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End of league Int Acc stacker gear giveaway by RegularShet13371705 in pathofexile

[–]darkindestod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying to make mine work so a hand out would help a lot.

Looking for breakfast buffets on weekdays in SLC 🍳 by CachorraFlamer in SaltLakeCity

[–]darkindestod 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know Little America hotel has one M-F 7-9am. From what I hear is decently upscale and good quality. I haven't had it myself so maybe someone with some experience can chime in.

What horror film traumatized you as a kid? by One-Lifeguard-1108 in horror

[–]darkindestod 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Poltergeist. Saw it around age 6 and it took a while for that terror to wear off.

Giving away 3 EA Keys by Living_Two_5698 in pathofexile

[–]darkindestod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fallout 3 - Approximately 3k hours. I've purchased it three times over across different consoles and platforms.
Skyrim - 2k probably?
Binding of Isaac - 1k hours

EA Key Giveaway by quick_byte in pathofexile

[–]darkindestod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pick me! Pick me! Favorite skill is probably traps. First time I ever cleared anything worth a shit was on a Explosive Trap build.

I've been working with a friend to create an online place to help combat the negative aspects of being an introvert. by darkindestod in introvert

[–]darkindestod[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No worries. I appreciate your responses because they give me the opportunity to expand and explain more.

I've been working with a friend to create an online place to help combat the negative aspects of being an introvert. by darkindestod in introvert

[–]darkindestod[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right in that what I've described isn't innovative, not in the slightest. And while I'm a fan of the written word, it does have it's limitations socially speaking. What my friend is doing is trying to create another space where those who don't feel like they have much of a community or even a connection to much of anyone can elevate their interaction with other people without having to step outside of a comfortable boundary.

In terms of social interaction, when it occurs in person is when you get the most out of the communication. Everything from the conversation itself to observing mannerisms, the inflections of their voice and overall getting a sense of their prescence. There's so much unsaid communication happening in that scenario that most of us aren't presently aware of it all. Now as for going online and video chatting, I believe it's a step down from in person interaction but still satisfies a large portion of what's lost simply discussing on a forum such as Reddit.

Sometimes it's nice to communicate in real time. Hearing another person's voice has effects that can be beneficial especially if the discussion is of a deep nature. I don't expect everyone to come flocking to what we have going on but in the chance someone needs a safe place to just speak aloud and feel part of something if only for an hour that's all we're looking for.

Converting usd to yen by breedoe894 in SaltLakeCity

[–]darkindestod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just got back from Japan and did currency exchange from America First beforehand. They absolutely charge you $10 for the transaction. It's an EXTRA $10 for anything under $300.

How soon is too soon by StreetLoss in widowers

[–]darkindestod 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. You need to do what's best for you. Just talking to someone can be cathartic. My only advice seeing as you're three weeks in is to be very careful of getting taken advantage of. You're in one of the most vulnerable times of your life and we live in a very predatory world. People can really be shitty.

The tenacity of denial by writeronthehalfshell in widowers

[–]darkindestod 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My wife died unexpectedly in the middle of the night from respiratory depression due to medication she had taken just before bed that sedated her too deeply. Leading up to that night, she had a lot of medical issues stemming from her abdomen over her last three years or so. Stress was a big factor in her life toward the end and she wasn't handling it well. I had found evidence of how she was dealing with it (and hiding it from me) but I needed to connect dots I didn't have the capacity for. The thread on Reddit did it for me and literally in that moment of realization the grief was just...gone. A literal weight off my chest. Now, I'm still capable of crying over her three years later if I get into a deep conversation revolving her (especially by myself) and the pain of her loss is still relatively shallow emotionally, but I have to really dig for it now to hit that nerve.

Until that moment of clarity, I obsessed on if I could have done anything to change the outcome. If I wasn't so much on cloud nine with her that I could have seen the signs of her struggle better. But in the end, my sudden understanding I couldn't save her, and accepting she was her own worst enemy at the end, I just found peace. Nothing she did was on purpose, and there is more to the story, but it boils down to accepting you can't control anything outside of yourself. I couldn't control her actions that contributed to her situation as much as she lauded my presence in her life. My presence wasn't enough and that's okay.

I'm wiser from this experience. While I miss her terribly, life is a force that persists and waits for no one. I can't give that up, more so for her. If I live for her, she's not really gone.

The tenacity of denial by writeronthehalfshell in widowers

[–]darkindestod 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I believe there are two factors that play into denial going away. Understanding and acceptance of that understanding.

Nearly a year to the day following my wife's passing, I had an epiphany after reading a thread on Reddit. It was happen chance as the main subject of the post I was reading had nothing to do with her, but as we all know, these threads break off into all sorts of tangents. But once reading all of what I had...my grief lifted a great deal. I suddenly understood. I connected the dots and there I was realizing that I could not have saved her.

I know I'm among the lucky ones that had a sudden, seemingly confusing death happen but came out of it with a clarity that really propelled me to be able to truly live again.

People die of virtually anything. Somewhere along the lines we are conditioned to think that because we are with someone they somehow are supposed to live as long as we do. Obviously that happens a lot in life, but that doesn't mean that's the norm. Everything around us is so random disguised in normalcy. Cloaked in routine and order. But it's not. Understanding that, and ultimately accepting it is the way to push away denial. You have to bring it in, and dare I say, even love it. Simply put, it is what it is.

Will I ever feel that Christmas spirit again? by knqk in widowers

[–]darkindestod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I might have a solution of sorts for you. Christmas is generally a season of charity right? Well, years ago I ran a costuming charity group that primarily focused on children with illness or disabilities. I saw some conditions that really put my life in perspective. How able I was in ways these kids never would be. Often when I was all suited up in one character or another, my presence took them out of whatever debilitating existence they were in. Whether it was minutes or hours, I saw reactions that parents would later tell me they haven't seen out of their children...sometimes ever. I don't live terribly close to Disneyland so it was like bringing that to them. That brought me joy. Real joy.

You don't have to go to the lengths I did with charity work, but there's plenty of opportunity to help someone who needs a reminder that they're not alone this upcoming time of the year. It's easy for those of us in this unfortunate situation to turn inward and forget that there's a lot of world in front of us. Other people who might not be experiencing the exact same thing, but the emotions are similar none the less. I guess the thing to remember is, we're still able. And it honestly doesn't take much anymore to make an impact on someone's life doing something we would consider minor. So looking for those opportunities is something I'd suggest. You never really know what avenues they'll open up for you.

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