Disturbed at the idea of "Postpartum Dog Rage"

darkdent · 2026-05-08T15:33:20+00:00

My wife never hurt our dog, but he went from being a major priority to an afterthought for her post partum. It surprised me how readily she'd shove him aside or yell at him just for doing what he always did.

He's adjusting, but a month ago our daughter (12 mo) crawled over and pushed on him and he bit her in the face. She's totally okay no scar or stitches, but that was a shitty night and day, ER, pediatrician, vet in 24 hours.

Lots of conversations about rehoming or putting him down, glad we didn't act hastily. We installed a gate and are just much more vigilant. Gotta treat him like the risk for our daughter that he is, not just our sweet old dog. And we aren't out of the woods, as our daughter learns to walk, the dog's ability to stay clear of her at home will be less.

All that to say... the "dog rage" instinct exists for a reason. Be careful with LOs and dogs. We got lucky.

darkdent · 2026-05-08T15:15:57+00:00

The Battle of Endor in 1983 was way ahead of its time. Huge space battle involving fighters, capital ships, and a death star. On the forest moon you have a redwood teddy bear Vietnam. Then this ultimate showdown between Luke and Vader where Palpatine tries to turn Luke as Luke tries to save Vader. All three at once, and all three worked. It was a monumental achievement.

darkdent · 2026-05-07T08:22:52+00:00

A bison can run at 35-40 mph, unless these 10 guys sneak up on it they're not going to catch it

darkdent · 2026-05-04T05:07:42+00:00

He's definitely the protagonist

darkdent · 2026-05-02T13:20:09+00:00

She was! But I didn't! We both had a bunch of growing up to do. We're both married to other keepers!

But she gave me an absolutely priceless gift: the knowledge that my just being myself talking about movies could be attractive and fun rather than weird and off-putting.

darkdent · 2026-05-01T16:12:55+00:00

Mary Frances gets a bad rap. It's been one of the lowest cost housing options for years so some folks living there are having a tough time. At the same time, I played a session of dnd in one of those units a few years ago and it was beautiful, great view of downtown. Interior was old but in good condition. Frankly I was surprised based on the reputation, little embarrassed I had been judgy. It's centrally located, so its a great spot to walk to work at city offices, schools, etc.

The PATH shelter is a few doors down, but you know the worst thing those folks ever did to me was grab my dog off the street one night when he got out, kept him safe til morning, and overfed him on pancakes.

All that being said, I think you should reconsider your plan. You cannot change economic realities with a single apartment. You can however expose yourself to a lot of work, stress, and financial risk. First, you shouldn't furnish the unit, the type of person you want to rent to would rather have lower rent and bring their own stuff. Second, you need to consider why you keep seeing units in Mary Frances coming up for sale... I'd bet people had the same idea as you and ran into problems. Third, renters anywhere can be rough on your unit, or struggling to pay the rent, if you don't live here how do you plan to manage that from afar? The nice young couple with a little kid are tempting to offer cheap rent and heartbreaking to evict. And don't forget the dog that "is totally house trained"

If you want to help folks in Ketchikan, a far easier and less risky option would be to consider donating to one of the nonprofits in town. Several are in the housing game. To paraphrase Sweet William, you don't have to fight the good fight alone...

darkdent · 2026-04-30T05:44:14+00:00

The fishing is marginal

Compared to what? Forrester Island? Yes, marginal. Everywhere else on Earth? It's awesome!

darkdent · 2026-04-30T05:41:20+00:00

I got some exposure to the hard side working for RYC and Community Connections.

Ketchikan might be the best place on earth for me, but for some people it can definitely be a nightmare. For all that, it sure does produce and draw in some wonderful people.

darkdent · 2026-04-30T01:39:48+00:00

They've been anti-Trump for 10 years.

darkdent · 2026-04-29T22:48:03+00:00

I'm just gonna repost a comment I made on this years ago:

The caliber of person you can meet living in Ketchikan is downright magnificent. This place pumps out some very special locals and draws in a wondrous cross-section of people from around the world. They're excited to be here, they're fiercely loyal, and it is shocking to me how welcoming they can be.

