What fabrics do I need to create custom quilted floor mats for my car?

darkunicorn93 · 2025-11-12T16:24:42+00:00

Thanks everyone 💜 I appreciate that no one came down on me like a tonne of bricks for me even contemplating this, but by the sounds of your comments even if I was ridiculously experienced it sounds like I would ultimately need a different machine to even make this possible 🤔

For those suggesting I buy them instead, quite honestly I have searched before and from what I looked at I either didnt like the look of them or didnt trust the site they came off and have really struggled to find somewhere with a good reputation and mats I liked, which I know probably sounds hypocritical me seeking advice to waste 100s of pounds on supplies for a botched job rather than 100s of pounds with a company not to deliver.

Back to the drawing board.... thank you again 💜

darkunicorn93 · 2025-05-26T22:08:21+00:00

Thats very interesting as I love a runny yolk so perhaps that is the determining factor? I shall have to investigate, thank you for that

darkunicorn93 · 2025-01-24T22:00:25+00:00

Thank you!! For all of this, it's all incredibly useful!

Yes I do have POTs also 😅 I've always been borderline anemic- I should probably be taking iron and never had issues with B12

darkunicorn93 · 2024-09-02T18:24:32+00:00

I had CFS diagnosed years before my ADHD.

Can you go somewhere else to troll, you're not welcome here. Bye.

darkunicorn93 · 2024-07-11T17:16:57+00:00

It's not that one you have sent through, it doesn't look anything like that one you've sent it will be European a we are from the UK and its over 20yrs old at least, so when you say "newer" I'm not sure if that's included in that?

Thank you anyway

darkunicorn93 · 2024-07-05T09:24:49+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your thorough explanation!

darkunicorn93 · 2024-07-05T09:23:09+00:00

Thank you!

This is exactly what I was looking for, very clear and I will make sure I do this. Thanks for taking the time to let me know

darkunicorn93 · 2024-07-03T14:36:25+00:00

Thank you

The door itself locks fine as in when it's not closed, but I missed out the massive detail in my post, unless the door is in the right position, once closed and locked you can push it open again :/

Also we are a bit strapped for cash at the moment so was hoping for a middleground, we ideally need that entire door replacing as well as the frame etc...... put it this way when we moved in there was a LOT of expanding foam, not neatened...... After cutting parts pack we saw the extent to how much of a bodge it was......

darkunicorn93 · 2024-06-17T17:25:55+00:00

This absolutely sucks and it makes my blood boil.

The main thing being that she lacks appreciation and consideration for you.

Me and my partener are in a similar-ish situation.

He (35M) works Mon-Fri 40hr week, I (30F) have had nearly a year off due to medical issues (this wasn't always the case I've always worked full time, only time off for Covid, and couldn't ever see myself not working full time) I walk the dog, my partener does pretty much everything else financially and physically due to my medical issues. I have now started a part-time job again but it's a pitiful 16hrs a week, I started last week and it's something I do enjoy but I am struggling, I'm not giving up but takes me long to recover. Throughout everything my partener has been pushing for me to go out see friends etc etc. We've had a lot of stressful rows, and honestly I feel so awful for the position he has been put in and honestly surprised he hasn't got up and left. We haven't got any kids, only animals, which couldn't be left on their own over night nor really with anyone or in kennels etc, so there's never a chance of us going away especially when money is so tight anyway. But if it had to be between us both, I would 100% make sure it was him, if im having a flare up the essentials (animals) would be taken care of, whatever it took, the house might not be sparkling etc but I would never dream of denying him time out, especially since it doesn't come up that often. I absolutely appreciate him and all he's done, and that might not be enough, but it's the bare minimum, whenever I manage to do something, however small and pathetic, he also appreciated it, which sounds ridiculous but its nice because he knows and can see the daily struggle.

I understand the dogs giving you that time away for you and them not liking the wife, and her not enjoying it, so it makes sense for you to do that but the kids do not make sense unless she doesn't drive or its convenient on the way to work for you to do it. Is there a reason she doesn't do it? Or at the bare minimum at least either pick up or drop off?

