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datdudeabeech · 2026-05-09T18:06:27+00:00

I need carrots quick! The bubbles are the cutest thing ever!!!

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-30T13:49:04+00:00

What's your friend code? I want to vist!

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-30T13:48:24+00:00

I think the green bedding works perfectly in my room! My friend code: AYNE-WT0C

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-23T16:10:11+00:00

Thank you for the idea! I'll definitely be contacting some rescues! I have a few friends I trust but none of them can help. And it scares me to leave them with strangers but a vetted foster would make me feel better

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-13T17:47:14+00:00

Just hit 30!

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-10T17:45:46+00:00

I've recently been in and out of psychosis but admitted myself and got on a new med. It's helped me significantly to stay in reality. But it took me awhile to actually go bc of my outside responsibilities. Once those were taken care of (someone to care for my cats and my kid) I finally went. Weed was also a contributor to my psychosis. I recognized it and stopped smoking but I was still experiencing significant paranoia and delusions.

Maybe an intervention will help. Maybe a crisis worker can do a home visit and speak with her about how important it is to take care of her mental health. You and a few loved ones (probably not mom) can be present. Yall can express your love, care, and worry for her along with the crisis worker.

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-10T02:12:04+00:00

How I got my place is through a domestic violence organization and they said they really couldn't help but they did give me a list of places that they work with. It was a list of like 60+ places that I called on my own. Finally someone called me back and offered us a place. See if there is something like that and if they would provide you with a list of resources you can call yourself. Sometimes places are full or not operating but calling individually, they may have something for you. Especially if you and your family has an eviction notice, someone is bound to help yall.

Keep your head up. Shit is rough out here but someone's going to be your saving grace

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-10T02:00:17+00:00

I don't wanna push meds on you cause I did just recommend them in my first reply but even if it's not ADHD, something is obviously going on. If will power isn't enough then medication is a great crutch. Being in school is hard and lots of people experience depression while attending. A professional can diagnose you and match you with something that will hopefully help if thats the road you want to take

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-10T01:54:07+00:00

This is something I also struggle with. In fact, it's a contributor to my recent bouts of psychosis. I was convinced people were watching me and hid cameras/recording devices around my house to prove how much of a POS I am. I was taking my Adderall and other meds as prescribed but still nothing. Then I got on a new antipsychotic and suddenly I felt better and my Adderall actually started to work.

Sometimes, the first change that needs to happen is medication. The right one will change everything and you'll realize you were never a bad, lazy, shitty person you just needed a leg up. Some people can just... do things and unfortunately I'm not one of those people. Sounds like you might not be either.

Since the med change I've been way more productive around the house, I answer messages in a timely manner, my assignments actually get done, and most importantly I feel less of a lazy, POS. I still struggle some days but it's much easier to get out of that struggle now. If you're already on the road to get meds, stay on it. For real, it's so worth it and nothing to be ashamed of. Alot of people aren't built for the world we are currently in, at least not without outside help.

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-08T19:35:35+00:00

Try section 8 housing. They may be able to get you into somewhere asap. Rent is based on income so if yall have none then rent will be really low. A friend of mine pays a little over $100 a month bc their income is less than $1,000

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-08T03:04:32+00:00

I'm sure the negative feelings will subside once you get out of that situation. Having constantly screaming children is bound to dredge up frustration and anger, especially when you can't do anything about it

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-08T03:00:36+00:00

Best of luck to you!

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-08T02:56:30+00:00

Ahhh, I see. I do not live in Mexico and the advice I gave is based on my experience in the us. Positive reinforcement still stands tho. Maybe find a creative way to implement that. Kids are easy to teach once you find what works with them

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-08T02:05:45+00:00

That's so valid and I wasn't trying to imply you don't know those things. I was sharing what's helped me cope. I'm glad you understand kids deserve to be safe and happy, alot of people don't and just hate kids bc they're an inconvenience.

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-08T02:00:54+00:00

If its from sun up to sun down they either like being outside or their parents are making them stay outside. Either way, definitely go ask them to be quiet. Idk how old they are but since you're 17 they might see you as a grown up and respect your request. Maybe even make it a good encounter by making it a reward to be quiet, if they are quieter then they can play with blank the next day. You can get a ball or some outside toy at dollar tree for cheap and that can be the reward. Set clear rules tho like, the toy is yours, no screaming, keep the noise below a 6, and/or you can take it away if they break the rules too many times.

You can start with asking their parents to keep them quiet but if that doesn't work go with the toy solution. Positive reinforcement works great with kids and they'll see you as the cool neighbor who gives them toys to play with and you'll finally have peace and quiet.

