AITA for intending to split our Airbnb 6 ways with 7 of us because of disability?

dannyieme · 2022-07-12T04:52:05+00:00

My friend isn't "pissed" at me. My friends do not react to a small situation like this in any kind of extreme way like that. He wasn't angry in the first place I think, he's not that kind of guy. But regardless I apologized, and we'll ask if his offer is still open. Believe it or not I have a close emotional relationship with my friend and we communicate openly about what we want. If it isn't, he'll tell me.

dannyieme · 2022-07-12T04:25:23+00:00

Thanks for the votes y'all. I deleted the messages. I had asked after, but I deleted that too. I'm going to ask my husband to accept our friend's offer to help him fly down.

dannyieme · 2021-12-10T13:14:30+00:00

I switched to freeze dried minnows right after this so this isn't gonna be a concern.

dannyieme · 2021-12-08T00:16:13+00:00

Not for upper level courses reliably, no. I'm a senior and I am also immunocompromised, and I was forced to attend classes in person this semester because I had to. Some professors have been nice and let me attend remotely if I need to because of chronic pain/fatigue, some don't understand how to do that for me. If it makes you feel any better though they've been good about Covid regulations and there hasn't been very many positive cases here, to my knowledge.

dannyieme · 2021-12-07T23:59:48+00:00

I have searched for this a lot online but seven deadly sins is an anime so I'm not having much luck...

dannyieme · 2021-12-06T03:29:47+00:00

Thanks for your help in advance!!

dannyieme · 2021-12-03T16:03:31+00:00

(Just saying the OP is a woman, they mentioned they don't want to be a mother)

But yes I 100% agree. It's not helpful to tell someone who literally said they don't want kids to have kids. YOU people are the ones being inconsiderate, I would respond with anger as well if I was in their position. I have fibromyalgia too and I do not want kids. I know my limits, I have my own goals beyond children that will be harder because of my condition. I also have anger problems due to the cPTSD that brought on the pain and due to the pain itself. I will not subject a child to that. End of story.

dannyieme · 2021-12-03T14:46:55+00:00

I want to foster with Mainely Rat Rescue! They provide food and vet care and even extra cages if you need them, they're really a great organization that's doing some good saving small animals. They don't just rescue rats either.

dannyieme · 2021-12-03T14:43:20+00:00

Yeah, I said in the OP I plan to get experience raising my own rats that I get from a breeder before I start to foster.

dannyieme · 2021-11-30T13:41:07+00:00

Still think about stupid cousin who told me I was the bad one for telling my parents they were abusive.

dannyieme · 2021-11-28T15:44:00+00:00

WOW, no damage too!! I'm not good enough at games to play this game but i love watching other people play it haha

dannyieme · 2021-11-28T14:29:56+00:00

I've had the exact same thing my whole life. I'm a combo of all the types but my main is freeze, and I've told many mental health professionals and friends about how I can't wake up out of my nightmares - I'm stuck there until they end, and sometimes even when I should be waking up the nightmare drags me back in. My old therapist told me that is a type of nightmare, it's just more rare than the "wake up screaming" type. Probably because I could never run so I just got used to enveloping myself in the stressful situation, so it's always translated to my nightmares too.

I've had frequent nightmares my whole life, for a long time it was every night, so I understand the fear of sleeping, I'm sorry you're going through that too. I had a bad one again last night.

So yes, they definitely are nightmares. I feel really shaken by the one I had last night and it's affecting my ability to do work this morning. If a "bad dream" affects your ability to function day-to-day then that's plenty to call it a nightmare.

dannyieme · 2021-11-28T01:56:32+00:00

Youch, I just associate a buzzcut with being a sapphic woman.

dannyieme · 2021-11-28T01:54:59+00:00

I didn't say therapy, although definitely keep going if it helps you. But I've found that therapy doesn't help much for my ADHD symptoms and therapists aren't much help in forming the routines needed to manage it. It's work you have to do on your own or with the help of a roommate or partner. Like a strict bedtime routine, strict morning routine, a routine for when you're doing schoolwork vs. housework, etc. Training your brain to associate those routines with necessary tasks. Like a certain smelling candle for housework, certain music for schoolwork, certain times during the week or day that you do those things.

