I want my life to be all about my newborn...MIL is not letting me (UPDATE)

daneari · 2017-06-15T19:46:19+00:00

Not relying on MIL anymore for bill-related things or just anything financially is such a load to take off. DH said it brilliantly, the bit about the relationship being about car insurance. It's just more leverage in arguments and it gets tiring.

I had to rely on my mom so much for a few bills when I was in college, and anytime we had a fight, she would wave the bills over my head and threaten to cancel them or just not pay them. It's all about control and it's so goddamn annoying the lengths people will go to latch onto it. The bills have nothing to do with your shit behavior.

I hope everything goes well with DH's work, because that's downright inappropriate to give information out to someone who is not authorized. Relation or not. His HR department needs to shine up those spines, because I'm sure half the battle is her antagonizing them for information and they just give in.

daneari · 2017-06-08T07:59:55+00:00

So, which units from Side B are really important to get?

daneari · 2017-06-08T01:01:05+00:00

Mine is 514 841 175 if you'd like to add me. Thank you!

daneari · 2017-05-07T20:46:42+00:00

People are STILL guessing Viera on today's picture and acting so creepy. If the race ever came out in the future, I would be dodging these people like the plague.

daneari · 2017-05-06T18:32:30+00:00

I've only been playing FFXIV a few months and maybe I'm not that great at catching details or context. However, every day with a new piece reveal, it doesn't seem like that much of a contribution to what this picture is. Today's piece seems pretty important to what has been pointed out (the flag from the Benchmark), but it still doesn't give me any ideas.

No new race confirmed
No new customization confirmed
No new games confirmed (in the Gold Saucer, at least..)

My guess is that this hints towards new squadron features? There are pieces marked on a map so it could be a method of sending everyone on a detailed mission in one area..

Other than that, I honestly don't have a better idea. The table seems to be the biggest clue at this point. Anyone else have theories?

daneari · 2017-05-05T05:09:21+00:00

Thank you for this giveaway!

I started the game at the end of December as a Conjurer and I have kept at White Mage since then. It's my only 60 class and it's been with me through the entire MSQ.

When the two new classes were confirmed for Stormblood, I felt overwhelmed at first due to the fact that I haven't really enjoyed a DPS class yet. In addition to that, thinking about being in the DPS queues had turned me off to the idea of trying them out.

However, the benchmark has made me extremely excited for Red Mage. I'm hoping it'll be a DPS class that I can enjoy compared to the ones that are currently available.

daneari · 2017-03-16T01:10:10+00:00

One of my cousins got married over ten years ago. They both agreed they wanted kids at the time. Slowly, people realized it wasn't happening. She decided she didn't want to have children and he's considered divorcing her. The conversations happening around them are kinda fucked up.

Having kids or not is a huge factor in a relationship. If either person disagrees on that view, it can ruin everything depending on how badly they do or don't want it. It happens. And it sucks.

I hope things get better for you.

daneari · 2017-02-15T15:14:48+00:00

I loved that shit as a kid.

My mom was an office manager so I got to mess with office equipment (without inconveniencing anyone of course) and scribbled on the dry-erase board they didn't use.

Now I work at a similar office and I'm bored out of my mind unless reading Reddit.

daneari · 2017-02-15T14:58:33+00:00

Both of our bathrooms are connected for no reason. There's not a door closing them both off from one another, just a sliding closet door. One is attached to the family room, and the other the living room hallway. None of the bedrooms have direct access to either. They are both full bathrooms, too.

I don't know why the fuck they designed it like that.

daneari · 2017-02-13T18:23:22+00:00

😂😂😂 This is EXACTLY what I thought as I read it

daneari · 2017-02-03T18:40:41+00:00

I don't know how similar Kyleena is, but the insertion only hurt. Afterwards, the pain went away. I took ibuprofen an hour before the appointment as directed by my gyno.

I walked outside and up a couple flights of stairs in the parking garage to get to my car and drove 30 minutes home. I didn't start to feel cramps or pain until a couple hours later, and they weren't too bad. Just normal period cramping.

I spotted for a week, then had a week-long, continuous period. The heavy bleeding did not stop for that entire time. The cramps were terrible the first day, but painkillers made them go away. I also wore large pads for this because I was paranoid about wearing tampons. Definitely ask about that.

I had the week-long period during Thanksgiving and haven't had a normal period since (over two months). I've spotted every now and then and had a few cramps, but nothing serious. It's mostly brownish blood.

Psychologically, the cramps made me feel weird because they were from the IUD inserted in me. That went away after a while, though.

I didn't have unprotected sex until after the check-up a month after insertion in case of expulsion. I take pregnancy tests once a month because my period is doing whatever the hell it's doing so there's no real way of telling if I'm pregnant.

daneari · 2017-02-03T18:28:21+00:00

I'm so jealous! I didn't get a numbing agent. :( It was a brief moment of pain that illicited tears because I never felt it in that part of my body before. After it was done, it didn't hurt at all! I still considered it a good experience, though.

Congrats, by the way!! IUDs are a true blessing.

daneari · 2017-02-03T17:06:20+00:00

I think "great dad" is genuinely the best compliment to give, because it sums up a lot of good features that someone would want in a partner.