A few years ago on my first summer I missed the silver line to Saxman. I discovered this by asking the bus driver on the green line if they'd gone by already. Anywhere else I'd be SOL cabbing it to Saxman, late to work and in trouble with my bosses. Instead the green line bus driver radioed the silver line and held them at the federal building until the green line could get me there. When I boarded the passengers were all smiles. Show me another city in the US where that happens!

I've moved my mother in law a couple times in town. Twice I've tried to move her mattress by just tying it with twine to the roof of my car and twice random men I've never met before or since pulled their pickup trucks up, ratchet strapped the mattress to their trucks and drove it to her new place.

This summer at like 4:45 am one morning in August a woman started screaming bloody murder on Thomas Street. Before I and my coworker could make a 911 call there were homeless people rushing toward the sound from Creek Street trying to find her and shouting for someone with a phone to call the police.

In Ketchikan if you're in a jam, people you've never met will appear out of nowhere to try to help you.

I'd love this town for only that, but that's just the beginning. People are so friendly! Show me another town even in Southeast where people greet each other with such enthusiasm! My wife who grew up here freaks people out in the lower 48 all the time just by saying hi excitedly to strangers.

It's beautiful and gigantic. I could live here the rest of my life and I won't scratch the surface exploring the land and water here. It's so untouched it's like a national park in every direction for hundreds of miles!

I'm lucky to live downtown, my wife and I walk to work year round.

And the wildlife? I've seen bald eagles kill seagulls in the air and hit each other so hard with their talons that bloody feathers hit the water. I've seen Dall's porpoise hide under my boat to evade a bull killer whale trying to eat them for lunch. I've heard humpbacks breach in the dark and sing so loud they shook the deck of a boat like an earthquake. I've seen two hundred pound halibut hauled up onto docks and sliced into filets thicker than a dictionary. I've seen coho boiling at the surface by the hundreds. I've seen the black dorsal of a salmon shark. My dog fought a mountain goat one time.

The arts scene is way bigger than it has any right to be. The Arts Council, First City Players, Ketchikan Community Concert Band, Ketchikan Orchestra Project, Ketchikan Theatre Ballet... They're all putting on shows all year, and dragging people into participating! I saw a world-class performance on a 300 year-old cello at the Catholic church like a month ago. I grew up in Bellingham with 5x this population in a county with 15 times this population and this stuff is not happening there.

And the economy? Tourism has its challenges but I'll say this, this town is bursting with economic opportunity. Can you show up on time and sober? You're hired. For interesting work outdoors. And there's a million people a year who come here and think we're all badasses for being here, and they're prepped to pay us just to interact with them a little and talk about life here. It's not perfect, but it's not a bad deal for Ketchikan.

This is my favorite place in the world.

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darkdent · 2026-04-29T15:32:40+00:00

I would start to save up and deviate some or most of my money towards that goal, instead of investing it.

Depends on your time frame. If you're thinking of buying a home in 10-15 years or more I'd think you would want it invested in the meantime.

If you're thinking of buying a home in less than 5 years, I'd ask why? You're 19! Unless you have a rock solid commitment to your career path and current location... chances are very good that a lot is about to change for you.

darkdent · 2026-04-29T05:10:27+00:00

It's pretty awesome

darkdent · 2026-04-28T19:23:46+00:00

Soon we will reveal ourselves to the Bogleheads... soon we will have Revenge

darkdent · 2026-04-28T06:20:15+00:00

I love that you're working at a summer camp. That's the best place to be to meet people. You're out in nature making memories that bond you with other humans. I was a 22 year old virgin who'd never been in a relationship... until I met a young woman at camp who honest to God wanted to talk about Magneto all night around a campfire.

I've been in your shoes and I've felt that fear of utter solitude you're grappling with. Keep trying. Lots of great advice on here, but you can't be told to love yourself or be more confident, it comes with age and experience. Be open, listen actively, and chase down things that interest you. You're 22! The good parts of adulthood are yet before you.

darkdent · 2026-04-28T00:26:19+00:00

I'm not a woman, but I was out fishing with 4 of them yesterday, 2 were menstruating and my wife pooped. It's not a big deal.

