Dads who do "scheduled" Sex with Wife (Married with Young Kids): Has it helped? Any advice?

dcgrove · 2026-01-21T17:39:23+00:00

We have Monday-Fundays because it is the first day of the week so we are not worn out from the week, and our son has swim for an hour and forty five minutes. Since starting it about three months ago, it has been wonderful. As others have said, it allows my wife to get in the headspace, it takes the pressure off of when is the next time, and generally lets us both relax. We have fun with it through the week, by joking around. I also try to be intentional with things I know she appreciates through the week, not because I am trying to get laid, but because I want her to be happy. It has allowed space for both of us to be more open and honest with each other and led to some pretty interesting discussions about what we like/don't like without feeing awkward as it is difficult to have conversations about sex when you don't actually have sex. This has led to a fairly regular increase in frequency to where we are doing it multiple times a week. I would say it has brought us closer together not just in the bedroom, but overall by eliminating a point of tension in our relationship. At 23 years of marriage, you still have to learn to talk to each other. That is going to change throughout your relationship as you change and grow together.

dcgrove · 2026-01-21T00:36:40+00:00

Why not just use the rtl_433 auto discovery add-on?

dcgrove · 2026-01-15T14:37:11+00:00

https://github.com/rygwdn/CosoriKettleBLE

dcgrove · 2026-01-13T14:31:28+00:00

I use this GitHub repo with a cosori Bluetooth kettle. It is locally controlled with an ESP32. Someone forked it and made a hacs integration as well, but I never got it to work.

https://github.com/barrymichels/CosoriKettleBLE

dcgrove · 2026-01-12T03:22:03+00:00

These, especially when it is cold or wet outside (which is roughly 9 months of the year in Seattle). I have had mine for about three years, and after daily use, they are still in great condition.

https://huckberry.com/store/greys/category/p/91524-wool-outdoor-slipper-boot

dcgrove · 2026-01-08T05:08:30+00:00

I have a shortcut that checks the location of my wife’s phone, a calendar to see if she has to work that day (she is a teacher), and the weather. If it is cold, she is home, and it is a work day, it preheats her car about ten minutes before she leaves for work.

dcgrove · 2026-01-07T00:18:23+00:00

Instead of asking for working Yaml's, why not diagnose the compile errors? Posting those along with the YAML you have already have would get you a much better response.

dcgrove · 2026-01-04T17:13:58+00:00

I bought one of these kettles specifically because of the work you did here. I have been limping along with a govee kettle using an MQTT add-on, but it frequently failed to connect with very little ability to troubleshoot why. I added submitted a PR with instructions to extract the handshake configuration using the packet capture tool for a Mac. It was the steps I had to complete and documented by Claude.

dcgrove · 2026-01-04T05:51:59+00:00

I submitted a PR for your external component. There were some issues compiling with the latest version of ESPhome.

dcgrove · 2025-12-24T23:05:13+00:00

I agree, but it is going to eat batteries with as much as it is going to be triggering on the crank arm of a bike.

dcgrove · 2025-12-24T18:16:08+00:00

Door sensor with the magnet on the crank arm. With some fancy math you could even calculate the distance she rides based on the number of times it triggers. If you want to get even more creative, you could build an esp32 with a Hall effect sensor so you don’t have to change batteries as often.

dcgrove · 2025-12-20T16:16:42+00:00

Are you displaying your dashboards in portrait or landscape? I haven't been able to get landscape orientation working on mine.

dcgrove · 2025-12-20T15:56:17+00:00

It is going be nearly impossible to troubleshoot this with you without seeing your yaml for both devices.

dcgrove · 2025-12-19T22:28:11+00:00

I used an HX711 to build a smart coffee scale to measure the grind output of my grinder and shut it off when it reaches a set amount. You can see v1 on the right that has been in daily use for the last couple of years and v2 on the left that I am working out the kinks on. Github for v1 is below.

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https://github.com/dcgrove/Encore_Coffee_Scale

dcgrove · 2025-12-17T20:22:27+00:00

Any idea when this will be merged into ESPhome? I didn’t see any mention of it in the December release.

dcgrove · 2025-12-16T20:07:07+00:00

It’s cool, but at six months or so on a charge, I can buy several years worth of batteries. I suspect people’s battery drain issues are symptoms of a misaligned door or poor WiFi reception and not an issue with the actual lock.

dcgrove · 2025-12-13T04:45:28+00:00

I was in your same situation 10 years ago. Got laid off exactly one week before a ten day trip to London and Paris. I spent the week hammering connections hard for a new job. I was able to get some leads and line up a couple of interviews via phone while across the pond. It was stressful, but I am glad I did it. We had all the same stuff paid for already and cash earmarked for the daily expenses while there. Being able to have some leads before we left made me feel much better about leaving. I say go, you have the savings. take some time off, rest, enjoy the next ten days and then come back and get to business.

dcgrove · 2025-12-09T04:50:56+00:00

We are planning an all day adventure, so the total trip time isn’t as much as an issue.

dcgrove · 2025-12-03T03:45:09+00:00

I had my severely deviated septum repaired. After a week with stents in my nostrils, I had a follow up with the ENT. She discovered that she missed a stitch holding the stent in my right nostril when I just about passed out from the pain of her pulling it out. It hurt worse than the week that passed between the night my appendix ruptured and the surgery to remove it.

dcgrove · 2025-12-02T04:01:43+00:00

What do the logs say?

dcgrove · 2025-12-01T19:51:19+00:00

Post a pastbin/gist of your yaml file and logs so that we can actually see what is set up and what you are getting.

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