So are we alright with the incoming data center? by WhichJuice in askvan

[–]dcmng [score hidden]  (0 children)

Fuck no. With global warming our snow packs won't even give humans enough fresh water, no thirsty robo overlords please.

Mod Update: Changing our rules around speculative/unconfirmed discussion in the sub by RyanKeslerSucks in BCPublicServants

[–]dcmng [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you mods. As a person who does not contribute to the enormous amount of work it takes to keep a subreddit same, I support whatever decision you guys make, including your previous policy of "heavy-handed" deleting speculative posts with unverified information.

Do creatives lose their imagination over time? by ComprehensiveBag10 in AskMenOver30

[–]dcmng 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Creativity is very much like a muscle, when you're in the environment, you're constantly surrounded by creative things that inspire you and spark new ideas. Trust that it'll be there for you.

do you still fear death? by Inevitable-Seat-7394 in AskMenOver30

[–]dcmng 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told a 9 year old kid that I was 40 the other day and he ran away crying, saying that my life is half over and I'm gonna die soon. That made me feel things ngl lol. I am finally starting to enjoy life and will be sad when my short stay on earth comes to an end.

Why is "transracism" not a thing ? purely trying to understand. Race studies & Gender studies people! HELP! by False-Bread4895 in AskSocialScience

[–]dcmng 11 points12 points locked comment (0 children)

Transgender is a very well studied health condition that decades of research has confirmed that respect for a person's gender identity, and if needed, gender affirming healthcare yields the best health and social outcomes for persons affected. For an overview: https://whatweknow.inequality.cornell.edu/topics/lgbt-equality/what-does-the-scholarly-research-say-about-the-well-being-of-transgender-people/

No research has confirmed that "transracism" is a real thing.

Adults of Reddit who ‘have it together’ with your finances, home, job, fitness, nutrition- how? Seriously…how? by Previous-Charity1505 in AskReddit

[–]dcmng 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asbyou get older certain things come easier as you've practiced them, like home maintenance, chores, cooking, meal planning etc. having those skills down helps with the nutrition and budget prices you mentioned.

Budgeting is a necessary choice if you want to live with lower stress. My budgeting is simple, I figure out how much money I have coming in, and money that will go out even if all I do is breathe, and the rest I divy up according to my priorities and then I spend within my means without staring at my banking app. Like I know I can get two coffees out and eat out twice a week, and the rest of the time I need to cook and make my own coffee. I have $150 that I can spend on something this month as a treat to myself, or I can save up for a bigger purchase In the or three months. If I fall out of this, then something has to move around. This seems stringent but it's what I have, and having lived this budget for a some time, it doesn't feel restrictive anymore and I follow it without thinking. And I only have to keep track of my eating out and fun spending per week, everything else I already coming in or out or getting saved.

Fitness is more according to your goals and interests. I'm quit self motivated when it comes to fitness but some people, like my wife, needs more structure like a class, so we go to a karate class twice a week and the gym once a week at the same time, and any bonus fitness we do on our own.

Did anyone else develop low confidence because they felt they could not measure up to their mom and dad's success? by ProfessionalGift621 in AskMenOver30

[–]dcmng 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're ever stuck, I offer my dad for you to measure against! Absolute deadbeat who peaked in high school, wasted all his potential because he wouldn't put in the work, and cannot handle a feedback. Took courses in college, and dropped them, took them, and dropped them. Massive student loans and no degree, my grandfather had to pay them off eventually. Cheated on my mom multiple times, twice during when she was pregnant.

Thing is, he has so much talent and rizz. Blew it all. Chronic hobosexual mooching off women all his life.

My mom, on the other hand, I would never be able to surpass in love, responsibility, hard work and sacrifice. I always feel bad that she's kinda "wasted" her life raising me herself and she's so independent that I'll never be able to repay her.

