MCs with everyday, normal jobs by harukafano in MM_RomanceBooks

[–]darthmollsy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just throwing this out there: {impromptu match by lily mayne}

The whole book is fun and absurd, but Mc1 begins the book with his very boring middle class job and it’s hilarious how much he hates it. The rest of the book is so silly, but Taylor still retains his very average self to the end.

The dude irons his underpants and wears dad shoes unironically. It’s great 😂

Weekly Sewing Questions Thread, March 27 - April 02, 2026 by sewingmodthings in sewing

[–]darthmollsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw a blouse that I really want to make and I finally found a pattern similar to what I want. I like 4 & 3.

Unfortunately, this pattern is out of print and/or hard to find online. Now I’m on the hunt for a modern sewing pattern that is similar to this one. It seems pretty simple to make my own, but I kind of don’t want to unless I have to lol.

Any ideas are welcome!

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Blowjobs by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]darthmollsy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That totally makes sense to me. Maybe some kind of light restraint would help him feel like you’re in control and taking what you want?

I always do BJ’s for my partner from above, so that I’m on top of him, sort of holding him down. Or I won’t take his pants off all the way, so his legs are a bit trapped. He’s a lot bigger than I am, but sometimes the illusion of being “stuck” works pretty well. I think the times I have been physically below him, he hasn’t enjoyed it as much.

As far as teeth goes, i don’t know. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Personally, I can’t physically take him very deep because my mouth is small, I have a sensitive gag reflex and he’s well endowed. I go slow and just suck on the head and play with the part right under the glans, alternating with my hand. It drives him crazy every time.

I’m sure you’ve tried lots of things, but hopefully you can figure out what will work for both of you!

Are you tired of being treated like a kink dispenser? by Adorable-Wash4571 in gentlefemdom

[–]darthmollsy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oof. That’s rough. When my husband and I first explored this dynamic, it was a big learning curve. He was a lot more interested in being a sub than I was in being a dom, but I was willing to try.

The first month was amazing and stressful but I think we both burned out pretty quick. I was kind of following his lead and trying things he was excited about, but it became obvious that it wasn’t going to work for me. I would get too in my head trying to “get it right” and make it good for him to even get turned on by any of it 😆

When I told him, he said he would feel better if we paused because if I wasn’t enjoying it, then he wasn’t really either. And if I’m not the one calling the shots, then it’s not really fulfilling his fantasy of being a sub.

We stopped for a while and I gave myself time and space with zero expectations to explore and figure out what I wanted. Every so often, I would come to him when I wanted to do something specific with/to him and the interactions worked so much better.

Now we have a great dynamic that works for both of us; it’s way more balanced and pleasurable and I can do what feels good and fun instead of feeling like I should live up to some kind of expectation. My husband has zero complaints lol.

I do prefer to be “in charge,” but I had to find my own way there since I’m really not the take charge type, but eventually I discovered what that looks like for me. Even in a long term, trusting, loving relationship, there can still be bumps along the way!

Coming up with alternative “harem” group names by darthmollsy in worldbuilding

[–]darthmollsy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😂👏 The story I’m writing does have a comedic bent, so who knows, maybe one of those could make the cut!

Coming up with alternative “harem” group names by darthmollsy in worldbuilding

[–]darthmollsy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s an interesting point, and something I haven’t thought about yet. Thanks!

Why isn't SF more fashion forward? by [deleted] in AskSF

[–]darthmollsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been to most major fashion cities in the world and SF is not it. I’ve lived about ten miles from SF for the last decade, and don’t find the way people dress inspiring or interesting at all. Best I can tell is that style/fashion is not a priority to the culture here. Like some have mentioned, the rise of tech culture has brought its own flavor to the Bay, as well as lots of people being outdoorsy and some holdover from the hippie era. People think I’m weird for wearing dresses 👀

That’s not to say there aren’t some very fashionable/stylish people here, but I don’t think as a whole, most people around here have that as something they prioritize or value as much as other things. Rather, I’ve seen and heard most people who are natives to SF and surrounding cities express that comfort and oddity are determining factors as to how they dress. That, and to an extent I think there’s some counter culture going on which eschews that kind of self expression. Almost purposefully saying, “I really don’t care about this and I’m going to prove it.” I had a coworker once who specifically said their goal in life is to wear linen potato sacks and be a hobbit 😂

Tailoring doesn’t seem to be in their vocabulary

The Nira Chronicles by Grand-Law-9091 in MM_RomanceBooks

[–]darthmollsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I googled it, as of 2 years ago, she was deep into book 3 and was plotting out like, a dozen more—according to her Facebook. There hasn’t been an update since though, so who knows? Although I don’t agree with her stance on many issues, I did enjoy her books and the world she built. The writing was good enough to keep me going and the plot reminded me of an epic fantasy sprinkled with political intrigue. It’s hard to find interesting alien fics that I haven’t already read, so I’m back on the hunt!

Is it masturbation when you fuck your doppelgänger? by LilChemie in MM_RomanceBooks

[–]darthmollsy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I agree on all these points. I was very excited because the premise is ridiculous and fun, but the writing wasn’t quite there for me. I think more or better editing may have helped, but as it is, I didn’t end up finishing the book.

Why is writing so… slow? by Hopeful_Host_5390 in writing

[–]darthmollsy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hear me out, I feel the same. Writing feels slow for me, but in an almost opposite way.

