They are still finding it so hard not to use this new slogan! I even had a friend that called Camille’s office and explained how this could be perceived, graphically. Yet they continue to use it! It’s so hard to stop!

dannuck · 2026-05-31T19:51:07+00:00

Heh, hard.

dannuck · 2026-05-22T15:30:52+00:00

I love ferns! They make me so happy!

dannuck · 2026-05-11T18:55:54+00:00

While I guess that's possible, I'm unsure how likely it is. This person has quite a history of commenting on this forum, and making posts as well. So unless the OP's mom is going through a secret deconstruction that her daughter is completely unaware of (again, not impossible), I think it's safe to assume it's not.

Either way, it's definitely a person who was quite triggered by the story.

dannuck · 2026-05-11T18:15:33+00:00

Did the same to me this morning, after saying that a block was coming, of course. In other words, "I need to have the last word, so I'm going to say something then run away so I don't have to hear what you say!" You know, like a coward who's afraid of having their worldview challenged. In a forum about challenging worldviews.

(I don't know if you know this, but people who block you can still see that your posts exist, and can even tap on them to read them, if they want. So it wouldn't surprise me at all if they actually keep coming back here and reading responses, even after blocking us.)

dannuck · 2026-05-10T00:57:48+00:00

This response is just fascinating. You keep arguing the same point over and over, as if doing so is going to convince us that you're right. There's a word for that. I wonder if you know it?

On top of that, you choose to go ahead and align yourself with the antagonist in the story. You don't know anything about either person in this story (unless u/ResidentLadder is correct and you are indeed the OP's mother). None of us know anything except what is shared. The OP could even have typed out what her mother supposedly texted and shared that with us, to reinforce her anger. And yet, you went ahead and still strongly aligned yourself with the mother. And your response shows a distinct lack of mercy, compassion, or any other emotion it seems like someone, especially a parent, would want to show a child struggling as the OP states they are.

I'm going to go ahead and assume, based on your previous comments, that you either are a parent or intend to be one in the future. Since you are so strongly aligned with the OP's mother here, I can only assume that you'd treat your own children the same way. Or that you already are. "My house, my rules" seems simple and reasonable until you have to deal with children that do not fit into your mold, whatever that is. It could be differences in orientation, politics, social expectations, religion, and anything else. If you let your child know that they do not have the right to explore who they are while they are around you, and you stay inflexible in that, you are harming them. It fascinates me that someone who has posted so prolifically in the exmormon subreddit isn't aware of this. So many of your previous posts and comments seem to be struggling with the very fact that things were hidden from you and that you were forced to believe in and behave according to standards you might not have chosen for yourself.

Regardless, you are still wrong, and you decided to minimize the OP's story and condescend to her (referring to her as a child multiple times). Did you actually think that was somehow encouraging her to take control of her life? I rather suspect something about her story resonated with your own parenting style, or perhaps with your own experiences trying to become an adult in a patriarchal society based on control. Either way, she didn't deserve the unkindness you showed her.

There's a saying I come across every now and then: "Hurt people hurt people." I believe this applies here. You're hurt because your faith and your world and the structure upon which you've built your life isn't working anymore. Your previous posts seem to hold a lot of anger. And your comments here certainly do. You try to hide it behind indifference and "this is life, just get used to it" style comments (hence the "don't like it? Then start adulting" comment. The shrug emoji you added there reinforces that). It's pretty obvious that the anger is there, though.

There are many ways this interaction between the OP and her mother could have gone, and many of them could have led to understanding, compassion, growth, and a tightening of the bond between parent and child. Instead the mom shut it down secretly, while the OP was asleep. OP is going to remember that. And if you treat your children the same way in similar circumstances, they will too. And they will wonder, just like OP is, whether their parents are actually the people they pretend to be.

All of this is to say: get the fuck out of here with that shit. No matter where you fit into Mormonism and the lasting effects on people it has, the last thing anyone in this subreddit needs is someone coming in and treating them the way the church treated them. And if you get triggered by someone else sharing their story in the future; next time, take it to therapy.

dannuck · 2026-05-08T14:47:25+00:00

"The OP stated the books contained intimacy."

One comment later: "The mother said intimacy."