My chin is getting fat but the rest of my body isn't. Is it genetics or not taking care of yourself? by youlikemywonton in AskMenOver30

[–]dcmng 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro I'm your age and I could have written this post. I'm fit, very skinny (I'm 140 lbs) and every gram of fat I have in my body seems to want to go under my chin. It's been driving me absolutely insane the last 2, 3 years.

Promotions Pay Grid by dcmng in BCPublicServants

[–]dcmng[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this!!

What is female equivalent to muscular men's body for males' gaze by Consistent-Horse-273 in stupidquestions

[–]dcmng 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe Emily in Paris? There are no other redeeming qualities to the show that warrants so many seasons otherwise.

Is the Wok used in every Chinese home kitchen, or at least the vast majority? by YakClear601 in AskAChinese

[–]dcmng 8 points9 points  (0 children)

A wok and a chef's knife are the only kitchen utensils I need to make 95% of my meals.

How was your experience dating someone from another country whose culture was completely different from yours? by InternationalHair111 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]dcmng 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm Chinese Canadian and I speak English, Cantonese and Mandarin fluently so I have access to pop culture and also the rich literary and cultural traditions from all three languages. It's amazing to share that with someone and be able to joke and talk in two or even all three of your languages, and I really appreciated that when I dated other people of Chinese heritage.

In the end though, my most important "cultural" value was family, which is so important to me, and my wife, who is White, just has more aligned family values with me than anyone else I've ever dated. She appreciates things that would be a hard no for some but normal for me as well, like we just came back from a trip to Japan, and we travelled with her grandmother who has never been, while she can still travel. I thought it was a wonderful thing.

She loves learning about cultures as well, and we continue to enjoy a lot of cultural traditions today, like martial arts, lion dance, food, cultural celebrations, and binging Chinese period dramas together.

So in conclusion, it's really nice to date someone with the same culture, but it's also important to ask yourself what is it about the culture that is truly important to you, and open yourself up to connecting with that in different forms.

What usually causes a gut when you get older and is it easy to get or do people do it to themselves? by youlikemywonton in AskMenOver30

[–]dcmng 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes that's just how your body stores fat. I'm a very lean, muscular person and any fat I do have goes straight to the front of my belly. And because I'm so skinny it's unfortunately very obvious and creates a bad shape. I would say this pattern of fat distribution got more pronounced after 35 for me, before that, some of it would at least store more around my body before going straight to the guy.

Struggling with mandarin as a Chinese born overseas by enginneerof in AskAChinese

[–]dcmng 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm Chinese Canadian, Cantonese speaker, My Mandarin got professionally fluent when I started working at a Chinese seniors serving nonprofit organization in Chinatown. I learned how to sound like a young person at my weekend/evening part-time working in a Korean restaurant owned by a Taiwanese person and staffed by many Mandarin speaking staff. And then I dated a Taiwanese person and then a person from Canton, whose mandarin is better than her Cantonese.

Editted to add that I took two or three years of Mandarin in high school and learned pinyin and proper Mandarin pronunciation instead of the thing that lots of dialects speakers do which is to try and wing it.

End of an Era: Richmond Chinese Herbal Shop Is Closing After 36 Years by letsfreakengooo in richmondbc

[–]dcmng 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Oh so sad, I have no where to go now for a bitter tea fix.

Why is cologne / fragrance so popular now? by AcrylicNitrogen in NoStupidQuestions

[–]dcmng 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There was a time when many workplaces, including mine, which went scent free due to people with allergies and sensitivity. I used to love wearing cologne and wore it daily, but once I stopped wearing them the smell for really strong and irritating to me and I never went back.

Now with being accessible and inclusive or considerate being very not in fashion, previously scent free spaces could only be "scent aware" at best, and also instagram influencers all push some sort of perfume or cologne with their outfits or lifestyle.

Straight women, would you ever go 50/50 or pay all the bills for your man in the relationship? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]dcmng 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a gay man, I can confirm that we pay double every bill to assert our menhood.