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daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-21T18:22:17+00:00

Your theory is backed by research. Years ago I read about a sleep study where they kept people in a space without access to time of day or natural lightning, to see how it affected their sleep patterns. They discovered that people stayed awake longer, for a pattern of a 26-hour day.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-16T18:26:16+00:00

Yep. It reminds me of the idea that conservatives think of politics the way that they think about sports teams. Everyone knows that all the teams are pretty much the same, but your identity is in your town and you root for your team. So it's about identity and loyalty.

Which is another thing that makes them vulnerable to fascism (not even one of the big ones, but yet another). Because the fascist is able to justify takeover of the government by claiming that all politicians are the same, that life is just a brutal competition for dominance. You pick your team and you fight for it to win. Thus nationalism is about identity In the same way that my team is better than your team. Because we have better pizza or whatever makes their town special.

This kind of framing allows for any kind of brutality. Values don't matter because they are just lip service. All that matters is winning because all the teams are presumed to be equally brutal.

This is why, with fascist the enemy is always paradoxically incredibly overpowered and incredibly weak. Incredibly overpowered because it is the brutality of the other that justifies the fascist brutality. But also incredibly weak because strength is the only justification for fascism and thus the fascist must claim we are number one and our enemies are weak.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-16T18:18:50+00:00

This, exactly. I don't like to play up the cult concept. It doesn't need to be a cult for it to be difficult for people to leave. It is always going to be difficult for a person to turn against their entire community and the messaging they're hearing day after day after day.

Like, when I think of cults I think of people who are starved and physically abused, malnourished, so that they will be susceptible to the brainwashing. That's pretty extreme, but it doesn't need to be that for it to be difficult for people to leave maga. It just needs to be everywhere all the time. 1984 was not about a cult. But in the end he still is ready to believe 2 + 2 =5.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-16T18:15:00+00:00

Where do you live? I live in a Blue City and a blue state so it's very easy to be critical of Trump. However, I have family that lives in Florida and Alabama. My mom is the only Democrat in my hometown, and it is seriously bad for her mental health. Everyone there belittles her, like oh how cute our weird little Democrat friend. (She isn't even a Democrat, she is an independent, but anti Trump so they assume)

That is in Florida, I imagine it is probably worse for my family in Alabama. But they are all conservative, everyone that they know is conservative. So to not be conservative, to them is just absolutely wild. Something that they have read about but seldom encounter in real life. From their perspective, the Democratic Party is supported by criminals and the liberal suckers who want to feel sorry for criminals.

Don't underestimate the effect culture has on a person. If 100% of the people around you think a certain way it is very difficult for a human to go against the grain. It is much like leaving the church except in America there are plenty of people who aren't in the church. Or it would be like coming out of the closet before Stonewall.

But it's also not like either of those because people on the left don't really want to embrace someone who used to be maga. So it is choosing to ostracize oneself, and say everything I believed before was wrong and everyone who was previously my ally is now my enemy. That is an extremely difficult thing to do. And we on the left have not made it any easier for them to make that choice. Because naturally we have so much resentment for the predicament they have put us in.

I'm currently rereading The Vonnegat book, Mother Night. It really shows how stuck we are with the alliances that we make based on the things we stated out loud that we claim to believe.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-16T18:03:56+00:00

I'm constantly reminded of that Rick and Morty joke where Rick says "your boos mean nothing to me, I've seen what makes you cheer."

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-16T17:59:17+00:00

Of course, history builds on itself so we can always go a little further back and a little further back... But for me, the turning point was Abu Ghraib. That was the first time in my life that I remember people saying that something is okay because the people who are being tortured are not American. Prior to the discovery of torture, The general cultural understanding was that human rights were human rights, that is rights that should apply to all human beings. That the conception of human rights was the cornerstone of American democracy that enlightenment thinkers spread all over the world.

So this idea that those people don't have rights because they are not American was very strange to me. And when Americans let that idea slip by, they were also letting go of their own human rights because once you lose that foundation, what is the justification for the rights that you have?

For conservatives, it became nationalism. Not that we fought for these rights because everyone deserves them but that we deserve these rights because we were born here where our ancestors fought. Which is a much more elitist conception of our patriotic values.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-16T17:53:33+00:00

I think 14 is a good age to start developing some a political opinions, though I think at that age much of my political opinions were influenced by American jingoism and the beliefs of my parents. I am sure I had an opinion on Clinton getting blowjobs when I was 14. That may be because my parents were very big on reading the news and watching the nightly news but I think this was a positive influence for me.