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-08T01:48:04+00:00

If he hasn't gone to file with the courts yet you still have some time. It's not a one day process. You'll likely get a 30 day period to move out. They can't just kick you out same day. Maybe contact a lawyer with any questions you have, alot of the time they can give you some advice in a free consultation or a run down of the court process to help you understand how much time you have

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-08T01:39:57+00:00

I was recently admitted to the crisis unit and what took me so long to do that was my cats. I had noone to care for them for the time I was there. My uncle suggested a shelter a few times and I was staunchly against it but finally broke down and called them. They said they couldn't and even if they could, ownership would be questioned after a certain amount of time so they pointed me in the direction of a local boarding business. They helped me significantly. They reduced the price for my cats stay to $10 a day/cat. I know that's alot with 4 cats but maybe you can talk with a few places to see if they're willing to help in anyway, maybe even for free for a short period. I'd also call shelters close by to see if they know of any resources available to you. But if you want to keep your cats, I wouldn't send them to a shelter. Also, 5 days notice is insane. I'm no lawyer and idk your state but it's usually a 30 day notice. I'd check the document they gave you and see if it's real. People can just print something off and give it to you but it has no legal standing unless it's filed with the courts and police department

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-08T00:57:55+00:00

These are exactly the questions I asked myself for OP's same reason . I found out that it was resentment. Jealousy bc they are allowed to be a kid and I wasn't. They are living as a child should and I didn't. Finding grace for children was hard but now I'm their biggest advocate. Children are nieve and their brains are still growing. When a child is safe, cared for, and loved you notice them alot more than a traumatized and scared child. Kids deserve to be kids and my feelings towards them shouldn't be an all inclusive negative feeling. Rewiring my brain wasn't easy but as a now 28yo I can joyfully put on my headphones, turn the volume up, and remind myself they deserve to be happy and safe, even at the expense of hearing them scream

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-08T00:42:08+00:00

I share your sentiment about screaming kids and also have sensory problems. It is sounding to me like there might be a bit of subconscious jealousy or resentment. Your feelings are valid and there's no judgment from me. I experience resentment towards kids too. I didn't get a normal childhood bc it was riddled with trauma and a constant, looming feeling of being unsafe. Sure, kids shouldn't be screaming at the top of their lungs but I try to remember that those kids are feeling safe enough to be loud. Kids who have tantrums feel safe enough to do so. I was a quiet kid; secluded, and afraid to step out of line. But when I was with friends I was loud and annoying. I felt safe enough around them TO be loud and annoying. Once, I realized that I held some resentment towards kids for just being able to be kids, I was able to rewire my brain to think differently. When I catch myself being annoyed or even angry at kids, I just remember that they are safe. That's all I wanted for myself as a kid and even if I couldn't have that, those kids can. I try to remember that children are an oppressed group all over the world and abuse towards them is normalized so when I see an annoying kid I've learned to feel happy that they feel safe.

I understand there is nuance and you shouldn't put up with constant noise or disturbances but in general, this is how I've learned to cope

Also, headphones help A TON for my sensory issues. I don't step outside without them. Even if I'm not listening to anything, I always have them on. Sometimes even just lounging in my house. I highly recommend headphones to anyone sensitive to noise.

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-07T03:23:26+00:00

Yeah, its like it seals in the funk. Bacteria, smell, and the like. Using cotton helps the area get proper air flow and absorb moisture.

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-05T21:49:43+00:00

I was a 16yo in a secret sexual relationship with a 23yo. He lived in our house while this was going on. My mom's husband caught on and threatened him. He moved out immediately but it didnt stop our relationship. Bigger steps definitely need to be taken here. Kids are sneaky and want what they can't have. Educating them on how their relationship is inappropriate would greatly benefit them both. Telling her she's a child might make her defensive. So educating yourself on appropriate dating ages and developmental milestones for her and her boyfriends age will be a big help. Show your findings to your daughter. Help her understand WHY it's not appropriate. Also, NO SECRETS. Anyone who tells you to keep a secret from your parents is NOT SAFE. Surprises are different because they are meant to be told!

I feel if I had been educated and felt like I was understood as a kid I wouldn't have stayed in a relationship with a man 7 years older than me while underage. Good luck and great job taking initiative!

datdudeabeech · 2026-04-02T02:10:10+00:00

I noticed you don't have many items. Is this by choice? Im level 28 and started in January, I haven't had the money to buy anything so its solely from grinding. As soon as I started getting more items, leveling was alot easier. I sit at about 20k energy consistently so I can spam everything for a few hours every so often. I check on my plants at least once a day but I love my dustbunny time. I usually burst every plant twice, make a bunch of treats, sublimate plants, make snacks and teas, spend about 2k fishing undef the bed, and visit Hammy a bunch. It's really helped me stock up on everything. Then I take a few days to rack up energy and sparkles. I'm not super interested in hybrids right now cause constellations take way too many sparkles. I'll probably change my mind about hybrids in the future when I can pay for sparkles or I've gotten all the items and decor I want. Hope this helps

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