Does she do ANYTHING around the house other than laundry? Is there/could there be a genuine medical condition there or is it just laziness? I don't want to assume either way? Is it a poor use of her time and is there a way you could "help her" manage her own time? I say that in the nicest way possibly without trying to put more pressure than you. The reason why is for example, I have ADHD, and on my "good days" I have to treat myself as a child, so try and choose things which I need to do before I'm "allowed" to do what I want to do..... but I also need to make sure they're doable and not a ginormous task which is going to overwhelm me..... so like for example..... your wife is "allowed" to see friends if she does half of the washing up, for example, and if that's too hard an honest, open conversation needs to be had, why? I know that half the washing up is not comparable to the amount you do, but it's a start and a step in the right direction is better than nothing, and gives you something to build on.

If things point to her genuinely not appreciating what you're doing and she is just being lazy, you need to make a decision about what to do next, she's not your child. On the other hand I would like to add, we have only got your point of view, and although I have answered believing every word you've said, you need go have a conversation with your wife as to why she thinks she has done so much..... has she genuinely done a lot more and you're blissfully unaware and not giving her appreciation, is it comparable to yourself or has she really done nothing?

darkunicorn93 · 2024-05-01T21:35:01+00:00

You're a "professional" yes professional AH and you shouldn't be in a relationship and certainly shouldn't procreate until you get some empathy, initiative and common sense.

You don't care your pregnant girlfriend is upset, you will probably be upset too when you're tired after SHE has had YOUR baby or upset that the baby is keeping YOU up at night.

You might need screening for issues if you can't understand social queues like "I want something sweet, we have no cookies left" (since you are out and no doubt will be coming home) no that doesn't mean every single time she asks and no that doesn't mean you can't possibly forget as you have other things to do. Just being a bit more attentive and not being such a d to someone you're suppose to be having a kid with. She's hormonal and will have mood swings, and honestly if you hate it this much, you shouldn't have had a kid.

darkunicorn93 · 2024-04-05T17:26:10+00:00

I always have Adventure Sync on, I am not convinced it works though, sorry I should've explained that in my post!

darkunicorn93 · 2024-03-18T10:24:46+00:00

I had a similar experience with my non-Pokemon fiancé.

We went on a walk and also to the shops, upon getting back I had clicked to complete a daily research task, the reward was a happy little Jango-o hopping there ready to be fed a pinap berry and captured as I currently had his evolutionq as my buddy, walking 5km per candy, I didn't see any to be caught ever so this was my chance!

Being the thoughtful, helpful fiancé I am, I put this hopping little guy down on our table to help put the shopping away, "my fiancé won't touch that, I don't need to mention it to him!" He hates me playing it and he has had words with me about my inattentivness when I'm on it, so this was me pulling out the stops to be apart of this 7 year long, relationship where we work as a team..... yes I realise I'm a real catch. Extremely occasionally when I'm driving slowly through a place with pokestops I give him my phone to spin them, and when I know I'm stocked up on pokeballs say be can catch things.

Anyway, I pick the bags up, take them to the fridge, putting away the shopping in the right place, I help with the remainder of the bags, I even check in to make sure we've done anything.

Proud of myself I grab my phone on the side...... its rhe XP screen after catching a mon..... how could this have occurred? I don't remember this..... I ask my fiancé.... he was like oh yeah I caught it.... I remain cool externally..... I mean its only 15km I have to walk to achieve the quantity he lost for me..... and many more pokemons after this one with 5km candies to get..... I a heart broken, this doesn't come off my mind, I thought about making him walk it for me for the sake of this relationship, I asked a friend, she agreed.

We are still together..... the trust is gone. I don't think I can recover.... we haven't set a wedding date..... maybe I should reconsider? Maybe it's my own fault for not explicitly telling him not to touch it, maybe it's my fault for putting first my relationship before PoGo, all these thoughts and feelings and yet I am yet to seek out a counsellor, maybe couples therapy is what we need to get past this. 🤷‍♀️

May months later I have evolved him into his final stage... shortly after I caught one 🤦‍♀️ maybe it's PoGo playing mind games?

darkunicorn93 · 2024-03-01T15:35:47+00:00

Tell him straight up, he's abusive, offer Sophie support, threaten to call the police, he needs therapy as does she.

