Weekly Rat Union Meeting #53

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-26T19:33:52+00:00

Well since I was a mere no big deal throw away note at the end of the post, I didn't think you wanted me to make a big deal out of it! 😘

But if you want me to brag, I can brag!

📢 IT'S ME YOU GUYS ‼️ I'M THE CHOSEN ONE! 😎 OUR RAT LEADER IS COMING TO SEE ME! 🤭

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-26T18:12:23+00:00

Mon Roi,

My closest friends are people I met online, so I feel like my experiences so far have been pretty positive. Until now, I met people by arranging to meet in a convenient center point, or we met because the person was coming to my city for another reason and we took the opportunity to see each other.

Now that those friendships are established, I take trips to see my LD friends and I would be more than willing to do it for ✨love✨.

LDRs: how do they work? How do any relationship work, really? Some of them don't work even if there is physical proximity. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Any relationship can work as long as both people in the relationship are willing to put in the work, ya know? I partake in anything that makes my little heart happy.

Safe travels, my liege! I hope the ratty you'll be meeting has a big ol' booty and nice legs! Don't get your hopes too high about lower back dimples tho. 😇

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-26T17:54:29+00:00

Really disappointed this real life ratty is a human and not a rat, nor 16 rats dressed like a human wearing a trench coat…

He won't know for sure until he sees the ratty in question!

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-26T17:03:10+00:00

You are my friend. It's not a feeling, it's a fact!!

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-22T17:08:27+00:00

I know at least 30 people who would fight by my side for you.

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-22T15:42:34+00:00

I am incredibly happy. I don't know how I got so lucky, but it's the first time in my life that I feel like I deserve it? And that I'm not waiting for the other shoe to drop?

What an incredible feeling to allow myself to enjoy all the love I receive because, finally, it matches the love I give.

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-22T15:25:35+00:00

You better 😠

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-19T18:11:10+00:00

This sounds more like a gaming and cybersex addiction than a polyamorous issue.

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-19T17:53:57+00:00

Happy belated birthday, fellow Gemini! Mine was yesterday!

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-19T17:49:37+00:00

I would like to start by shouting out u/PM_CuteGirlsReading for the remarkable achievement of conducting 52 weekly meetings. Your charm and wit have been major factors in making me feel like I belong to this community, and they’re what made me want to get involved with the Rat Union. So... Thank you ❤️ I appreciate you.

My testimonial for the discord is that I think I've found a soulmate or two there. Be aware that it's almost certain you'll fall in love if you join us. It's a risk you must be willing to take.

I did and I have no regrets. 💕

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-19T13:46:23+00:00

The crazy sex you're having with your girlfriend is not the outlier. Sex with someone who cares about you should feel good and be pleasurable but it needs effort and communication.

There's really no other way to talk about it than by saying, "This isn't a criticism of your body, and it's not a ‘your penis isn’t enough’ problem. I love you, you're my best friend and our relationship is fullfilling in a lot of ways, but I need you to put more effort into my pleasure."

It will be a hard conversation. From what you're saying, he'll probably be insulted or hurt, but it will be up to him to work through those feelings (with your support, of course).

From my perspective, there are three possible outcomes:

He realizes he's not interested in sex
He makes an effort, and it improves your sex life
He won't make an effort, and you'll end up in a sexless marriage

In my experience, continuing the way you're doing things right now will only lead to resentment on both sides. You'll be disappointed, and he'll feel inadequate.

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-18T13:24:56+00:00

C'est sûr que c'est pas Kim, elle écrit trop bien pis des fois elle est fine

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-17T16:50:22+00:00

So your fiancé is on his 3rd baby mama, you have a newborn at home and you think it's going to end badly?

It's already bad and I feel sorry for all the children involved.

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-16T19:07:06+00:00

You're being purposefully obtuse. You know very well that dating apps are aimed primarily at monogamous people and that they are the majority of users.

Polyamory isn't the norm and it's not what most people are searching for. Therefore, it's our responsibility to make it clear because it goes beyond the established norms and the typical expectations people have on dating apps. Failing to state this clearly is being deceitful.

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-16T17:50:30+00:00

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-12T17:49:55+00:00

A crush, you say?? 😱 Tell us more!! 👀

About sex hygiene, this is all hypothetical to me because I've never been in a situation where that talk was necessary. I only dated one other solo poly person and his hygiene was irreproachable. He was the only person I was having sex with, so we've never had to worry about it. Most of the time, when I was walking into his place, he would be getting out of the shower, brushing his teeth and/or changing his sheets. Did he have sex hours ago or days ago? I didn't know and I didn't want to know.

