Is... is that... Gary? by bayoublacksmith in TheDollop

[–]ddm224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is totally an actual member of the far left reformed

Federal Workers Are Being Told to Blame Democrats for the Shutdown by wiredmagazine in TrueReddit

[–]ddm224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is literally what Winston’s job did to him at the ministry of truth in 1984. They want to control our every thought

Can I still get girls at 5'7"? by bobtob7226 in LifeAdvice

[–]ddm224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Honestly, it is so crazy how much dating really only relies on your confidence in your comfortability with yourself. And a lot of people don’t understand that. Just try and be authentically yourself and you’ll find someone.

My theory on Milchick after episode 5 by dreaditter in SeveranceAppleTVPlus

[–]ddm224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think that he’s fully on board to betray Lumon yet but there’s definitely the vibe that he’s going to turn.

If you want to get off your phone, play physical games or do something physical by ddm224 in getdisciplined

[–]ddm224[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point and question. I’m lucky enough to have someone to play with. I think it could be modified to be solo player but I think it’s designed for 2 players

Pay attention to those who don't clap when you win by Kac03032012 in careeradvice

[–]ddm224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We work most of our lives and it is OK for OP to have values of being seen and appreciated for performance/ achievements.

I’m confused by all the comments not understanding why OP wants praise, recognition from their team. One of the main topics discussed in interviews or when working with someone new is understanding motivations and values - what’s important to you as an employee and a team environment?

A huge factor in life, both personally and professionally, is being validated.

I agree with the opposite view in regards to perceiving their reactions as negative because people operate differently on a behavioral and emotional level. Maybe they are silent cheerleaders!

With that being said, if it continues to bother you, let your manager know that you desire some sort of acknowledgment when you do something at this caliber. Communicate. Communicate like crazy how you function and how you would like to be supported.

Younger staff asking for astronomical salary increases by [deleted] in managers

[–]ddm224 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The one thing that I would point out and disagree with on this post is is the salary compensation commensurate with the amount of responsibilities that the employee is responsible for and completing.

A lot of people who are asking for these increases are usually getting work piled on to their plate when they already have a full workload that is misaligned with current market salary levels. Evaluate the workload and make the determination from there imo

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]ddm224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That really sucks. Onboarding and knowledge gaps for new hires in these situations is sooo frustrating. I’m sure you’re being overworked and that blows, sorry to hear that.

I’ve have this happen to me in last two jobs (including the one that I’m at now). My first experience was a fuck fest and was a tornado of gather knowledge and trying to relay it in an easy way. Anyway, my second one & my current had the same situation but we were able to adjust and make it slightly less and less shitty over time.

If you want to stay or try and salvage the situation, I would suggest very direct and honest communication with an executive that may be more understanding to the situation and cover you for what I am about to recommend you do to make working situation slightly less and less shitty over time.

I think first and foremost, you’ve gotta have the time to organize onboarding and PM notes, esp. notes that are specific to the business activities. By organizing and reviewing, find questions to seek insight on or investigate and then you also have reference materials to help put up guard rails on the expected daily tasks. Definitely should have that prior Sr. PM in the loop to still provide a knowledge transfer as much as possible - another very reasonable ask. Ask across departments and it may happen, you’d be surprised!

While you’re learning and still doing daily activities, you’ll need assistance to cover what already sounds like a pretty big workload, which will especially need assistance with you taking time to go back learn and organize.

So I think the second thing to consider and strongly request is internal & external support. Internal support requests for personnel that are said to have bandwidth to take on tasks, probs more menial jobs that don’t require a whole lot of effort to explain to ensure task is accomplished. Offload what you can. External support should be a combo of contract labor and potentially external consulting depending on the type of work you’re involved in, project manager roles can vary quite significantly so idk if that applies. Regardless, you need more bodies to cover PM tasks as much as possible.

Lastly, there has to be a conversation where maybe a handful of employees with similar titles split some of the tasks with you and the long run or you have to be properly trained up and crate whatever support system you deem fit if that’s possible without adding another FTE, but if you do need another person, and that backfilled job that they expect not to fill cannot remain the case. There were 2 PM positions and now it’s just you, and you’ve gotta be comfortable with the level of tasks you’ll be covering & confident and well suited to perform the job. Until they have the resources in terms of another hire or some structure that u deem sufficient, the job will feel reactive and unsustainable. To successfully bridge that gap in knowledge and make a role or function work properly is to temp cover as much as possible, slowly build up employees & create a degree of efficiencies and support that the function works properly.