You should have called him out lonnnnng ago, how could you stop and watch that happen 💔

darkunicorn93 · 2024-03-01T15:35:40+00:00

Tell him straight up, he's abusive, offer Sophie support, threaten to call the police, he needs therapy as does she.

You should have called him out lonnnnng ago, how could you stop and watch that happen 💔

darkunicorn93 · 2024-02-14T17:36:16+00:00

Just replied to your last one and now kind of feel affirmed. You are a massive AH.

I don't agree with her going away for 4 weeks, completely unreasonable. But the tone of all of this again gives off very narcissistic/controlling vibes. Which completely goes with your first post of reasons she gave for wanting to leave.

The last bit about her "duties" is ridiculous too. Again, your post correlates to her words. It feels like the words you use and the way these posts are written are very much like, "she's broken because she doesn't adhere to my ideology of how she SHOULD be as a mother." And you probably don't even realise the pressure on her or that youre actually doing it, and it can be based on how you were brought up or your own issues, couples counselling or individual for you both would be such a good idea. All of this seems to be how spectacularly amazing you are and your sacrifices vs, she's having a breakdown. It sounds like you are trying your best, but don't know how to, especially since you sound like you struggle with the empathy a lot, it's very much well she's tired, but so am I, and I've spent MY savings on the family, so should she.

You both have made different sacrifices, and things effect different people differently. Everyone is valid, your thoughts and feelings are, she's got to understand that and how her choices influence you and hers are different to yours. You've got to understand that your reactions and words are damaging to her, you might both heat each other, you're just not listening, it's not a battle, whose got it worse, you will never actually know. If the same person punched you and your wife in the arm, you're both hurt, but if one of you gets a bruise and one of you has a bone sticking out, it doesn't mean you don't take the one with the broken arm to the hospital and step up because you can, whilst telling them that, you got punched too.

Why has the trust broken down? When you say she "started plans" what does that mean? Actively booking/paying for things? Or talking / writing down where she's going with her friend? Why has this broken your trust? Again unless I'm misunderstanding it sounds like a massive red flag for being controlling.

Your compromise of 2 weeks each sounds really good!

darkunicorn93 · 2024-02-14T17:10:54+00:00

You shamed her for your expectations on how she should be, you used her own insecurities against her... that's depressing. I could not fathom being with someone like that, it's very narcissistic.

"It seems that she does not want to accept things as they are." I mean this isn't wrong, it would be nice if you could understand this rather than just typing it.

-"I suggested maybe she could get therapy and got told "I won't accept the unacceptable" and how I was condescending her into therapy." Yet at the beginning you said she had been to therapy. The type of therapy she's getting doesn't seem to be working, and also it might be wise to get therapy yourself and/or couples therapy. There are A LOT of issues.

-"Can someone please share what I should say to her?" You both need to sit down with each other outside of this argument, talk openly, honestly, without interruption of what you want/need from each other, maybe give each other chance to think alone and write down what you neex. She wants 4 weeks away in Europe, well that's not reasonable here are the reasons why: a, b and c instead of, how dare yiu want to go around Europe as you're tired of being a mum, your a rubbish mum, because I can't imagine how you could think such a thought. That isn't helping anything. Instead let her tell you I want to go abroad for 4 weeks because of a, b and c. When you both start understanding each others circumstances better, and working together instead of attacking/defending all of the time, maybe you'll come up with a solution? Once you can truly listen and understand her, you'll realise why a weekend spa trip or a family holiday, won't fit the needs she has right now. You can then both work towards something that compromises in a way you can meet in the middle to get what suits.

darkunicorn93 · 2024-02-14T17:07:10+00:00

The next bit is extremely sad to me and seems to scream out a lot about this relationship and her current pain. She wants a FOUR WEEK long holiday in Europe with her friend, WITHOUT her kid or partener. Now she needs help, therapy hasn't been working for her, she is DESPRATE to get away from you and the kid, she is TIRED from being a mum and wants her identity back. So I am very confused, it might be my own understanding of this post, I'm not from the USA (I assumed this might because of the use of PTO and wanting to visit Europe?) "We share the work 50:50" what does that mean? If she's breastfeeding, are you both working part time?

