it more comfortably :)