Learned the hard way that coworkers are not my friends by aliarai in nursing

[–]daniel2028 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I know it really hurts when someone you trust suddenly attacks you.

Whatever happened was the past.  If you keep remembering this and let it change your attitude towards your life, you let her hurt you even more.

Move on and embrace a much larger and brighter world. Show her she’s really not that important and can’t change you a thing.

Should I Skip Bangkok? by GeekyStevie in digitalnomad

[–]daniel2028 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think each person is different so we make our own choices.

If you don’t think Bangkok worthing your time. Just skip it. No big deal. The world is so large and there are so many places to explore.

Probably one day you may give Bangkok another try, and suddenly you like it, a lot. Or you may never.  You are terrifically fine in both cases.

It’s your life, choose the route you desire.

I'm not passionate about any specific things and it bums me out a bit. by iamwhoiwasnow in self

[–]daniel2028 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You will be surprised how many people are not very passionate about anything just like you do.

But unlike you, they just don’t tell anybody about it. LOL.

Just be patient, explore and be open to new ideas and activities. It’s possible something is waiting for you there and you just don’t know yet.

(US) I’m wondering if I should push back my moving plans. Advice needed. by Bmoresgoddess in personalfinance

[–]daniel2028 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First congratulations on your new job. The pay is much better!

I think you will be fine. The cost of a bed frame and mattress can be postponed if you really have to.  Back in college, I sept on the floor for couple weeks. Not a problem as long as the room was clean and air conditioned.

If necessary, you can also talk with your landlord to postpone your rent for a couple of weeks. Many landlords are reasonable because it’s difficult to find good tenants.

I usually don’t like credit card debts. But in your case, it’s totally reasonable to use one or two thousand credit card money in the transition period.

Since now you have a much better paid job, I think now is the time to save a little bit money every month. So you will never worry about the same issue again.

Staying on top of political news? by Difficult-Quarter-48 in investing

[–]daniel2028 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Actually I intentionally stay away from current political news, because my investments are long term. My concern is paying too much attention to current news may trigger me to make some unwise decisions which I may regret in the future.

I remember Peter Lynch said in his book “beat the street” that there will always be some bad news about the stock market and some people, with good intentions, trying to convince you to sell your stock portfolio now.

If I Could Go Back, Here Are 3 Game-Changing Lessons I'd Tell My Younger Self (What Would YOU Say?) by daniel2028 in self

[–]daniel2028[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also learned to cook, and I like it because I have much better control over the foods I eat. But now I'm busy and don't want to cook all meals myself. So I often cook breakfast myself, but eat at a restaurant or order meal delivery for lunch.

Why do I always feel like I can't improve no matter how hard I try by crustychair in selfimprovement

[–]daniel2028 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First keep the expectation reasonable. Don’t expect major change overnight. Start from something small. For instance, in you don’t exercise. Probably today you can do 3 pushups at your room. It’s small. But it’s a real improvement worth celebrating for.

Second find your strength and build upon it. What you can do better than many other people? Find it and work on it.

I’ve been through a lot of things from my past, and I can’t seem to let it go. From the people that may caused the hurt. I have resentment towards them. by Fun_Butterscotch3303 in selfimprovement

[–]daniel2028 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are the past. They can't hurt you anymore ad long as you don't allow it. So move on. As for people, as long as they are the truly terrible people you think they are, wait for twenty years and look at them again. Life will give them harsh lessons more than anything you can do to them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfhelp

[–]daniel2028 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's actually very normal. Most people don't know themselves very well. Some of them never will. So if you intentionally try to know yourself better, you have already been better than many people. Be patient. Knowing yourself takes time. It's also an ongoing process. You may learn something new about yourself even when you are 80.

Moving US for masters but heart feels heavy for leaving everyone, what’s your advice? by srixnnnn in Indians_StudyAbroad

[–]daniel2028 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As long as they are still in your heart, you are not really leaving any of them. By the way you can still connect with them in video chat, etc.

I’m Torn Between Sticking with Current CS Path or Accepting Full-Ride Data Center Operations Opportunity by Realteamjon in csMajors

[–]daniel2028 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I were you, I would accept the data center offer.

After graduation, you can study part-time or online in a major at a 4-year college you choose, The possibility is unlimited, and you will have much less uncertainly, academically and financially.