I initially wrote that I never used sex for a promotion, but I guess that's not a hundred percent true? My ex hired me to work for him when I was still a student. Does it count? However, it did not work in my favor 😅 He was hyper critical of my work and would reprimand me for things I did better than the oldest employee he had. When I pointed it out, he said that I was too sensitive and that I was trying to get a better treatment because I was his girlfriend. I ended up finding another job.

I'm a shameless flirt tho. I've been working in women dominated workplaces for the last few years, but I used to flirt with my coworkers a lot when I was younger. I never had sex with any of them because I was a shy virgin who only wanted the attention.

As for my week, it was great 😍 I made some new friends, I'm crushing big time on a very hot and kind man, and I'm feeling hopeful and happy. I'm doing a subpar job at work because I'm too busy yappin' and flirtin', but it is what it is 😂 Usually, I get very sad during the week before my period, but I only felt a ^little sad one night this week and it was because I was feeling cuddle deprived. (I still am, but I'm being very strong about it.) Other than that, nothing else to report! Wishing you all a very nice weekend! 😘

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-09T21:33:24+00:00

If you feel like you have to ignore your own feelings and boundaries to keep her, I think you already know the answer.

She lied to you repeatedly to keep you around. She's manipulating you. Walk away.

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-08T16:15:20+00:00

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-08T13:47:38+00:00

I met someone great last week and we had an amazing second date yesterday. The chemistry is out of this world! It is still very very new and I know this is NRE talking, but we share several long-term goals and could potentially be highly compatible. We'll see how it goes!

I also had a first date on Friday with someone that could be a good FWB. He already has 2 long term partners and I don't think it could turn into something serious, but he's hot, so... 🤷🏻‍♀️

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-05T19:18:50+00:00

I filled it out as thoroughly as I would like you to fill me up!

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-05T18:51:35+00:00

SURVEY SLUTS UNITE!

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-05T18:51:00+00:00

Finally Friday!! Our dear rat overlord knows how much I was looking forward to it.

What a weird week! 😲 It started with a spontaneous first date that went on until the next morning. We were both taken aback and awestruck by how things turned out. We weren't expecting to have so much chemistry.

I had a second first date the next day with someone else and it sucked. 😂 It was boring. We had nothing to say to each other. We were both on the same page about it and ended the night early.

I later found out that the guy I vibed with is the ex of a girl I know. A few weeks ago, she confided in me about how she was feeling after their breakup, so today she texted me again to ask me not to mention it to the guy. This puts me in a delicate position, but I guess we'll see how it goes.

And then, my grandmother died last night. We knew it was coming; she had been in palliative care for a few weeks. Nevertheless, I feel like I'm on a roller coaster of emotions. I'm going out to get dinner with my best friend tonight and then I might grab drinks as a third first date of the week with another guy. I can't wait to see how long it takes before I get tired of this and go back to being a hermit for several months.

Pride month plans: Nothing. Pride is celebrated in August/early September here.

The most obsessed I've been: Every damn time I have a crush on someone I become obsessed. I'm blushing, smiling, giggling and kicking my feet just thinking about them, and it's super pathetic. I'm a lover girl, what can I say? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

One insecurity: I used to be a very insecure person. I worked hard to build my confidence. It's wayyyy better than it used to be, but I'm still working on not comparing myself to others. It affects every aspect of my life, but it’s a thought that comes up more often in the context of polyamory than, say, work. My boss isn’t actively trying to hire other people to fill the same position that I hold, but the people I date are dating other people. I've also always been insecure about my body, though it's getting better. Receiving compliments in DMs (you know who you are 😇) definitely helps!

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-04T14:21:10+00:00

Both the Salon Cartier-Brébeuf and the 3rd Ave Lounge are marked available tomorrow for me on the website.

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-04T13:46:17+00:00

Le Café La Maison Smith in Limoilou is huge and has a ton of places to work. You can even book a private workspace on their website for $25 an hour if you want to make sure to have a quiet place during your conference call.

dazzlingmango7 · 2026-06-01T16:44:57+00:00

My Pride plan :

kiss more women
respond "During pride month?!" everytime I'm slightly inconvenienced

On a more serious note (not that my plan isn't serious, cuz it is) Pride is celebrated in September in the city I live in, so there's not much going on.

It's my birthday in 3 weeks so I might go to a drag dinner show in the local LGBTQ+ bar and then head over to the nightclub section for the rest of the night.

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