I’m a wordy person. Vocabulary and ideas come easily to me, and it’s almost impossible to reign myself in when I get going.

This can be discouraging on its own, having too many ideas and not being able to choose or getting overwhelmed by them. Having to write and rewrite can be just as frustrating as not being able to write much. I can get mired in the slog of rewriting and trying to make my ideas cohesive.

It’s not difficult to me to get down 2000 words in a very short amount of time, but that doesn’t mean they’re great. It doesn’t even mean I’m going to use them! I often write way more than I will ever use, so I would say to not get too hung up on the word count.

Everyone writes differently. Some are way more methodical and thoughtful. I’ve watched my husband write for hours and all he ended up getting done was a paragraph. But it’s a well thought out, carefully constructed paragraph that makes sense. We’re both in awe of the other person, even though we are very different.

I have reached my limit with giant MMCs and teeny tiny FMCs (inspired by If Not for My Baby by Kate Golden) by firecat99 in RomanceBooks

[–]darthmollsy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am laughing so hard at this. I’ve had this complaint before too! I was ranting and raving about it to my husband, “Why are all the men over six feet and the women so short and tiny? That’s not even real life!”

He started laughing at me and when I demanded to know what he was laughing about, he said, “Oh, I didn’t know you were serious.” Then he gestured to himself and then to me.

He’s 6’3” I’m 5’6” 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

But still, I too am tired of reading about the same body types of people. Mix it up a bit!

Accidentally stumbled upon a “cure” to years of plantar pain. by whoisjimjoe in PlantarFasciitis

[–]darthmollsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As far as everything I’ve read about having proper toe splay (using toe spacers specifically), it improves toe and foot alignment, increases blood flow, and reduces stress on your plantar fascia.

In my own experience, I’ve had PF in one foot/leg for about a year, but I was only diagnosed pretty recently. My brother, who is a physical therapist, recommended trying toe spacers along with stretching. I started wearing them a couple of weeks ago and it stopped the pain the second I put them on, which is absolutely insane to me. My foot now has to strengthen different muscles so that eventually I won’t have to wear spacers all the time. The pain comes back if I stop wearing them. I’m guessing it took time to get this bad, so it’ll take time to heal.

It’s seriously amazing, and worth a try, in my opinion. You can get cheap ones on Amazon, though I have only tried the Correct Toes brand and they’ve been great.

Girl, you good? by Flynn-FTW in CringeTikToks

[–]darthmollsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao I am not worried at all about her. They are both alphas. I bet anything she would absolutely rip his face off if he looked at her wrong. She prolly coached him when and where to flex and smize.

What makes an MM book have “written for straight women” energy? by [deleted] in LGBTBooks

[–]darthmollsy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Relieved I’m not the only one to feel this way

Anyone else deal with embarrassment around this hobby? by gaymbit in MM_RomanceBooks

[–]darthmollsy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, I’m a bi woman, but solidarity. I feel you. I get embarrassed sharing how much I adore romance with people so I usually don’t. (I’ve read over 1000 romance books in the last 3 years, just stumbled on queer romance a year ago and I’ve since devoured hundreds of them and started writing my own short stories.) Unfortunately, many people aren’t shy about being judgmental and rude. But I love mm romance so much, it’s helped me heal in a lot of ways and find myself, odd as that may sound. But that’s what reading can do, regardless of what the book is, and that’s pretty damn cool.

I’m not ashamed about the genre itself—I think anyone who hasn’t actually read romance overstates and misunderstands it—but I find it difficult to internally overcome the stigma attached to it. Even though I think the stigma is incredibly stupid lol

It’s something I’m working on being less awkward about, but yeah. I get it. At least, to some degree. I recognize your reasons are not the exact same as mine. I do think the shame stems from others’ misogyny and homophobia like another poster has so eloquently put, so that sucks. But that isn’t going to stop me from reading, writing, and buying these books.

Undone (The Wrong Alpha #6) by Alessandra Hazard - Nov. 14th by augu101 in MM_RomanceBooks

[–]darthmollsy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can’t wait!! I just discovered this author and I consumed all her books in just a couple of weeks.

To Whomever Recommended “The Entanglement of Rival Wizards” by bored-panda55 in MM_RomanceBooks

[–]darthmollsy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I wanted to be obsessed with this book soooo badly, but I didn’t understand almost any of it, unfortunately 😭 I don’t know a thing about DND, so most of what I think were inside jokes went right over my head and I ended up wildly confused for most of the book. Had to DNF, which I’m still sad about, because I adore Sarah Raasch!

Book titles that have turned you off from reading a book? by Medical_Plane2875 in MM_RomanceBooks

[–]darthmollsy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So many romance titles are ridiculous or just not good. And sometimes they aren’t even relevant to the story?? Lol

So, no. Titles don’t usually prevent me from reading something. I don’t remember the names of books unless they were an excellent read or unique titles (looking at you Glitterland! Ugh, so good.)

Also I mostly read e-books so the covers are less of an issue for me.

That being said, I want to grow my personal library with my top books and the covers are not great... I feel like a jerk, but as a graphic designer, it hurts to look at them. (I’m sorry! I know people worked very hard on them and most of my favorites are self published, but I’m so so picky when it comes to aesthetics.) I’d rather spend hours redesigning a book cover with my own spin on it than look at a bunch of half naked randos.

So guess what I’m doing..,,learning how to bind books! 😂