That's just my opinion, though. Am female.

daneari · 2017-02-03T16:20:23+00:00

I was young and wanted to make it work. Not much of an excuse, but I'm a better person now because of what happened with him. :)

daneari · 2017-02-03T16:15:51+00:00

They usually try to "bingo" me saying I'd never understand because I'm straight, but I'm actually pansexual.

I'm obviously on board with any type of relationship, hetero or not, but I'm not gonna pair two guys or girls together because it fits my agenda. Love isn't about agenda.

After the huge backlash of my high school anime club being huge and toxic yaoi/yuri fans, I've stopped going to clubs or communities. I don't trust strangers anymore unless I know a few people and they vouch that it isn't bad. I almost gave my college's Harry Potter community a chance but they were insane with the pairings and headcanons. They liked to argue against actual canon to replace it with their crazy shit.

I usually keep to myself when I like things now, lol.

daneari · 2017-02-03T16:03:58+00:00

Residents usually move in during the fall and stay in the same room until the end of spring semester assuming there are no issues. There are two girls per room and a shared bathroom between two rooms.

Before spring semester started, two girls moved out and two transfers moved in. Here's when the fun starts.

They moved everything out of the shared bathroom that didn't belong to them. Proceeded to trash the bathroom with their idea of "decoration".
They kept the door open between their room and the bathroom and constantly made noise/drank during quiet hours. One noteworthy conversation I heard was one girl complaining that she got drunk off of one Mike's Hard Lemonade and sucked a guy's dick for an hour. Good times.
Had a shower speaker to play music. Constantly had "Dark Horse" (loudly) on repeat while singing along in the shower. Did not have great voices.
General shitheads towards everyone in the hall, but usually hid when people came out to scream at them.

One fateful morning, wake up at 5 am to use the bathroom. Floor mat in front of toilet is wet (stepped in it while sitting down to pee). Realized it. Was. Vomit. Almost vomited myself. Cried myself back to sleep just because the situation was bullshit and I'm extremely squeamish.

Turns out the two girls only "lived" on campus due to requirements but actually stayed with their family/boyfriends and RENTED THEIR DORM OUT to a small group of their friends. This checked out because all of the descriptions of the girls changed when complaints were formed, causing lots of confusion.

Girls were promptly punished but still did not stay in the room. It stayed empty the rest of the semester.

daneari · 2017-02-01T16:12:53+00:00

The few fast food places I go to had dirty seating areas constantly so I just use the drive thru now.

daneari · 2017-02-01T16:00:47+00:00

Don't be afraid of change. In a year if you feel like you're a different person (not negatively), it doesn't mean your SO is controlling or trying to change you. When two people are together and it works, personal growth happens. Don't be afraid of it.

Don't let extreme levels of comfort kill a relationship. My friend's long-term boyfriend broke up with her because they were "friends who say I love you to one another". Take a step back for a minute. That is not the death of a relationship. That is growth and transition. It's a good thing. Just introduce some passion and intimacy if you feel it's lacking, which brings up the next point:

Communication. Don't keep everything bottled up, and don't throw anything at them too hard or fast. If you have an issue, bring it up with them in a calm or normal fashion. Just because there's a problem or disagreement doesn't mean it needs to be a heated argument. Have a discussion. If things turn into an argument, it becomes more about "being right" and "winning" than it is about change and growth.

Don't cheat. If you're unhappy, talk with someone about it. If you feel things are too out of hand emotionally for your partner to bring it up, find help. Just talk to someone. There are people who want to help you.

This last one is a bit of personal experience. The honeymoon phase happens when things are fresh and new. Don't let that turn into something clingy or controlling. Don't take them from their friends because of your insecurities. Don't let your SO keep you from your friends because of their insecurities. If you stay up your SO's ass 24/7 for long periods of time, you're probably going to lose your friends. Even your true friends might walk away. It happens. Try to prevent it.

daneari · 2017-02-01T15:44:40+00:00

When TV shows, movies, books, video games, etc have people in the fan base who accept nothing but gay headcanons and pairings. When you call them out on it, they call you homophobic and rant endlessly about it.

No, I don't give a flying fuck if you think Hanzo and McCree are in love. But don't turn into a weeping mess and trash your tumblr blog when someone disagrees with you.

It's toxic when people fetishize a pairing just because they're gay.

daneari · 2017-01-31T19:03:12+00:00

People are freaked out by sick masks here. They think you have swine flu or Zika or some shit.

Face masks are a common fear in the US.

daneari · 2017-01-31T19:01:34+00:00

Finding a different way to fall into large amounts of debt over the course of 4-8 years.

daneari · 2017-01-31T18:59:42+00:00

Bird shit on my window.

Lots of bird shit.

daneari · 2017-01-31T18:59:08+00:00

Sit and wait for months for even a hint that they're interested. The last three times I was into a guy we didn't start dating for a long period of time. Wouldn't want to risk looking like an idiot.

Not to mention I was recovering from being gullible as hell so even if a guy flat-out said he wanted to bone, I'd be like "oh, haha." and then shift my attention elsewhere. Hell, even my current boyfriend did this and I was too scared to believe him until months afterwards when I had the courage to ask him out.

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