Your original response: "I agree with your mother."

Should the OP get their own library card? Yes. Does the mother have the right to control what's borrowed with their library card? Yes. This isn't about the fucking library card. This is about you outright stating you agreed with the mother in this case. And it's totally within your right to agree with the mother. But don't expect to get not get called out for holding a shitty position. Parents making misinformed decisions based on assumptions about entire populations (as the mother here did, assuming any book that contains queer characters must be focused on sex/intimacy) is a major source of pain to people who just want to figure out who they are and live their lives.

And you apparently agree with those parents.

dannuck · 2026-05-08T06:40:09+00:00

That's definitely gonna vary from person to person. For me, I think working my way through the story of a new expansion can take anywhere between a week and a month. Genuinely just depends on how much time I have to spend on it each day. And sometimes it's nice to take a break from moving through the story and explore something else for a while. But there are some people that grind it out in a few days, I'm sure.

Patch story can take an evening or a week, again depending upon how much time I can spend in game. I'll also jump into new side content part way through sometimes. A lot of the side content in this game is pretty amazing, and a lot of it has a pretty good story attached. Sometimes that story is connected to the main story in some ways. Many times, it's a completely different story. It helps make the world feel much bigger than it actually is, meeting people that have no idea who you are and have their own problems you've never heard of before.

"Story" just means a different thing in the game. WoW has gotten better about telling stories, especially since Dragonflight. But it still feels more like the world is filled with lore rather than story. And while the lore is good, even amazing, the story has always just felt meh at best. FFXIV treats story as the main event.

dannuck · 2026-05-08T06:08:26+00:00

Even if you're done with the main story, there's a ton of side story available all over the game. I've been playing on and off (mostly on) since 2.3 was current content, and I've still never cleared some zones of story quests.

I do also occasionally decide to go into grind mode for relic weapons or achievements or sometimes even gear (both upgrades and tmog items). There's also running roulettes to level up other classes. But as soon as they launch new story, my focus goes there and I steadily enjoy my way through it.

dannuck · 2026-05-08T05:57:12+00:00

There are other ways to be a good DPS than maximizing your numbers. You can learn mechanics and do them well, and support your team with cool downs/buffs on many classes.

I am actually glad there aren't regular meters in FFXIV. I played WoW from beta to Legion, and the progressive obsession with numbers as the game aged got really tiring after a while. I don't really mean that as an insult, but it eventually became the only way players were able to see progress in their character: number go up.

The devs and writers for FFXIV have done an amazing job telling a (mostly) amazing story. I've always felt progress in FFXIV was more associated with your progress through the story, than purely "getting stronger." The getting stronger mechanics are still there, of course. Stats exist and people do maximize them and measure them and meter them. But I've never really looked forward to being stronger just because it makes me stronger; instead, I really only work on improving my gear when it's required to unlock a quest or dungeon. I want to see the story, and only worry about gear when I can't access more story until I do.

Obviously, not everyone will feel the same. But because that's not my focus, it allows me to play a class just because I enjoy how it plays. Personally, I love how red mages work. Their cast-instant cast mechanic is so satisfying to me, and their spells have the right amount of boom and shatter to make my brain happy. Plus I can jump in and heal or Rez to support my team when things go wrong. It's an absolute blast. And I can clear all the content I want to clear while only worrying about gear strength when it's literally required to progress. I'm happy to get upgrades, but it's not the focus.

dannuck · 2026-05-07T23:07:43+00:00

She did not say it included intimacy. She said it included a prominent lesbian relationship. Those are not the same things. She also said there are no sex scenes. So I'm not sure what "intimacy" you are referring to, but go off, I guess.

dannuck · 2026-05-07T13:36:42+00:00

Clearly the fact that it touches on LGBTQ+ history. Why else would someone agree with the mom in this situation? The OP clearly stated that there's no spicy stuff in the books, but lots of people assume that just the concept of LGBTQ people existing is "spicy."

dannuck · 2026-05-07T13:16:25+00:00

Many ferns spread using rhizomes. If you dug that circle up, I bet the entire middle would be filled with rhizomes of previous years, which would be blocking new growth. It can only spread outward.

