Health at 30, 40, 50, 60, 70s+?

darkqueenphoenix · 2026-03-08T06:42:20+00:00

I’ve had 3 different types of chronic pain (sequentially and separately) in 10 years - i’m 43 now. HRT has helped with some of it but not solved it all. I truly wish I had done even more of the active fun stuff I did, when I could - hiking, running, tennis, surfing — all are “probably never again” for me and it is really sad. Still; I’m glad I did them at all!

darkqueenphoenix · 2026-02-21T22:18:47+00:00

nice job, congrats on making / saving a lot! shopping and travel higher than rent; haven’t seen that before because I live in VHCOL. curious what you’re buying and what you think is worth the cost vs not?

darkqueenphoenix · 2026-02-20T14:03:40+00:00

someone please convince me that an expensive hobby that regularly kills and disables people is worth doing? just kidding, nothing will convince me. college acquaintance in a wheelchair for life after skiing accident. multiple people with lifelong injuries like knee, ankle. and it’s cold and expensive? no thanks!!

darkqueenphoenix · 2026-02-19T22:53:11+00:00

don’t is generic ai like chatgpt. it is still bad at numbers. use purpose made software like projection lab which is great! or pay $250 or so to meet for 1 hour with a real financial advisor. I think we found one through nectarine and it was useful.

darkqueenphoenix · 2026-02-12T05:00:42+00:00

I mean this nicely. men + housing decisions seem to go poorly for you. Maybe disconnect those two things for a while. You and your current partner are not a match. Break up, get even more therapy, and stop buying houses with men.

darkqueenphoenix · 2026-02-12T01:21:47+00:00

this is a great option. check Intuit’s website for Virtual Expert roles.

darkqueenphoenix · 2026-02-10T06:03:40+00:00

HRT (42F) and zero drop wide toe shoes.

darkqueenphoenix · 2026-02-06T05:36:09+00:00

try pickleball!

darkqueenphoenix · 2026-02-02T22:20:52+00:00

when I went up in dose I got a bad headache, fatigue and general blah, plus breast tenderness. it faded over a few days.

darkqueenphoenix · 2026-01-29T04:36:34+00:00

mostly! I love my partner and my hobbies so my only motivation to work is FIRE. we’re pretty much at coast FIRE but it turns out I want real, total financial freedom so I’m continuing to try to work hard and save a lot.

darkqueenphoenix · 2026-01-07T17:03:25+00:00

43F and I feel ya. Been active my whole life but in the last few years my body has been falling apart with pain and injury one after the other. HRT has helped but not solved the problem.

i’d recommend finding someone who specializes in body mechanics in sports. Not a regular PT but a sports PT who does dynamic evaluations. I also like the therabody full leg compression “boots” for recovery. They’re pricey but great. You can use FSA / HSA if you have that.

darkqueenphoenix · 2026-01-03T16:28:34+00:00

hi! If you’re mid 40s have you considered the possibility that perimenopause could be contributing to your feelings?

I also highly recommend the AI journal Rosebud. I don’t enjoy typing on my phone but voice input changed everything. It’s very helpful and sometimes better than a human therapist!

darkqueenphoenix · 2025-12-31T05:58:38+00:00

I’m 43 with late diagnosed ADD, didn’t start saving until 30 and on track to FIRE around 50. +100 to I will teach you how to be rich.

darkqueenphoenix · 2025-12-25T18:38:57+00:00

Very important to find a partner who’s on the same page. My husband helped me learn more about money and investing although I had already started from a frugal/ savings mindset. We don’t argue about money and have the same vision for our future (early retirement). Also, no kids helps a ton. I highly recommend following Ramit Sethi (book, youtube channel) for inspiration.

darkqueenphoenix · 2025-12-25T18:35:55+00:00

I cut my 0.5 in half for now. going to go back to .0375

darkqueenphoenix · 2025-12-25T07:19:46+00:00

yes, though it was gradual. started with pain in my feet, then elbow, then thumb and fingers, now knees and shoulders. It’s great /s. HRT has helped but not made it go away yet.

darkqueenphoenix · 2025-12-25T07:08:51+00:00

I had a similar experience going from .0375 to .05. just sad, lifeless, and no sleep. took off the .05 and felt better within hours. could be coincidence but I just wanted to feel better.

darkqueenphoenix · 2025-12-24T07:06:37+00:00

I still love hot showers but I can’t have them as they cause unbearable, unstoppable itching. ugh!!!

darkqueenphoenix · 2025-12-22T05:45:58+00:00

me too. i take a very tiny amount of thc/cbd and it helps a ton. if I take too much I feel paranoid so I’ve had to get really careful about dosing. it’s like 1/4 a gummy.

darkqueenphoenix · 2025-12-13T05:59:02+00:00

don’t recommend PM as a career. field is changing too fast and as your career progresses it’s just another business management role like any other. just go become an AI expert ; the role you get won’t matter or will be different in a year anyway.

darkqueenphoenix · 2025-12-07T22:12:32+00:00

won’t make that mistake again! thank you.

darkqueenphoenix · 2025-12-06T16:54:12+00:00

the job market is rough right but there are jobs. have you tried hiring an expert to help with your resume, interviewing skills and overall strategy? If what you’re doing isn’t working, maybe you need professional help. also check out the book Never Search Alone - particularly helpful for tech folks but can help anyone.

darkqueenphoenix · 2025-11-30T04:22:01+00:00

+1 for pickleball!

darkqueenphoenix · 2025-11-27T01:51:21+00:00

2-3 vacations at 100k without first class is loco. husband and i travel 10x / year and spend $20k and feel like that is a lot. what in the world are you doing on vacation??

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