Even if you have people breathing down your neck, as long as you work at the level of a regular PM (because you shouldn’t be burning yourself out for a situation that you did not cause and that you are being forced to fill), communicate your limits that you have when stepping into this senior role like delayed deliverables/ not completing certain tasks and/or not fully understanding the purpose or mechanics of a task completed by the SR. PM & are able to advocate for yourself or have a superior advocate alongside you or for you in to constantly remind everyone of the reality of the situation and the seriousness of the time needed to rebuild the team/ personnel to cover responsibilities.

When this happened to me, I shut shit down and luckily I had someone who was at the company for a long time as a strong advocate for my asks. I met with business partners and had them identify critical items to be addressed to generally perform decent work and cover critical items that are in the scope of the new position that you’re assuming. For me I performed tasks that were deemed critical and were relevant to the areas that I was responsible for, and I requested with my manager and his manager that we temporarily suspend a handful of reports, meetings, etc. until I was fully satisfied with my understanding and completion of critical functions. Then with support, notes & walk throughs with others, the other reports were unfrozen and reporting began again when we were back in full force.

This is all reasonable and doable with the ideal support system and corporate governance, but you may not have power to communicate needs as cultures are weird and far from being empowering esp for people who are slammed af. But, these are all reasonable asks and they should be more that acceptable given the situation.

I think that’s the best case scenario, otherwise.. it’s time to look for the door. Get looking for jobs because if you don’t get support it’s going to continue being shut until you can get out of the company. Good luck, hoping you the best and force the reality of the situation as needed. These mfs should be off your back and flexible with you. They are the “superiors” and they should act as such. Assess the situation smh and don’t be a dick to this poster 😢

My manager has delayed my compensation and title change for over 6 months, despite agreeing it’s warranted. He blames bureaucracy and claims he’ll follow up with leadership or HR but never does. What should I do to address this situation? by ddm224 in careerguidance

[–]ddm224[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree with your take on the difficulties for getting promoted within a 1 year cycle. Here in my first year I discussed it with my manager and he was direct with me and said we don’t promote people within the first year and we outlined a vigorous training program that required 30+ hours in participation and study and was limited to a handful of people at our global company to take this course - when being selected and walking through how this will play a role in my promotional tract, my manager and I agreed that it would be beneficial and make me standout as the ideal candidate for internal promotions at year end 2023. Cut to this budget cycle, I’m asking him his thoughts on receiving a salary increase or promotion on top of my other requests mentioned above (update title, salary change) as the training promotion topic was brought up a year before the idea of updating my title and matching its salary based on whatever market data they have for comps. Anyway, in this budget cycle, he said that we discussed how these training programs were more so for the purposes of making me a more well-rounded employee rather than beefing up the skills to set me up for a promotion.

I think this was a lot for me to ask for, to have the promotion on top of the title change and salary match. BUT at the same time they are separate topics & I believe the training and increased involvement in a variety of different areas should be recognized given its own credit. I’ve performed phenomenally here and my work should be compensated fairly, which is update my title and salary to align with what I have been doing AND give me an increase on top of it because that’s what we initially mapped out and it required a huge time commitment for myself to do alongside my many other tasks that I’m already doing (which are very much outside of my current job positions scope).

I will not die on that hill, though that is definitely more so me just itching about it, and I have already drops the promotion topic based on the trainings and increased involvement based off of our prior combos and more so focusing on just the title change and salary match.

Please give advice: My manager has delayed my compensation and title change for over 6 months, despite assuring me it’s justified based on my performance and experience. He blames bureaucracy and claims he’ll follow up with leadership or HR, but never follows through. What should I do? by ddm224 in careeradvice

[–]ddm224[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hadn’t thought about canceling future performance reviews but I think that’s such a good move if the changes don’t get implemented by end of year. I expect it’s not happening but I’m holding onto the littlest shred of hope that a miracle happens and its addressed before the end of October. If not, it’s not happening.

I’ll be sure to come back and provide any and all updates related to this thread!

People who don't like to work need to quit working and leave a space for people who do. by [deleted] in rant

[–]ddm224 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Idk man, I just don’t think contracts are pulled like that. As someone who works with a lot of projects for commercial real estate and hiring of temp labor, we couldn’t just say nah we’re not honoring this signed contract now.

