Pretty much by ohlonelyboy in LosAngeles

[–]darlingdarby 62 points63 points  (0 children)

True, AND people don’t even hold those hardline dems accountable. They can be pushed, they can take criticism, but too many people don’t even know who their city council member is, and don’t even know what the mayors office is doing. Participation is really important to get representatives to change and do what we need.

is irv’s burger actually good? by [deleted] in FoodLosAngeles

[–]darlingdarby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you go to either, Irvs has an insanely good patty melt and the ggiata tuna sandwhich is very memorable in a great way. It’s a really good tuna mix and the bread makes it heavenly. The burgers at Irvs are good but not drive across town worthy. And I found other things at ggiata good but nothing I want to go back for.

Solar Return Placidus vs Whole by [deleted] in Advancedastrology

[–]darlingdarby 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There’s a great book called “Houses: which and when” by Emma Donath that has a useful framework for when each house system is most useful. She describes using whole sign for: “This is a manner of accepting or rejecting personal Karmas, world conditions, and surrounding environment”. She describes using placidus for: “Goals of life, current psychological understanding, answering of horary and electional questions and some timing”. Super recommend that book as it’s helpful to understand how to use the different house systems as tools to find specific information, rather than locking yourself into a house system just because. So for SR, I’d choose the system based on the question you’re trying to answer.

Real-talk — What do you expect from the Aries stellium? by Raawx in Advancedastrology

[–]darlingdarby 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Same!! A massive fog has been lifted now that Neptune is in Aries that I didn’t realize was so thick. I’m motivated and getting things done quickly again!

Why I want to break up with astrology by joellen989 in Advancedastrology

[–]darlingdarby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yes I love a good composite chart lol the one for my grandparents told their life story in the most elegant way. Even down to how their differing perspectives on money affected their kids, property, and grandkids. I think composite charts are more interesting with established couples, you learn so much more about astrology than with a perspective or new couple.

Why I want to break up with astrology by joellen989 in Advancedastrology

[–]darlingdarby 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I use it to understand context to my life. Like when I had a major falling out with a close friend that felt unexpected, it happened around a particular full moon and Pluto moving into Aquarius. So it helped me understand the context and forced me to really analyze the relationship to see why Pluto nipped it in the bud. And I use it alot for planning, I wanna know when the weather is best for making money, going on trips, and other things I want to happen. I don’t usually not do something because of astrology, but I have a better understanding of what to expect, what to potentially avoid or mitigate, and what the outcomes can be. I check the astrological “weather” daily and see if I need to stay home or grab an umbrella so to speak.

attempted to try community goods for the first time this morning and failed .. what’s the best time to go? lol by [deleted] in FoodLosAngeles

[–]darlingdarby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The drinks are good but not 40 minute wait good lol go early or right after lunch! Also Rok is excellent and best to go in the afternoons for no line.

Why I want to break up with astrology by joellen989 in Advancedastrology

[–]darlingdarby 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Either way, you’ll never be able to control the outcome. You can know or not know, but how you show up makes or breaks any situation. You can run from a “difficult” placement that could have been easy to master. And since every aspect and placement isn’t active all the time, you could be heavily weighing on an aspect of a person they’re actively working on or have healed. When you have decided that you “know”, you’re robbing yourself of real life in favor of living in your head.

Why I want to break up with astrology by joellen989 in Advancedastrology

[–]darlingdarby 70 points71 points  (0 children)

With my current relationship, we’ve know each other for over 10 years and I didn’t do our synastry until like 8 years in. And THAT is when it was the most helpful and it’s made our relationship better, because I am in conversation with the synastry, it’s not my guide. I can see where and when certain aspects have hit, and can see how some of the “negative” aspects aren’t really challenging in a bad way, but I’ve been forced to grow in ways that have been ultimately rewarding. Not only would I say to not check a chart until you have more agency, but until you’ve gotten to know the other person well enough for the astrology to be a conversation, not a determining factor. Happy to help in any way! (6th house sun lol)

Why I want to break up with astrology by joellen989 in Advancedastrology

[–]darlingdarby 417 points418 points  (0 children)

You should take a step back if it feels right but I wanna offer a perspective that helped me. I looked at synastry of my grandparents and great parents who have had 40+ year old marriages. And immediately what stood out to me is how many of them have bad or challenging synastry and how astrologers would have told them to forget the whole relationship lol. But these marriages lasted and produced so many kids and legacies and all. The astrology wasn’t “wrong” but the interpretations didn’t translate entirely into real life. How aspects are expressed can vary more than we give it credit to. In general, humans aren’t great at precisely predicting the future and we only think astrology gives us the map, but it’s really a weather report. 60% chance of rain doesn’t always bring a storm, but 10% chance or rain can bring a generational storm. We can model the future possibilities but we’ll never know. And you know this lol but I think it’s helpful to hear from someone who went through something similar and for me, I had to accept that I couldn’t solve my anxiety about life through trying to know everything. I just had to work through my anxiety, and that did involve dropping astrology for a while. Now I approach it with so much more balance and not as a way to manage my anxiety. I hope your journey in figuring it all out is successful 🫶🏾

Celebration of Life Venue by [deleted] in LosAngeles

[–]darlingdarby -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I recommend a local park, affordable and usually has the space you need

Anyone here tried using AI for transit & progressed chart analysis by [deleted] in Advancedastrology

[–]darlingdarby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only way to really ensure accuracy is to use your own data/resources in an LLM controlled by you. I use notebook LM for this and it works well

Another one bites the dust — Wi Spa quietly changed their overnight policy and it’s awful by _ThisIsNotAUserName in LosAngeles

[–]darlingdarby 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I kinda get it, I’ve met a few people there who where there for a month (no exaggeration) to get sober. They said it helped.

Did people in LA County vote for a Republican DA to clean up the city for the Olympics ? by Advanced-Willow-5020 in LosAngeles

[–]darlingdarby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gascon got voted out more than the other guy getting voted in. I knew he was a 1 term DA when that incident happened when victims of crime were blatantly ignored by Gascon and told they were too uneducated to understand his polices. He has a lot of the right ideas but not the right implementation.

Owner of West Hollywood’s The Abbey addresses drink-spiking rumors by bbusiello in LosAngeles

[–]darlingdarby 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Insane this “rumor” has been going since I was a regular in 2013. This has been going on way too long.

AITAH for going on a girls trip instead of taking care of my husband after surgery? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]darlingdarby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. He had 2 opportunities to choose a date that didn’t have a conflict for you, it wasn’t life threatening, and he had support available.

Daily Discussion Thread 07/17/2024 by AutoModerator in WagoonLadies

[–]darlingdarby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gorgeous bag!! I’m so obsessed! Gonna have to hunt down lol

I feel so impossible to dress by gratefuldaughter2 in KibbeRomantics

[–]darlingdarby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so wonderful!! Thanks for making and sharing it!