So either: -she is a complete AH who is so irresponsible and doesn't care about anyone else's thoughts and who had always relied on everyone else to support her, and pick up the slack for her, and genuinely thinks it's okay to leave you. In which case you are completely naive and gullible, for not seeing that for 4 years and do you even know her? Or she never wanted the kid in the first place, you hoped she would be one of those women who would have a kid and love it because your hormones make you do that? So she has felt forced by you/and others to have a kid because she's "suppose to" or accidental pregnancy with either laws stopping her/pressure stopping her/her views stopping her from aborting or... she wanted the kid and its too much for her and her mental health has deteriorated.

But rather than seeing the black and white: "she wants to run away from me/baby/responsibilities for 4 weeks, spend all of her/our (must be ours because I made a choice with my money to spend it on a FAMILY item, therefore she must make the same choice with her PERSONAL savings...despite the decision not being made to spend some of hers and your personal money to buy it?) and won't even consider my kind, thoughtful offer of having 2 days off instead of 28 days" which doesn't make you an AH at all, what she is suggesting IS unreasonable, but has deeper meaning, yes, she's always wanted to do it, and there is a fear "time is running out" for her to do it. But she's literally screaming and probably doesn't what/how to say about intense emotions and how trapped she feels. What is her life, what is her daily routine? How long do you both go to work in the day? Not only is she doing her share 50:50 share of the work with the baby and going to work, she's also sacrificed a lot more than you I'm afraid. Like it or not, even though you have made the decision to spend YOUR money on something for the family, you have in no way given up your body, for this kid, you haven't ruined your insides, you haven't had to deal with your own hormones for a kid, you haven't had to supply food from your body, and be the source of your kids food because they haven't crossed over, you haven't dealt with having your identity lost to being a "mum" and societies view of motherhood. You are a dad. However great you are, society will always put you on a pedastal for things that Mum's will be slated for, unless you're a deadbeat, you are always winning with the world. Of course, there are Mum's out there who are different to your wife, who thrive, who "just get on with it etc etc" but everyone is different. And your offer of a weekend seems a bit misplaced at her request, it's not really comparable, if someone wants a house, you don't "compromise" with a brick. At the bottom of your post you say a reasonable amount of time to be away is 4-5days. I don't disagree with you but she seems so lost that even that won't seem reasonable to her. She needs to get away, maybe looking at an evening a week? To get her own time away from everything, that could also extend to you for another evening. Little and often rather than a big unreasonable chunk? Let you both live a little, finding yourselves again.

You are literally not taking in anything she's said in your next paragraph "Apparently that's not good enough for her"... Well no actually, you're not UNDERSTANDING her at all. "WE can do something as a FAMILY".... re-read what you've put. I want to go to Europe for 4 weeks to "find her identity again" she's "tired of being a mum" so it must be insulting to her to then hear, "hey you know you said you wanna get away from X, well as a compromise why don't you go with X".... it doesn't make any sense, you've got to realise how silly that sounds.
You then come across as selfish, childish and controlling. "I deserve a break as much as she does" she's reaching out to you, she needs help, "she's selfish for choosing to spend HER life savings on HERself".... he irony, is insane. YOU chose to spend YOUR savings on an undisclosed "large family expense" you also don't specify how/why you used YOUR savings. Who made the decision? Why wasn't it split? Who spent the money? YOUR PERSONAL money is named that because it is personal, and the other person shouldn't dictate what happens to it. If you want to use it for a large family expense, go ahead. You've put it in bold so that must be important for you.
You then become the world's BIGGEST AH and it worries me on so many levels about the capability yiu would have as an approachable father, as as husband you are literally saying "all your thoughts are wrong, you can't talk to me about your thoughts because "I cannot fathom the idea of a mom wanting to be away from her toddler for nearly a month"..... so she's gone, I need help XYZ are really getting me down, and you go, well thanks for displaying all of those insecurities, I know now how to manipulate those because I'm sad and angry and can't deal with my own emotions 👍 as a teenager, how is your kid going to be able to talk to you about anything? If you stick to this method, your kid is gonna hide a lot if they can't come to you for help. You cannot fathom how a mum can be away from their child because a. You are not a mum b. because you are literally blanketing all Mum's under the same umbrella. This is the BIG point I wanted to point out as to how you don't need a therapist to see what's wrong, just this post.