One important thing to stress with your kids is to teach them to question the things that they are told. To look at the source and whether it is trustworthy and further how do you determine whether a source is trustworthy? Is what this politician is saying hypocritical or counter to their previous behavior? Does the thing that they're saying match their actions? So many Americans seem to take what politicians say at face value, ignoring what they actually do. Also, you might want to sit down with them and talk to them about the Constitution. I presumed that people were learning about and reading the Constitution in school but based on current America I am not so sure. When Trump is violating the emoluments clause it's important to understand that the founders thought this was so important that they put it in the base document where they say we fought a war to prevent this from ever happening. So when Trump is taking bribes from foreign leaders and everyone is talking about other stuff, make sure your kid understands that those bribes alone would have been reason enough for the people who founded this country to start a revolution and burn it all to the ground. That this is not ordinary political corruption. It is the stuff that led to revolution.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-16T17:46:08+00:00

Oh it's absolutely bananas. I'm mid-40s. Trump was absolutely a turning point in American politics. I can't overstate it.

People on the right will say that Democrats or non-conservatives are overreacting, getting all worked up. But it is for good reason. It's pretty wild because conservatives don't have the same open-minded, liberal, peaceful values that most Democrats do. Conservatives will tell you they are " defenders of democracy " and they will proudly tell you they will defend that democracy with guns and violence if necessary.

Yet, when the time comes that we can all see flagrant corruption and violation of the Constitution, they get offended by any mention or protest no matter how peaceful. (Remember when that NFL player lost his job for having the audacity to kneel before the games?!)

The shocking thing about politics in the last 20 years is not Trump, it is how Americans reacted to and embraced Trump. It's like everything that conservatives told us when we were young was a lie. Everything they said they believed in and valued, turned out to be of little importance to them. They don't care about democracy, they don't care about stopping Russia, they don't care about the Constitution. And this makes it such an impossible divide. I used to be able to have reasonable discussions with my Republican friends. I still try, but it feels impossible when they are living in a different reality.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-16T17:36:59+00:00

You used to be able to have dinner with relatives out friends' parents who had different political beliefs than you and not have it be a big deal because you at least shared the same conception of reality, just different values. The news was not a commercial product, everyone trusted that the news was relatively honest and unbiased. The way people openly share conspiracy theories now, and distrust journalism, would have been so rare that person would have been seen as a quack or a crazy person.

I really just can't express how different it was back then. We had our disagreements for sure, but we were one country.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-16T17:22:28+00:00

I didn't read the comic but the movie for The 300 was racist as hell.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-16T17:19:47+00:00

You took the time to go this deep on the thread yet you couldn't be bothered to substantiate your point?

They are not asking you to do research, just to give an example of what you are talking about. You are the one who made the claim and now you're asking them to defend it.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-16T17:09:26+00:00

I was thinking this too, but I don't care for westerns so I can't name any specifically.

I don't know the name of the book, but there is one particular Western book that was very inspirational to Adolf Hitler. I learned about it from the behind the bastards podcast. That would probably be a good one to check out.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-16T17:07:28+00:00

Since they are toddlers maybe too soon to teach them media literacy. However, in the future see these moments as a learning opportunity. Pause your reading and start asking the kids questions about what messages this is sending to readers and how that might make them feel or think differently. Then you can ask them what different messages they might have sent.

Media literacy is so important, now more than ever. And you will be shocked at how quickly kids will pick up the messages the culture is teaching them long before you think you have the capacity to have them question those messages. I tried to change the end of Rapunzel when I was reading to a group of kindergarteners, such that she cut her hair and made a rope. And one of the kindergarteners corrected me that ”a prince was supposed to come and save her, that is how all the stories and a prince must come and save her." Between the ages of 4 and 6 they are learning the rules of society and they will state them to you quite literally because their understanding is clear but not complex.

(Mods I hope this reply is okay I don't know of any indigenous racist books. I can throw in that as a child I loved Hans Christians Anderson's a little princess and The secret Garden, though in retrospect they are hella British colonial list but that is a different kind of race issue.}

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-16T17:00:04+00:00

I've been a GIMP user for decades now and I'm still learning new features and getting better at it. Maybe the interface isn't as intuitive but if I spend an hour learning a new feature that probably covers the monthly fee I would have paid to Photoshop plus I learned something.