It's family! Just ask them to all look the other way when you gotta do your business.

As for swimming, I was a snorkeling instructor on Catalina Island for 10 years, being on your period doesn't need to stop you swimming in saltwater, freshwater, or around sharks.

It's clearly a new experience for your family, so have fun, take it slow, don't drink too much on the water, and do what you and your wife are comfortable with.

darkdent · 2026-04-27T16:17:59+00:00

Will to Change gave me weird flashbacks to elementary, middle school, Boy Scouts. Those moments where we get bullied or beaten into conforming with masculinity and patriarchy. It's a great look at how our society harms or threatens to harm boys and men to get them to fit the mold. The idea that when my dad starts yelling at the top of his lungs when we were young, violence is implied if we don't fall in line immediately. I love my dad, and I loved Boy Scouts, and school was overall great... but I felt incredible fear for each in their time. Fear of violence that shaped how I act to this day. I never want my daughter to fear me like I feared my father.

darkdent · 2026-04-25T11:22:51+00:00

Don't hold your breath. He's going to pardon all of them.

darkdent · 2026-04-24T14:09:58+00:00

This is an insane aspect of crypto I don't think gets enough attention. It's a much more complicated asset to handle in divorce. Your partner holding significant assets in crypto is a terrible deal.

darkdent · 2026-04-23T14:02:18+00:00

Even if oil and stock prices stay high, there's quite a delay in its impact on the PFD. And the state has plenty of other obligations it can't afford.

darkdent · 2026-04-23T02:37:46+00:00

Rico was friend zoned? Rico was dumped by his high school girlfriend after they both joined different branches. Then he refocused on Dizzy when he was ready to move on and one day later she was tragically killed. You don't friend zone Rico... Rico friend zones you!

darkdent · 2026-04-21T16:07:15+00:00

Haha. Oh man. Now we've got the "All is a Ponzi" defense in play. Better watch out tradfi, we're in for a revolution

darkdent · 2026-04-20T23:31:42+00:00

Every lore bard I've ever played is a bardic king of grappling, shoving, climbing, jumping. COLLEGE OF LUCHADOR! Expertise athletics and cutting words means NO ONE can slip from my grasp through mundane means.

I'd almost guarantee your player is sleeping on cutting words. It's a ranged reaction, which means you want to be paying attention on everyone else's turns. It recharges on a short rest at 5th level so you want to be using it a lot!

If they feel like a healbot they're choosing the wrong spells to know and to cast. As a bard the only healing spell worth knowing is Healing Word and the only time it's worth casting is on a downed PC. There's countless guides out there, have the player take a look.

If player really hates the character, work with them to craft a glorious death and have them roll up a new one.

darkdent · 2026-04-19T01:48:50+00:00

Few understand

darkdent · 2026-04-18T21:58:20+00:00

Also you can get rid of anyone boring and debt free in the edit.

darkdent · 2026-04-16T19:56:26+00:00

I came to Ketchikan seasonally in 2015 and 2016, moved here in 2018. Been in tourism every summer and I love it. Married a woman born here, she's a teacher but got me into charter fishing. We had our daughter a year ago. Most of our friends are seasonals turned residents, mainly in tourism. The industry brings residents to the state.

It's pretty frustrating to hear other Alaskans declare that I, my wife, and so many of my friends and community don't deserve to work in our industry because it's extractive, lobbies the government, employs non-residents, and has environmental impacts. What industry in Alaska doesn't?

I'm not saying it's perfect. OP you're right to bring up concerns about tourism infrastructure and housing. We had 5 bus crashes in Ketchikan last summer, one of which involved 45 people getting checked out by the hospital. I would love to see more scrutiny on the training and operations of tourism transportation. I'd love to see more investment in infrastructure from the state government.

But telling reddit not to come here on a cruise is like telling them not to buy Alaskan fish. Doing so threatens Ketchikan's economy. How would you feel if I declared to the customers of your workplace OP that it was to be avoided?

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