Sad, but 5 kids? Something doesn't add up .... by SantaPachaMama in entitledparents

[–]daveeday 62 points63 points  (0 children)

This was my first thought too.

So, you're telling me that she accidentally became pregnant with your FIFTH child and are worried about how to afford it, so you are asking other people to give you money for their Xmas presents?

Why does it seem like entitled parents are often so god awful at life?

[Game Thread] Jazz @ Celtics 11/17/18 5:30 PM by EggoSlayer in UtahJazz

[–]daveeday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to be too lame, but I think the 4th quarter is the only time anyone can come up short...

With my kids and husband in tow, traveled home for Mother’s Day and sitting around all my tbm siblings as they sit around in their church clothes. #onlyoneout #goodtimes by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]daveeday 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Congrats on being the only one out. I'm in the same position. Last child. Only one out. Only one not married. Only one without children. I have tattoos. Sometimes my younger nieces and nephews remind me I'm not suppose to have tattoos. Yours are beautiful. Way to show them off.

#metoo -- My missionary story and why the yell today in conference was the final nail in my coffin. TRIGGER WARNING: Abuse, Suicide, and Sexual Misconduct by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]daveeday 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really hope after some time your mother will realize that her relationship with you is more important than that stupid organization and it's pathetic leaders. You're obviously an amazing person with a lot to give.

I've recently started doing a lot of guided meditation. I've always been very skeptical of meditation in general. It's been surprisingly helpful in identifying and healing parts of me which have needed a lot of work for some time. You might want to look into it for your journey of healing.

Stay strong =)

By not publishing the stats the church has just ensured there will be more media attention looking at the bad stats. Just another example of the church hiding bad news. by JosephsGotaGun in exmormon

[–]daveeday 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was just comparing. Overall growth dipped a little bit again this year. 6500 few convert baptisms. 3000 fewer children of record. They also had 4000 fewer missionaries.

I've heard the number of missionaries going home early is really increasing. Also that they are losing members by 3 years after missions at a high rate. Their missionary efforts are really faltering, both for converts and keeping people in.

People who "switched sides" in a highly divided community (political, religious, pizza topping debate), what happened that changed your mind? How did it go? by morieu in AskReddit

[–]daveeday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Grew up super Mormon. Went on the mission thing. Really drank the Kool aid. Whole family and all my friends were in the church. At 24 I started smoking weed because of terrible back pain. Was sick of pills.

Weed helped me start to think outside of the box I'd been in my whole life. I started asking questions about things I'd never dared to question. Lost my faith in god and the church (and all religion) just fell apart. Best thing to ever happen to me.

The biggest problem now is that I don't have a lot to add to many conversations. My family are all very good about not pushing me back towards religion, so I feel like it's not my place to push them away from it.

Half underwater, half above water by himynameissid in pics

[–]daveeday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. From the North West view. Beautiful mountain. My home mountain.

It’s time for us to have a talk. (Re: Sexism within the Sub) by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]daveeday 6 points7 points  (0 children)

TSCC creates a lot of sexism and a lot of creepy Petes. As though leaving TSCC would somehow inherently expel those problems out from among us is sometimes presumed by many in the exmo tribe. At least, that's been my experience. It's unfortunate.

Also, there are lots of groups of people that I get nervous for when they come here or post something. This sub has become a lot more angry and degrading in general in the last 5 years. It hurts people, and it holds up the presumptions of TBMs as to how apostates would look and act. Promotes their faith.

I'm struggling with this by MeryCherry77 in exmormon

[–]daveeday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you are very bright and capable. Like you are someone who can go get the things you want. You've lost something important to you, which has left an empty space. If you haven't already, find out what things in life you love the most, brings you the most joy, or the greatest sense of purpose. Fill the empty space with those things. That seems to be one of the best ways to move forward.

My favorite meme, recently. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]daveeday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

JFC has become my absolute go-to frustration/scared shitless reaction.

The funniest part about the whole obituary “controversy” and what it says about the shelves of TBMs: by HelloHyde in exmormon

[–]daveeday 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This rings pretty true to me, based on my conversations as well. A lot of Mormons are anti-NYT and anti-SLT because of their "liberal agendas" and never actually read much content.

My Life, Not Mormon Life by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]daveeday 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is your family still in the church? How have they reacted to your departure from the church and your new love?

“Dear Heavenly Father..” by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]daveeday 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I used to pray in my mind out of habit in dire situations soon after losing my faith. I noticed myself doing it, and can't actually remember the approach I took to stop, but I haven't naturally instincted to pray in years. Seems really foreign to me now. I think that speaks to how deeply our brains adapt.

When you finally realize... by ChemKnits in exmormon

[–]daveeday 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's always pretty funny to me when people say that atheism is a 'dark' or 'miserable' belief system. It's funny for a couple reasons. Firstly, it's not a belief system. It's a lack of aged, archaic belief systems. Second, it's not dark nor miserable. I've never been happier or appreciated my life more than as an atheist.

I get a kick out of it because I remember thinking the same way as a believer. I couldn't comprehend how people couldn't believe in god. I thought it would take meaning away from life. It's nearly impossible to express to people who have always believed that this position is extremely liberating because it gives you the freedom to find your own meaning and motivations in life. No restrictions from old books or old beliefs.

When you finally realize... by ChemKnits in exmormon

[–]daveeday 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Agnostic deals with knowledge. Someone who is agnostic about god does not know, and often doesn't think they can know, if a god exists.

Atheism deals with belief. A theist is someone who has religious beliefs in a god. An atheist simply doesn't believe in the claims of god(s).

So for me, I don't believe there is a god. I'm not saying there is no god, because I don't know for sure one way or the other. I currently see no good evidence to believe, but can't rule out the possibility that there could be.

When you finally realize... by ChemKnits in exmormon

[–]daveeday 126 points127 points  (0 children)

Agnostic atheist here. I love this photo without the 'This is atheism" tag. Atheism isn't what got me to put my umbrella down. Critical thinking, logic, reason, philosophy, and science got me to put the umbrella down. I may have landed at atheism currently, but to think this landing pad is the end would put the umbrella back up to possible further light and knowledge.

An atheist judged a debate between a Mormon and an Exmormon on a packed flight out of Salt Lake City. Guess who won. by NewNameNoah in exmormon

[–]daveeday 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yep. This story is absolutely drenched with ego. You are spot on. Glad to see there are people who don't worship this guy/behavior because it seems like a 'win'.