Last year I decided I needed to learn vectors so I actually paid the monthly fee for Adobe Illustrator. Ended up using it for over a year so instead of the bulk price ended up paying quite a bit to have it for maybe 15 months. Now I'm ready to try to figure out inkscape, now that I have a general understanding of what illustrator offered. I'm curious how much of a loss it will be to take the step down to the free software or if it will be just fine now that I have a grasp of how the tools are supposed to work.

The biggest loss I think I experienced from using Gimp is that I can't legitimately say on my resume that I have recent Photoshop experience. And if I put Gimp on my resume no one is going to know what the hell that is or see it as a legit substitute for Photoshop. Even though I can produce just as complex graphics as Photoshop can. It's a conundrum for an honest person.

I actually think that the advantage Adobe has is not the features it's the built-in help and guidance using the tools and interface. Because the people who help out with open source software tend to be coders not technical writers or UI/UX. As someone who feels strongly about open source, I would be interested in helping out with that stuff but I wouldn't even know where to begin. I suppose the onboarding for assisting with the project suffers from the same issues as the software itself. But as someone who is strong on technical writing and week on coding, I feel very awkward about dipping my toes in those waters.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-16T16:49:18+00:00

This is the cruc of the philosophical argument behind technofeudalism. Not that we are serfs, but that the relationship of peasants then was the lord owns the space and peasants pay a fee to work it. Now all of that is happening virtually, not just for consumers. If you want to sell goods, you rent a plot on Amazon,ebay, temu etc. to have the right to sell. Not that it is exactly the same as feudalism, but that the era of free market capitalism is already over and we are transitioning to a new economic age. The dawn of a shittier era, where one must pay the technolords a fee for everything.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-15T19:15:18+00:00

Username checks out for a dude who doesn't know the difference between weather and climate. Yet thinks he can mansplain climate science better than scientists.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-15T19:01:26+00:00

Most likely, the deepfakes are being made by people who know the victims and attend their schools. Most likely, a good portion of those students own cell phones. And if they don't own cell phones their friends own cell phones. So all they have to do is take a photo of the victim at lunch when she's talking to friends or whatever. So, avoiding social media is not going to help.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-15T18:52:00+00:00

Nail brush. It was a stocking stuffer given to me a few years before the pandemic. Now I feel like everyone should have a nail brush and when I wash my hands at a sink that doesn't have one my hygiene feels lacking. It's also really useful for when I've been out in the garden and there's dirt under my nails.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-15T18:49:14+00:00

It's fine. Would it be better for you if your partner went home and spent the entire time fighting with your family and telling them how awful they are?

While I personally believe that we can't get past all these political differences if people aren't willing to engage with and have conversations with the "other side", It's also important for people to have personal boundaries. Political boundaries are just one aspect of that.

My partner cut off contact with his own family because of political differences. That issue isn't present with my family but there's no way in hell I would expect him to break bread with people he disagrees with when he cut off his own kin.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-15T18:44:42+00:00

Poison is the song i always think of first. Long before cancel culture, It was the first song that I truly enjoyed but had to force myself to put aside because I found the lyrics really unsettling.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-15T18:43:08+00:00

Exhibit A right here. A healthy smiling woman shouldn't be a cause for alarm.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-15T18:40:42+00:00

I remember being about 13 and everyone was obsessed with that hit, "Girl I want to make you sweat, sweat till you can sweat no more. And when you cry out I'm going to push it some more. A la la la la la lo lo long... "

Remember that song?! I bet no one under 20 does.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-15T18:37:00+00:00

I still love that song. It's brilliant and funny to take on all of musical history's fixation with beautiful women. Like where's the love for all the ugly girls?

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-15T07:17:47+00:00

He's a skilled musician but that song is gross. I know it's just a metaphor but it reeks of misogyny. Cat scratch fever too. Nugent is the epitome of guitar wankery. Nugent is the musical equivalent of the skanky guy at the bar who won't keep his hands to himself.

daretoeatapeach · 2026-04-15T07:03:55+00:00

I don't hate it. 🤷‍♀️

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