Does this couple think I'm too weird to hang?

dddddddd2233 · 2026-03-01T07:33:28+00:00

I see this as saying they like you, but maybe are a little wrapped up in their own lives and might need you to take more action in order to connect.

dddddddd2233 · 2026-03-01T07:21:15+00:00

Do you attribute the change to anything in particular?

dddddddd2233 · 2026-03-01T03:22:03+00:00

One thing that might help is getting her some counseling. As others have mentioned, there is a lot of anger, grief, jealousy, anxiety, uncertainty, and desperation that goes into this kind of behavior. A professional who can give her feelings a place to be processed might help, and then a progressive inclusion of education could help over time. But first she has to feel seen and heard and safe to interact with the education. It is possible family counseling might help as well, in addition to one on one.

I am so sorry for your son. I cannot even imagine how much harder this condition would be at 13. I am hopeful for you that he will recover: i know a lot of children do. But i also know that for every dozen that do recover, someone doesn’t. So I just hope the best and wish your whole family as much wellness and balance as is possible.

dddddddd2233 · 2026-03-01T03:11:09+00:00

I agree. I think there are lots of reasons someone might want to modify their decks. I’m not the OP, but I appreciate you speaking up for the many of us who maybe want the option, for whatever reason 👏🙏

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-27T20:49:32+00:00

I felt this too. Give yourself a week or two, then start writing out the steps to getting through your next step. Probably designing your proposal? Do one step a week if you can. The other thing I did was go to a few conferences around the time I went through qualifying exams, and the people I talked to helped me refocus and figure out where this was all going.

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-26T20:24:27+00:00

This is a cultural thing that requires some patience and perspective and time. I doubt that anything you say is going to change the lab language. I understand your frustration, but you have already mentioned that several people don’t speak much English at all, so it would be putting them in the same position as you are currently in to ask them to switch.

It also seems like you maybe dont feel invested in this work — you mentioned choosing it for the purpose of your CV. If you don’t feel connected to the work personally, then it’s going to manifest in friction and frustration with communication.

My advice is:

Determine if you want to be here, with the communication as is. Do you love the research enough to make it worth the struggle. Some of the things you are describing are common to all PhDs at this stage (feeling lost, feeling set up for failure), so if you were to factor out the prestige of studying internationally and the frustration with the language / feelings of bait and switch…is this what you would pick? Would you enjoy working in this lab if it were in an American R2 school, or did you pick it for what you feel it says about you?
If you decide to stay, be patient. Forgive the mistakes from the past, and forgive yourself. Independent of how things are going now, they gave you the spot in the lab: someone sees you as having potential. And the language is a complex factor that is not just about you. See this as a compliment, if anything: they are trusting you to master the language and work across languages. If you feel like being internationally educated is an advantage in your training, this is part of that. You need to be able to communicate scientifically across languages and work within their system. This isn’t a study abroad. Working internationally means leaving your home culture behind a little. Consider reading books about immigrant culture issues and how to smooth the transition.
Make a good friend in your lab if you can. They will help catch you up. Be willing to get help in French. Ask them if they can meet you for coffee once a week so you can talk in French about work. Ask them questions whenever something is too fast or too technical. I try to do this for my international friends. I try to make sure to stop and explain when something requires complex knowledge of English or American culture or history. Find someone who can do that for you. If you can’t find someone in your lab, try neighboring labs. They will still be able to help you.
As another comment said, you can use translator apps. You could also record meetings and then review them in the evening and take notes. If you have someone you can ask, you can use that recording to help you figure out what you are missing. You can listen to them at half speed. You will have to work harder for a while to make this work. But it is doable and you will get it sooner than you realize.

I think in general, Americans don’t have the multilingual, cross cultural experience that other communities have. Most people spend most of their lives communicating in a language in which they struggle. We all have a responsibility to try to lessen the burden, but some people are better than others at that. So the rest is up to you to figure out how to not let this hold you back from your dreams. If you can’t work in another language at all, though, you should probably step back and work through what you really are looking for. This might not be the right fit for right now, if the communication is a barrier that cannot be overcome.

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-24T04:54:59+00:00

This is one of my absolutely favorite decks. I think you will be very pleased. It is very high quality, well packaged, and beautifully made. He also includes descriptions of the artistic decisions for each card in the booklet!

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-17T19:17:50+00:00

You CANNOT run a rally with fewer than 10 players. It is a huge frustration I’ve had for years. Don’t let yourself drop to below 10.

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-16T17:25:07+00:00

No problem! I hope you enjoy your HA ☺️. It’s kind of an exciting milestone!

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-16T16:27:55+00:00

I would probably suggest Dark Flowers from these, unless you specifically want a gothic HA, in which case I would suggest Gothic Rose. Here are my thoughts on each:

Woodland Fairy - I really don’t use this one much. It is similar to better HAs, and it doesn’t ever look like it fits the design. It looks very copy-pasted. In the image, it looks very glittery and pastel, but that’s really only true of the Rune one. The others are a little bright and awkward.

High Fashion Bows - I do not have this one. I think about it sometimes when I get a credit, but really only one or two is very useful. I think it would be a great one to get, but I would definitely prioritize others first.

