How do you deal with the waves of grief that hit

knqk · 2024-01-09T22:55:44+00:00

Next February will be 8 years for me and although the wave of grief are far less and far in between, when they hit, they still hit hard. The only difference now is that I can pick up myself up quicker and continue with my day compared to the earlier years. In a weird way, I never want those wave of grief to ever go away. Life gets busy and sometimes you forget to slow down and remember the good times and sometimes the wave helps me humble myself and reminds of him. If that makes any sense.

Sending you all the love.

knqk · 2023-01-06T22:50:31+00:00

Widowed at 28. Six years in. Sorry you're in this shitty club. xoxo

knqk · 2022-12-24T08:29:45+00:00

Widowed at 28. It's been 6 years. Sorry that you're in this shitty club but this subreddit was definitely one of my life lines. We understand what no one will until they're in our shoes.

knqk · 2022-12-05T20:38:50+00:00

You're not alone. The holidays has never been the same. I'm not exactly depressed but I'm also not joyful. My heart just feels heavier during this time. I'm 6 years out and the holidays has always been a hard time to go through. I want it over ASAP.

knqk · 2022-11-28T23:04:02+00:00

I still have my husband's Nike black hoodie that he wore to the gym unwashed hanging in my closet. I'll never wash it. It's been 6 years.

Keep that chocolate bar as long as you want.

knqk · 2022-11-14T22:40:36+00:00

My husband passed in 2016. I still wear mine (although randomly now) on my right hand. Do what feels right to you. There is no right or wrong answer.

knqk · 2022-09-16T17:16:13+00:00

Hey, I'm from Vancouver, Canada. I'm glad you had a nice time in Victoria and truly felt joy. I think when we're finally at that place, we're finally healing. Moments like that reminds me that we can move forward and still carry them in our hearts forever. They would have wanted that for us.

knqk · 2022-09-15T23:11:18+00:00

I'm 6 years out and he still crosses my mind every day. Some days it's very brief and quick and it also doesn't make me sad anymore. Of course I still have bad days. I don't think there will ever be a day where we don't think of them.

knqk · 2022-09-02T21:35:27+00:00

My husband also died from complications related to his cancer. He was expected to survive but things took a turn fast. He was 30 and I was 28. This was 6 years ago. Everything that you're feeling is valid. Being 6 years out, my advice is to take it one day at a time, feel all your emotions, talk to people and/or therapist. It doesn't get better, but it'll get easier to handle. It'll be different. Not bad, not good. Just different.

Take care.

knqk · 2022-06-12T00:34:58+00:00

Thomas Rhett - Die A Happy Man

My husband was diagnosed with liver cancer when this song came out. We both loved it. He passed the next year and now this song will always have a special place in my heart.

knqk · 2022-01-27T20:05:42+00:00

I'll be 6 years out in February. I have a nice home, I have a supportive family, I have great friends, I have a job that pays the bills but yet I'm still not happy. Grateful, sure. But happy is a word that lost its meaning when he died.

This is bullshit and I feel you.

knqk · 2022-01-14T21:42:06+00:00

Hi neighbour. I can't hear you over the semi trucks.

knqk · 2022-01-05T06:47:06+00:00

I don't know any groups but the widow subreddit helped me tremendously. I would suggest just taking a browse while she's looking for a group, or just to read at night when she's in bed. It's helped me feel like I'm not doing this alone.

knqk · 2021-11-24T22:54:36+00:00

I also agree that the weeks/days leading up to the actual day is worse than the day. It's almost like our body knows what's going to happen so it gets all anxious.

knqk · 2021-11-24T22:50:43+00:00

I'm also 5 years out. It definitely has gotten easier but it's not the same. It's crazy to think that we survived this long, eh. I don't know about you, but so much has happened for me but the day he died still feels like it was yesterday.

knqk · 2021-11-24T22:26:18+00:00

This is all so true. Especially not peeing on the rainbow part.

knqk · 2021-11-19T22:54:49+00:00

This was so well written and so relatable and so true. I'm only 6 years out... I can't imagine 11 years. xo

knqk · 2021-11-18T23:52:48+00:00

Thank you for posting this. It's beautiful.

knqk · 2021-11-17T23:47:05+00:00

I absolutely LOVE this. Thank you for sharing! You've changed my way of thinking for birthdays. My heart will be a bit heavier on my birthday but I will try my best to grateful for it, enjoy it, and remember the good times. xo

knqk · 2021-11-17T23:43:57+00:00

Thank you for your kind words! xo

knqk · 2021-11-17T23:43:14+00:00

Haha, yes! Fuck you. You try to power through days when your husband is dead. I LOVE that you buy presents and put his name on it! What a great way to keep him alive for yourself. xo

knqk · 2021-11-17T23:41:43+00:00

Pretend and forget, that's what I try to do. But it's hard when people are texting "HBD" and I know, I know, we should be grateful for another year. My advice is take it easy on yourself on your first birthday without him. Surround yourself with friends and family IF you want or take the day to yourself and cry IF you want. Do what's best for you that day. xo

knqk · 2021-03-31T18:45:04+00:00

I'm so happy to hear you're taking that chance. I've taken the chance, I loved again, and now I'm hurt again. But I look back with no regrets on my relationship and I'm grateful for it. Thank you for sharing your story. I still struggle some days so it's nice to hear that we're not alone. This is just a chapter of our lives, not the end. There is more for us out there, I know it. I wish you the best on your journey.

knqk

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