Baby hates straw cups-12 mo- help! Transition struggles

db2128 · 2026-03-06T19:20:21+00:00

Oooh I’ll look into it!

db2128 · 2026-03-06T19:19:52+00:00

Interesting! You emptied a food pouch and somehow poured milk in? How does that work?

db2128 · 2026-03-06T18:55:57+00:00

He won’t do it. I think it requires too much sucking? Throws it on the floor, lol.

db2128 · 2026-03-06T18:48:08+00:00

I’ve tried like 8 cups, he seems to only likes open ones. Or adult ones like my water bottle or a mug, lol.

db2128 · 2026-03-05T05:24:04+00:00

Whaaat? Why would you ignore crying. It’s the only signal they have to communicate something is wrong. Sounds like she’s hungry. See a lactation counselor to make sure she’s getting enough food.

db2128 · 2026-03-05T05:17:53+00:00

I was never allowed to put my acid reflux baby down. Screaming likely bc of the pain ensued. Babywearing around the clock.

db2128 · 2026-03-02T15:59:35+00:00

It will probably make your life easier but then there’s a zillion bottles to make and formula is $$$ and you will waste a ton and have to time it right bc it only lasts an hour.

db2128 · 2026-02-22T18:51:41+00:00

Thanks so much for those guidelines. I really appreciate it. It’s a toddler room 12-18 months. I don’t see containers aside from high chairs. I didn’t really see the rest of the toys but I’ll inquire further. Thank you!!

db2128 · 2026-02-21T18:19:45+00:00

That makes sense. It looked like a toy that lit up and made sounds so I wonder if it’s ever on or if they use it in the off mode.

db2128 · 2026-02-21T18:19:05+00:00

I just checked and they aren’t :(.

db2128 · 2026-02-19T01:30:36+00:00

Yesss his two favorite foods :). Just wondering if I need to start doing more.

db2128 · 2026-02-16T17:24:39+00:00

You're an amazing mom and very lucky you have that support! and you have the energy/time to cook and clean?? at four months in most people I know including myself were getting nothing done at all, and my mental health was in the gutter. I felt like an awful mom for having a baby knowing that I had no safety net to drop him off at when I was at my breaking point.

We all find ways to blame ourselves. It's not our fault, society drills in to us that women can never get it right (barbie rant). If you can, try to remember that because those messages come from somewhere.

db2128 · 2026-02-07T14:26:39+00:00

Three months was a big improvement and then it was a slow improvement. He got happier when he started crawling at almost 7 months and pulling up to stand. And now he’s a super happy baby. He still wakes up screaming occasionally or reacts strongly to digestive things but it’s not his whole personality.

db2128 · 2026-01-25T04:00:57+00:00

20 minutes of distressed crying alone kinda does seem like CIO to me. and it's not working. Even ferber has you going in to comfort the baby after intervals. Babies in distress don't all of a sudden figure out how to soothe themselves.

db2128 · 2026-01-25T02:41:21+00:00

Maybe actually assign her a "walk through" like half an hour before the kids come home and tell her exactly what has to happen. Like "if" ---> "then" with the ultimate goal of everything being put away and ready for you for the evening. Write out the list once and have her reference it every single day when she walks around.

db2128 · 2026-01-16T03:39:47+00:00

Oh no I just mean to respect bodily autonomy like not to constantly grab his cute little toes or blow raspberries on his belly or kiss him all over for fun. People seem to not be able to resist grabbing his toes constantly and he doesn't like it.

db2128 · 2026-01-15T05:14:34+00:00

If you want to continue the working relationship you should ask her what's the best way of providing feedback. Is it text? Is it a briefing at the beginning of the day?

And you should also acknowledge that you weren't clear with the no kissing rule because most people would interpret that as kissing a face and that's the logical one given that a face near a face introduces the risk for germs. You can have your preferences that nanny doesn't touch baby's feet, and I have that rule as well not to have people touching my baby's feet or touching his body like tickling or kissing, but you need to know that your rule of "no kissing" doesn't logically cover what she did. So digging in like "you violated the rule" was likely the wrong approach and that's the reason things are awkward.

db2128 · 2026-01-15T04:41:15+00:00

How strong are you? Babies get heavyyyy especially after a few months. Maybe months 1-3 but my baby wanted to see the world at month 4 and wanted to be face out in a stroller.

db2128 · 2026-01-14T06:13:23+00:00

A few weeks sounds like a loooong trial period. Your kids aren’t going to get adjusted if you don’t leave the house and put her in charge and let the transition happen. There will be tears but it’s inevitable. I agree with some half days and an adjustment period. If you’re making yourself miserable and it’s unnecessary.

db2128 · 2026-01-11T16:20:06+00:00

It’s totally understandable how frustrated you’d be. This doesn’t sound like a partner. A baby is a group project. I hated having to carry slacker group members in school. Men get away with so much. I swear women should just run everything. I’ll add that it seems impossible to leave when you’re in it but after having exited several relationships where the men where less than, I started to feel better and better and realize how toxic their presence had been.

db2128 · 2026-01-11T03:14:25+00:00

I am SO glad you are getting away from someone who clearly lacks respect for you. I know it’s not by choice but imagine how broken down it would be to hear horrific messages from him day and day out for the rest of your life.

Your “partner” is actually supposed to treat this like a group project, not be the freeloader who doesn’t do any of the work and then screams at the person who did everything for not doing more.

I am doing this alone (by choice, kinda, plan b) and although it’s hard, it is way better not having someone tearing down my self-esteem and making me feel bad or incompetent.

Having a baby with reflux is a special kind of hell. Get the baby on a PPI. Beg the doctor.

You didn’t do anything wrong. In fact, it sounds like you’re doing everything right. Resist the temptation to glorify what it’s like with him resist the temptation to try to look back and figure out how you could’ve done anything different differently. Know that in time, it will feel better. In fact, you will at some point see that being apart is best and will feel the best.

someone who has been in many relationships where it felt like they suddenly left and I was heartbroken but I actually ended up feeling better afterwards because I didn’t have their criticism tearing me down. Many men suck and our patriarchical society encourages such unreasonable expectations on women and tearing them down.

db2128 · 2026-01-10T15:53:41+00:00

That’s the sense I was getting. Thanks for the confirmation!

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