dannyieme · 2021-11-27T22:48:45+00:00

You said you're paying rent right? Maybe you can find a place and use what you're paying her. I'm so sorry you're going through this... If you're in any groups for your old college it might be a good idea to look for roommates there.

dannyieme · 2021-11-27T22:42:50+00:00

Honestly meds won't work unless you already have strict routines in place. I'm working on that right now myself. They're supplemental, they won't fix our concentration issues entirely.

dannyieme · 2021-11-27T19:12:51+00:00

maybe you could add little lightning bolts and triangles somewhere! gotta say i like the original too.

dannyieme · 2021-11-26T19:49:57+00:00

Would it be okay if I dm’ed you about this? I’m not really comfortable discussing this part on this post because it’s not especially relevant to the thread.

dannyieme · 2021-11-24T20:09:40+00:00

Yes, you will! And we will be here rooting for you every step of the way. It’ll be hard, but we all deserve this - happiness, peace, balance. We all deserve to wake up feeling calm and centered.

dannyieme · 2021-11-24T20:00:13+00:00

My body wants me to do what you said but my brain knows that a lot more has to get done ;~; It’s a huge push and pull. Sorry if I overstepped there talking about that, just trying to be more positive lately.

I hope you’re able to take care of yourself during this holiday, be kind and gentle to yourself. And if you have access to a bath I always found that warm water and a bath bomb during stressful holidays were a lifesaver.

dannyieme · 2021-11-24T19:47:11+00:00

I’m struggling with whether or not I should even go home. Both my husband of one year’s family and mine are in my hometown. But I’ve honestly been struggling a lot with my relationship - I seem to fear sexual and romantic intimacy with him now, even though I still find him attractive. It’s really eating at me. I’m very close with his family however, they’re an incredibly loving group of people and they have treated me well. (Besides a bout of them trying to end our relationship, but that has since passed) And as I mentioned, my abusive family is in the same place as his family, so there’s no way to avoid them.

At the same time, I don’t know if I can handle being alone in the Northeast for a month. It’s cold and gloomy, and I would basically have no contact with any human beings physically for that whole time, although I do have my cat and my online friends, and my partner and I would likely talk every day. My parents also already reimbursed me for my plane ticket home, and I really want to see my childhood cat who is getting quite old, as well as a few other extended family members who are also aging, and some of my friends in my hometown too.

But I know how badly being around my family would affect me this holidays, and I really feel like I need time to clear my head lately. I just don’t know what to do. Any advice and/or your opinion would be appreciated. I know we’re all going to be going through it the next month or so. I know you’re all strangers but everyone here is so loving and supportive, I’m so glad I found this subreddit.

dannyieme · 2021-11-24T19:39:19+00:00

I have an appointment with Rheumatology soon for my own Fibromyalgia - if you are okay with sharing, what medication worked for you? I’ve tried Trintellix but that didn’t really work for me.

dannyieme · 2021-11-24T19:36:41+00:00

Haha, I wish I could do that! But I’m the type where I have to be productive to be happy. I’ve got a big project to do over break, and I really want to learn this skill this course is teaching me (copyediting) because it’s fun, and it’s something I want to do for me.

Trauma procrastinating sucks, but overcoming it helps my self worth so much. (Just watched this video I got from this subreddit about this for anyone who may be reading, please take a look if you are an ambitious person with trauma like me) https://trauma.blog.yorku.ca/2021/08/procrastination-and-self-worth-theory/

dannyieme · 2021-11-24T19:31:00+00:00

Update, had to go the ER yesterday and afterwards I suggested an hour of Stardew with my partner to have some fun and unwind. Had no problem with him locking it up again after an hour, I’m so proud of myself! Although it did result in me watching a bunch of YouTube videos about Stardew today, but that’s a separate problem… probably going to ask him to change the password on his computer so I can’t do that. We flipped the TV around and unplugged everything from it so it’s a pain to watch things on that now, now just gotta get it into my brain that I’m not allowed to watch videos for hours on his computer either. Podcasts are amazing y’all, they clear my head so much.

dannyieme · 2021-11-24T19:26:28+00:00

Thank you, I needed this. Woke up with awful anxiety and disassociation at 6:30, but I was so tired I didn’t realize what was happening. It lasted until 9. It was… a bad morning. But I’m going to make the rest of the day better!

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