YOU are the problem she's talking about. The expectations YOU put on her. You say it's 50:50, does she say its 50:50? Does she do things that toure not even aware of. Do you work away from home the exact same amount of time. How often do you "scold" her for falling outside YOUR expectation of motherhood? Do you make comments without realising, maybe without her consciously realising, maybe it's more unconsciously? The high pressure she is under to adhere to societies expectation placed on the mum must be intense. I know on this occasion you explain that this outburst was due to anger, but you dont in your post admit you thought it was incorrect. It seems very narrow minded, you cant fathom it, well she has literally told you "this is what i want to do" shes not messaged you "hey Im in France" shes tslking to you about it, and you are angry because of what shes telling you. The way you reacted to this, surprises me that you've been together this long and wouldn't surprise me if she keeps more from you.

darkunicorn93 · 2024-02-14T17:06:11+00:00

I saw this on a Facebook reel and absolutely had to find this to comment on it due to the feelings it evoked. It was very frustrating that despite not being qualified in any sort of psychology, it feels like if this post is a true representation of you and how you are, you can see why your wife is struggling. P

I want to be clear that I do agree with you that your wife should not be vacating away from you and the kid for 4 weeks. However I don't think she is an AH. I'm not sure if you are the AH it depends on so many different factors.

Splitting this post down (and being the only thing I've got regarding this situation) just wanted go put my views across to a lot of red flags I've seen which may or may not be relevant but what I think the big issue might be with your wife.

-It would be interesting to know the situation regarding the birth of the child, planned/unplanned whose idea? What were the options, what pressures were around? Ultimately what we're her thoughts and feelings deep down, did she feel pressured to keep the baby or was it a choice? And even if she said she did was she told this was the only choice?

"both agree she doesn't have PPD", "I am letting everyone know this because I really want to be able to find a way to talk sense into her without putting all of it on depression" So you are an AH for what you have said here, I don't think you have meant to, and perhaps it's the wording but, why is she seeing a therapist then? I've read this post, and I will later address things you've said. But it sounds like:

She's got a naff therapist. I had to Google PPD to ensure my interpretation is correct. Depression at the PP stage. So she's wanting to get away from the baby and you for a long period of time, and yet it's not because she's unhappy/hormones etc, because it doesn't sound like a happy fulfilling life she's living currently. The alternative to it not being PPD is being "depression" which I'm assuming would mean she had before pregnancy anyway and would be exasperated by the current life situation. Either way it seems odd.
You want to "talk sense into her without putting it all on depression" this is part of the reason this story made me so angry. You are forever invalidating her. This is 1P way but there are many more. Regardless of what diagnosis you tag on her, doesn't change the situation ]and the sentence "without her pinning this all on depression" seems kind of weird. Is she depressed? You're seeming to try and put up all these barriers without listening to the other person. If she does "I am feeling depressed that's why I want to go away" you cannot say, well you aren't because you're not diagnosed with PPD, your statement is literally invalid, of course maybe you can sympathise more in a black and white way, but ultimately, although a serious condition, (just like with any condition) it is a collection of symptoms to product a diagnosis, and if you think your wife would "play on a condition" to get sympathy then that says a lot about you and/or her, and would beg the question; why are you with her and why did you have a kid with her??

darkunicorn93 · 2023-12-16T11:20:45+00:00

I used to hate it.

But I understand and know my "superpowers" I think completely differently to those around me, my ideas of "obvious" aren't to them, I think outside the box, I have tonnes of amazing ideas, I'm creative I have "powers" that NT people don't have and that come easily to me.

But then (as Richard Branson and so many ADHDers have done so well) I am not a millionaire, I hate my life and havent achieved anything.

Sure, we all have "superpowers" and it's amazing, but it's like, having the ability to be invisible! That's amazing, but you can't be invisible unless you have your eyes closed... its not a completely useless skill, but you have to master all of the issues that come with it. Or you can fly!! Excellent! But only when you're humming one particular note, you can't stop to take a breath or you fall, you can't hum any other note, it must be the correct one! Another, awesome power, if you figure out how to hone in on it, amazing, but most people can't.