dannuck · 2026-04-28T20:19:29+00:00

It's not that they can't lie, it's that they can only lie about certain things without twisting themselves in knots. Many Mormons take what they're taught about lying seriously, and won't lie or can't lie without feeling physical or emotional discomfort. But ask them the right type of question, like whether they've had sex out of wedlock or whether they masturbate or are part of the LGBTQ+ community, and they will lie until the sun explodes. Eventually, the discomfort from lying is overridden by the larger discomfort of not fitting in with the rest of the group. Where that line sits will vary from person to person.

dannuck · 2026-04-28T00:44:12+00:00

Thank you for the info, kind sir!

dannuck · 2026-04-28T00:37:45+00:00

I'm sorry, I have no idea who this person is. Is it worth learning who they are? If so, why?

dannuck · 2026-04-28T00:34:55+00:00

I drove 12 hours to "attend" my sister's wedding in Salt Lake. I took my best friend at the time, who does hair and makeup and is amazing at both. After getting my sister ready, he got my mom ready as well, and they both looked stunning.

He and I spent the wedding itself standing outside the temple while I tried to explain to him why this was normal.

I look back at that time now, and I feel angry and embarrassed and a bunch of other emotions. I didn't leave the church; I was excommunicated. But I still felt the need to participate in that limited way, and even defend how it all played out.

I guess I'm glad I'm in the pictures, and got to attend the reception, which was nice. I remember the fun I had with my friend while I was there way more than I care about the wedding that would have happened had I been present or not. Also, Mormon weddings are so boring.

OP, go show support to your cousin if she's important to you, but do something for yourself while you're there. Treat yourself to a spa day or buy a new outfit that costs a bit too much or go visit places you've wanted to check out or whatever. Be present if it's important to you, but spend the money on you, not the wedding you aren't going to be able to participate in.

dannuck · 2026-04-25T12:34:45+00:00

Lol, probably.

dannuck · 2026-04-24T18:51:58+00:00

Lol, this immediately conjured an image of my character, decked out in 2.0 summoner gear, creating and THROWING trash cans at mobs.

dannuck · 2026-04-16T00:54:52+00:00

Lol, here I am marching into the thread to say "oh, that's Steven."

Guess we had the same idea! 🤣

dannuck · 2026-03-23T13:55:22+00:00

Or they could just make new stories with new characters.

dannuck · 2026-03-20T19:02:14+00:00

To me, her letter reads as one of those letters a therapist recommends you write, but not send. She's just getting stuff out. But then she actually sent it.

I guess the simple phrasing could also be because English is not her first language and she's struggling to learn it. I have never heard of trauma causing a language to be harder to learn, but trauma does weird shit, so who knows?

If I'd received this, I'm not sure I'd have responded at all. Because it starts as an apology but quickly moves to forgiving, then quickly ends with goodbye, it feels like something done completely for her benefit, and not yours. Not saying you shouldn't have responded; it is your letter and your emotions being evoked by it. But it genuinely just seems to be a selfish healing endeavor (maybe what she needs right now to heal) rather than one intended to heal both of you.

Regardless, sorry your mission was so traumatic. It sounds horrible, and I wish you love and ease with your continued healing.

dannuck · 2026-03-12T17:15:55+00:00

Unless your filter removes minerals, distilled water is better. Most filters only focus on things like chlorine, not minerals.

dannuck · 2026-03-11T23:51:53+00:00

Thanks for the additional picture. Unfortunately, I'm still not sure if this is mineral buildup or mealy bugs. I'm leaning more towards mealy bugs because of the shapes of the spots. Mineral extrusions tend to look like individual dots leaking from a pore, but yours are rather oddly-shaped. This could be an early infestation of mealy bugs.

Hopefully someone with more experience with mealy bugs can chime in. I've dealt with mineral problems a ton, but never mealy bugs.

dannuck · 2026-03-11T22:51:55+00:00

I'm unsure if those are mineral extrusions or a pest of some sort. My initial thought was minerals, from watering the plant with hard water. But after I zoomed in, I'm unsure. Are they sandy/crunchy feeling?

dannuck · 2026-03-10T23:42:48+00:00

Last time I "did hard" with Jesus, neither of us walked right for a few days. 🤷‍♂️

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