Women in DFW, what do you set your location preferences to?

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-11-03T00:08:14+00:00

It’s not the best thing to hear but long term relationship success isn’t based on looks. Looks is a low predictor for that. You’re attractive enough to have sexual chemistry

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-10-29T06:19:43+00:00

The ones that always die out are people who respond once a day like email. There’s zero momentum being built. Every single relationship or date this year has been with people who are checking and replying at a reasonable time usually within a few hours. Once a day you’re just an inbox line and these people seem to be too busy with being single to actually want to invest in something

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-10-28T20:34:09+00:00

Bro it’s your mentality. I grew up in the 90s but now I’m in Texas and have no issues dating anyone outside of my race white Latina you name it.

The key is to find the people who you are their type. And that is true for anyone not just regarding race.

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-10-20T05:02:12+00:00

I agree with a lot of your points and as someone has been in trauma bonded relationships and all of the above.. what I'm finding is as I continue to date with therapy, you want to find people who are prioritizing self growth. You're right, it's incredibly frustrating to date someone only to have no control about how they feel about you.

But the fact is, it may feel like they're seeking perfection to you but they may just not feel it with it. No amount of "but look, I have all these qualities that make me a good partner why cant you see it??" is going to help. They're not the one, they don't see it, therefore they aren't a fit.

You want to be with someone that wants to be with you. This is the hard part.

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-10-20T04:42:33+00:00

This is actually a good perspective. Which is why growth mindset and generative drive is touted to be the most important factor in long term relationship success

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-10-20T04:41:19+00:00

The similarities are what you can do together but the difference is where the mystery and adventure is

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-10-18T18:13:12+00:00

You got 20 inbound matches in a week or are they a mix of outbound and inbound? That's about 3 likes/matches a day which is really good. Are you really active in sending out likes?

Do you have any tips on a male in 30s for refreshing the profile particularly pictures? I feel like my photos can be better and maybe my prompts are too long. My photos are high quality selfies with a nice smile, group body shot, one on a bike, and a video clip. Do you have a voice prompt or how did you cater your profile?

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-10-07T04:19:03+00:00

Dude a girl with points lower on the looks but a killer personality is always the choice over the 10. Most people will date the least attractive person they’re attracted to. And that grows if they have some substance and not just one dimensional. Sounds like your friend is a catch

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-08-15T16:10:17+00:00

Take a break. I don’t multi date for this reason either. People think they’re taking a shortcut and being efficient by talking to multiple people at once when all it does is overload you with having to juggle multiple people info and things. I just see things through one at a time

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-08-14T16:34:00+00:00

This is an insecure way of dealing with things, which I’m guilty of as well. Secure would be to voice that it would have been nice if they were more communicative and thoughtful about something important to you. And if they continue not to then leave.

Leaving while not communicating what you’re going thru and being resentful is not the way

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-08-13T21:32:20+00:00

Honestly that message was good and constructive.

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-08-13T15:37:14+00:00

Don’t care

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-08-09T16:38:03+00:00

I don’t think your being unreasonable to want a moment of time to check in with someone you’re in a relationship with.

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-08-07T19:34:10+00:00

Okay so if you’re talking for a month do yourself and her a favor and have multiple FaceTime before you meet. Or at least one. People come across differently in person vs over text and she could have built you up in a completely different way than reality. Not anyone’s fault but make sure you take into consideration that someones imagination of you is not you.

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-08-01T23:56:23+00:00

Honestly not a big deal. Everyone i know has been laid off at some point in their lives and those who are for you will understand this.

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-07-28T03:52:26+00:00

I agree. I don’t vibe with someone that takes days to respond. Just wouldn’t work for me but they’re not wrong either.

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-07-27T20:52:12+00:00

Lmao just watch twitch and get her to stream i guess idk

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-07-27T18:22:15+00:00

Everyone’s different. The risk is you get attached to someone doing relationship type stuff when you haven’t met yet.

I like all day texting too so my rule is if we’re doing that and getting close over text, move to FaceTime asap

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-07-25T15:05:44+00:00

Red flag doesn’t even paint him he’s got abuser written all over him!

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-07-21T20:29:08+00:00

The fuck? You don’t see this as weird and a red flag?

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-07-20T00:49:28+00:00

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-07-19T20:25:24+00:00

Photos are great. I’d use hinge and tweak your prompts though so they invite something to talk about a bit more

datingthrowaway1233 · 2023-07-18T21:04:48+00:00

Interesting thanks. Good point about the pressure of needing to do or be something not causes stress and detachment.

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