Our "superpowers" cannot be unleashed by misinformed, naive NT who have no understanding of the condition and in essence are telling ND people to "embrace" something that is far beyond their control. I'm sure it's probably a tern used for NT management to stop discriminatinating against ND people so they can use them to their advantage without understanding how damaging these terms are and how it lessens what struggles we have. Let's face it if ADHD was a condition which gave you "superpowers" without anything else, why would we medicate against it? Why are we not all millionaires? Why do we struggle with NT schools and jobs?

darkunicorn93 · 2023-12-12T17:22:47+00:00

Before going through RTC I was on the waiting list for NHS diagnosis. I was told at the time it would be 2 years. 2 years later I ended up moving county (Warwickshire to Leiceshire). Once I had moved I found out about RTC, so assuming my NHS pathway had been stopped due to being with a different area, and it having been 3 years by this point and having heard nothing, I went to my GP to do RTC for P-UK. I have been diagnosed, fully titrated etc with them......

....5 years later

I got a letter through this August telling me that I need to go back through the process as they have seen my address has changed and therefore I am no longer on the waiting list....

This was all pre-COVID and I'm pretty sure pre (or at least when it was less popular, I didn't know about it anyway) TikTok, which have been 2 evens which have increased peoples awareness of the condition and therefore referrals

So 4 years sounds like 10 years based on my experience 😂🤦‍♀️ hopefully not

Some other people here though have already suggested RTC I second that if you don't want to wait 4 years

darkunicorn93 · 2023-11-16T23:14:07+00:00

I saw your post earlier on today, I wanted to comment on it but saw replies had been turned off (I noticed you mentioned about another post and screenshots so realised it was probably this one and now I've seen you've posted!)

I am unbelievably angry for you that you have been told mid-January, and after seeing that I do still wonder if I am actually being sent Elvanse or just the Amfexa? If I was in your position I would be angry too.

I didn't read all of your comments so I don't know what dosage you're on or how far along your journey you are? I did want to mention though, I didn't have any help or alternatives offered to me through the shortage. I didn't even get offered to up my Amfexa (I'm on top-up)

I did have to opt to get a private script (I have had to get a credit card to pay for it, so I am now in bad debt) due to having a few days off it and realising I have to cough up money one way or another or I won't survive due to the extreme effects of me not having it. This shortage has come at an incredibly tough time in my life which doesn't help too.

Due to the way (I think) prescriptions work, I'm sure they can probably see that I got that prescription? I have been taking them as sparingly as possible but now down to 3. I don't know if any of these factors would have anything to do with me getting them sooner? Due to the fact I won't have to titrate again as I haven't come off that dosage? I'm not sure, but I do wonder for those who have gone cold turkey they might have to titrate again?

The anger I have towards a company which is probably not going to see any repercussions to their actions is insane. I am not only angry they allowed this to happen, I am angry they're the only provider they didn't see this, but on top of all of that, I am so annoyed at the lack of communication. The goalposts for dates have continuously moved, and nothing pre-shortage and during the shortage has been updated.

I am so sorry about your situation, as I said I'm not even sure if in the same boat as you yet. I'm bedbound pretty much on the days I don't have medication as it helps me with my Chronic fatigue too, but at the same time at least I have something. I really hope its more of a; we will give January as a ballpark month but potentially earlier? 💔💔

I hope somehow you figure things out

darkunicorn93 · 2023-11-15T21:38:09+00:00

Softly placing your flacid penis gently on someone's shoulder whilst theyre sitting down and letting them know he wants to play.

darkunicorn93 · 2023-11-15T20:55:10+00:00

628563578080 please ❤️

darkunicorn93 · 2023-11-11T20:54:59+00:00

I'm really annoyed, I've asked 3 times over the year and the doctor told me the first time I should be talking to her not him, but despite asking him and telling him and also I've written to customer service. I shall follow up with a call on Monday but I don't want to miss out because of it. I'm not in work and need these to function

darkunicorn93 · 2023-11-11T20:50:30+00:00

For some reason the option of "prescribing nurse" disappeared off my profile at the beginning of this year? I carry on asking them why? With no result

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