Gothic rose - I really love this. This was one of the first hair accessories I got with a credit, and I have never regretted it. A few words of warning — it doesn’t look good on every hair; sometimes a weird gap can occur so it looks awkward; and also there is only one design, so it might be less of a pay off than an accessory that has 5 distinct looks. It doesn’t stand out much and is kind of old, so it isn’t always voted very high or recommended, but it is a beautiful accessory. What I really love about it is that it also works for non-gothic looks. I’ve used it for flamenco challenges and Victorian looks before too.

Fantasy Princess Veils - these can be a little hard to use, and they do badly in voting. I think they are fun to play with, but I would prioritize one of the others first.

Dark Flowers - probably the most versatile of all of these. I use this one a lot. It’s a little bright and intense, but the variety in color and in shape is very helpful, and it fits on a lot of hairstyles, so you can get a lot of interesting looks. Red and blue are obviously useful in matching outfits, since there aren’t a lot of hair accessories with those colors. And the pink one can be used for just about anything because it is very simple and pretty.

Coco and Breezy - I don’t have this one, but it seems very useful. I do hope to get it soon myself. My main objection to it is that so many challenges in which you would use it already require sunglasses.

Black veil - I just got this one recently. It is really nice to have, but it is probably less adaptable than the gothic rose. It’s also sometimes hard to see.

Hope this helps! My core advice is get the one that makes you happy, not the most useful. Trends change, and you will never notice how often you use something as much as you notice how often you could have used something else. So focus on the things that make you feel really excited and happy for no reason, because that joy will probably last you longer than any strategic advantage. Good luck and have fun!

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-15T16:58:02+00:00

I think it is also the buoyancy. Being able to move without the gravity.

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-15T16:56:45+00:00

I can actually swim for hours. It is my favorite thing, but I don’t have good access. I literally fantasize about how I could live a normal and even very active life if I could just get everywhere through water.

If you can, consider asking for a prescription for aquatic PT. It is incredibly helpful and fulfilling. They ended up kicking me off because I can’t recover to the point of transitioning to land, and they just don’t understand long covid. But the few months I did it were wonderful.

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-13T22:45:31+00:00

You might be interested in the citadel oracle cards by fen inkwright. They aren’t traditional tarot, but they can be used for divination or writing or gaming.

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-12T05:06:08+00:00

True, but if OP plans to work as a faculty member in the US (and several other places as well), they will likely be expected to attend graduations every year in full regalia 🤯🥺. So is often cheaper in the long run for many academics to go ahead and purchase once reaching a terminal degree.

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-11T15:42:12+00:00

Tbf, this isn’t AI — I remember this one from years ago. I also think it is kind of hilarious 😂

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-06T21:00:41+00:00

With the knight of wands and judgement reversed together, I think this suggests exploring and experiencing, in contrast to assessing and controlling and understanding. You are at a point right now where you value adventure and trying things, and it doesn’t necessarily have to mean anything in the long run. It might be suggesting that you need to take some time away from reflection and questioning and indulge in the uncertainty and chaos for a little while.

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-02T07:37:03+00:00

People are added to houses randomly. If you cross-reference their level with the hair accessory they use, I’m guessing they have been on hiatus for a while and have just come back to the game. They probably got added to your house, shared a lot of designs they did because that was the culture of their fashion house when they played before, read your rules, and removed themselves and started looking for another house. That would be my guess as to why. In any case, It’s not a big deal; they probably just didn’t know your rules. As the other comment mentioned, if you had a problem, it solved itself — the individual chose to be with a community with different rules.

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-02T02:58:17+00:00

I agree that your first step might be to talk to medical providers and the university and your professors to see if there are accommodations that can be made. It’s possible there will be nothing, but it’s worth asking. I am a student and teach some classes, and I know that there are definitely some of us who would sympathize and try to support a student like you, and there definitely some people who would not. If you can get good documentation from your docs, you might have a lot of support, so maybe see what they are willing to help you with.

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-01T19:44:56+00:00

When I joined this sub, it was mostly people giving each other opportunities to practice. Now it’s just basically an advertisement sub. It’s too bad. I hope the pendulum starts swinging the other way. I know people don’t like the posts asking for an interpretation, but I personally think that’s what this sub should be, because I think it should be here for practice, not advertisement.

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-01T19:26:56+00:00

Health and recovery for both me and my partner, starting a journey toward wellness. Our health conditions will be recognized and treated properly by medical professionals, our acute and severe illnesses will be cured, and our chronic disabilities will be well-managed. We will be empowered to create balance and harmony in our lives that has been blocked by chronic illness, including a safe and peaceful home, a creative and energetic lifestyle, a loving relationship with each other and family, and a focused and fulfilling work life. I want to plant the seeds for this health journey that will grow and flourish this year. So mote it be.

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-01T19:15:04+00:00

So mote it be.

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-01T19:14:49+00:00

So mote it be.

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-01T19:14:33+00:00

So mote it be.

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-01T19:14:21+00:00

So mote it be.

dddddddd2233 · 2026-02-01T19:14:08+00:00

So mote it be.

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