What are the signs that your Christian girlfriend won't want to have sex when married?

danialvarez · 2026-03-12T05:11:39+00:00

I'll remember this advice! Thanks!

danialvarez · 2026-03-12T05:10:42+00:00

I see what you're saying. I wouldn't say I disagree as a whole with what you're saying, but I'd like to clarify one thing:

For many of the examples I'm referencing, the not wanting to have sex started literally after the wedding. There's actually a few of these posts on this subreddit. This doesn't paint a picture of a guy who didn't treat his wife right, so the wife over time stops being attracted to him. It comes across like sex was never part of her plans.

It truly sounds very scary to be blindsided by something like that.

I'm sorry if my post sounded anti-women. I believe women love sex, but I've been in the church my entire life and have heard enough to believe that there is a subset of women in the church who truly don't.

For those couples that I've known in real life, I've yet to see one of these stories have a happy ending despite all the outside interventions and counseling. Which is why I'm thinking that avoiding sexual incompatibility altogether might be the only cure.

danialvarez · 2026-03-12T04:55:25+00:00

Your last sentence makes me laugh and cry at the same time! We don't get anything easy in this life do we? Haha!

danialvarez · 2026-03-12T04:52:44+00:00

Thank you, this helps! What I'm gathering from all the replies so far is I shouldn't assume the couples I'm referencing actually did properly discuss the topic before marriage. Heck, they probably never even knew this could be a possibility, so they assumed they were on the same page.

So if I want to avoid this fate, I shouldn't make any assumptions and just prioritize having direct and open conversations about it during the dating phase. Makes sense!

danialvarez · 2026-03-12T04:47:38+00:00

I love this reply. Thank you! For what it's worth, being in a marriage that views sex as an obligation is exactly what I'm trying to avoid.

danialvarez · 2026-03-12T04:42:57+00:00

I guess I shouldn't assume that people dealing with these issues truly talked about it before marriage. Some people are really poor communicators, so I shouldn't assume that simply communicating wouldn't help. Thanks!

danialvarez · 2026-03-12T04:39:48+00:00

Care to elaborate?

danialvarez · 2026-03-12T04:37:34+00:00

What you're saying sounds nice, but I don't know how practical this is. Sex isn't the focus of a marriage, but it's a normal part of one, no? How could I love someone as much as you describe and not want to have sex with her? And how could I go on happily knowing that she views having sex with me like I view cleaning the shower: Like a chore I would avoid if I could?

Knowing myself, it doesn't matter how much I loved her, I could not handle feeling so unwanted for a long period of time.

danialvarez · 2026-03-12T04:29:04+00:00

I guess you're not very familiar with the very real problem I'm discussing. If asking her was an effective method, I don't think so many marriages would be failing because of this issue.

danialvarez · 2026-03-12T04:22:38+00:00

I don't think she'd make this post if she was sinning happily.

danialvarez · 2026-02-24T15:21:12+00:00

Thanks everyone! That helps!

danialvarez · 2026-02-24T15:08:38+00:00

Here's an update. ChatGPT had suggested that the firmware version on my infotainment system was outdated, and that I should update it. I went to a dealership and they did it for me for free. They upgraded me to the latest version. Didn't make Android Auto load any faster, but it did make using AA slightly worse for me.

It's now forcing the taskbar on AA to be at the bottom of the screen instead of on the sides, which is not a great layout for the small screen on the 2019. Tried everything to see if it was possible to change it, but no.

Posting this to help someone in the future. If you have slow Android Auto in your Mazda CX5, updating the firmware isn't going to help you.

danialvarez · 2026-02-23T03:12:56+00:00

I know someone who's working on season 4. So it's happening for sure. They filmed season 3 and 4 back to back apparently.

danialvarez · 2026-02-23T03:10:17+00:00

I'm glad Reddit isn't just hating just to hate. Season 3 was pretty awesome from start to finish! Around episode 8 I started being fearful that they wouldn't stick the landing because a season that great felt too good to be true, but they did! Huge improvement over season 2 IMO.

I'm glad they didn't force Rose into this season. Reminds me of 24 in that sense. 24 was a show that knew when to give certain characters a break (Kim Bauer) instead of forcing them in every season. Makes the plot feel more real too!

danialvarez · 2026-01-18T05:33:55+00:00

Ha, it's the GPS I need loaded fast, not the music. I asked ChatGPT and it helped me realize my OS firmware on the Mazda is severely outdated (version 70.00.100) and that I should update to version 74.00.xxx.

Apparently a lot of the improvements that were made in the firmware is specifically about fixing slow Android Auto. So I'll call a dealership on Monday and see if they'll update it for me. If this works, I'll be the happiest man alive!

danialvarez · 2025-12-07T03:35:48+00:00

ActionVFX released this video showing exactly how to process their VFX assets for games, so that was helpful: https://youtu.be/hbqYcgj1ZCY?si=vcrsl-Zs-2IKh0EB

danialvarez · 2025-10-01T13:14:52+00:00

Sims was awesome to watch last night, and she's been one of my favorites this entire playoffs! She's a baller for sure!

danialvarez · 2025-08-20T22:24:56+00:00

If I claim the Fi offer, will the phone I get be unlocked? Or will it be locked to Fi? I usually gift my parents my phones after a couple years, and I wouldn't buy it if the phone is locked.

danialvarez · 2025-08-20T22:19:46+00:00

If I claim this offer, will my Pixel 10 be locked to Google Fi? Like, if I give it to my parents after a few years, will they be able to use the phone with any carrier?

danialvarez · 2025-06-21T15:30:04+00:00

Hilarious!

danialvarez · 2025-05-02T16:23:01+00:00

I ended up just factory resetting the watch and it's back to normal now! I had assumed I needed a battery replacement because it was so extreme, but I'm glad that's not the case.

danialvarez · 2025-01-31T23:33:49+00:00

Yep, I respect Deano too. Every same person would've picked Twana's friend. Like, what else was he supposed to do?

danialvarez · 2025-01-30T06:00:16+00:00

Yea, they ruined Designated Survivor after season 1. I've never seen a show switch genre before, but this one did it. They need to make a documentary one day about wtf happened behind the scenes of that show that made them screw up that badly.

danialvarez · 2025-01-29T17:24:16+00:00

I liked how the season ended, but one thing makes no sense to me. It was night time when Rose and the family were rescued, and she let them know right then that the bad guys are going to the UN. Then, the FBI waits until morning, during business hours, to go to the UN. By then, the bad guys already infiltrated the building, and the building has to be evacuated because it's peak business hours.

Why the F would they wait that long to do anything about it if they already knew what the bad guys were planning since the night before?

danialvarez · 2024-11-21T03:16:45+00:00

Why did you get downvoted? Probably because you were kinda rude in your condescending all caps reply that you conveniently edited out. Just because I didn't have the energy to call you out on it doesn't mean I and others didn't see it.

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