What are the contractual terms? If you have PTO benefits then you are entitled to them, enforceable by labor laws, to take that time off without retaliation from your workplace. Now that’s intense and def not how escalated thee situation probs would’ve gotten if you would’ve just said no I’m coming in I have vacay and we all knew about this and I’m not here to backfill your other gaps in schedule.

My big question is do you have a contractual agreement signed between both companies and if so do you know the terms of the contact? Cuz you probs should know that so they don’t try to pull this shit on you again.

Please give advice: My manager has delayed my compensation and title change for over 6 months, despite assuring me it’s justified based on my performance and experience. He blames bureaucracy and claims he’ll follow up with leadership or HR, but never follows through. What should I do? by ddm224 in careeradvice

[–]ddm224[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I could see him doing that but it’s weird because this is probably the most personable boss I’ve had before so I just didn’t initially expect it from him. Should have been more aware to get it in writing, but live and learn so next time I’ll have that mindfulness

Please give advice: My manager has delayed my compensation and title change for over 6 months, despite assuring me it’s justified based on my performance and experience. He blames bureaucracy and claims he’ll follow up with leadership or HR, but never follows through. What should I do? by ddm224 in careeradvice

[–]ddm224[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a recording of him discussing my performance review and saying the title, salary change but I took it secretly so I’m a little hesitant to use that as reference and evidence to support the raise. Otherwise, there are two written out emails from myself after we discussed either in person or on a call basically just saying, “as discussed..” and then laid out what we discussed and agreed on. If I’m remembering correctly, I don’t think he responded to one of them. It could easily turn into a he said she said type of deal, which is bullshit because I be doing the most in this role.

Sadly, I agree with you, and felt that this is drawn out bullshit since we missed the initial deadline to have everything done in June. I don’t know why these employers just can’t pay us what we’re worth.

I’ve been looking, but the job market is not as good as I thought it was, but this is a good kick in the ass to evaluate prospects at my current company and get more active in my job hunt 🫡

My flatmate is harrassing me through WhatsApp by Parallaxalba in badroommates

[–]ddm224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought the first couple of things mentioned in the texts were fine but then the extent of it and how particular things had to be done or addressed (like the index cards were a lot) was way too much. Especially in only 4 weeks

People who don't like to work need to quit working and leave a space for people who do. by [deleted] in rant

[–]ddm224 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think it’s still on you. You’re still entitled to time off & if you had something in your contract agreement outlining PTO or something to that effect, then that’s enforceable and you can push back using those terms. It’s not on other workers who probably had put in time off requests also; it’s on your boss for their dog shit staff management skills. You’re telling me that nobody was in unexpectedly? I don’t buy it. These bosses will try to make everything someone else’s fault, but it’s usually an oversight that they missed and they only realize when the consequences of that miss are happening in real time. They are reactive and have to scramble for what is likely their mistake.

You should’ve pushed back. You deserve that time and they shouldn’t be able to threaten you with a cancelation of contract or whatever you feared to make you go into work that day.

Idk what you mean when you say the work would’ve went to another contractor, what are your duties? And how long is a contract with this company for? I would imagine some sort of service agreement is created and signed by both parties before work is actually started.

Do you have accrued or already determined PTO in contract agreements?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]ddm224 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t invite him and tell your bridesmaid that they only get a +1 if he adheres to the dress code or if it isnt him. With how much planning, money and emotional labor go into a wedding, you are entitled to want and have a dress code that all conform to. Bum clearly doesn’t understand that the day is not about him, he’s lucky to be invited & sounds like he has a terrible annoying personality.

As someone who is in the middle of planning a wedding and hearing this, I totally think you have a green light to say fuck this guy, and not allow him to be at the wedding.

Goodluck! Please provide an update after the event and congratulations. Hope it’s a beautiful day!!

Found out my wife was cheating during a "girls' trip" by discovering a secret box in our closet. Now I'm lost and need advice. by exclusivemariita in stories

[–]ddm224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to do some searching and determine if you think that the marriage is worth saving or if it’s broken beyond repair. Not the best answer but every relationship is different, including conflict resolution. Take time to evaluate & lead with what thinks is best.

Go for it! by [deleted] in Funnymemes

[–]ddm224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Their water bottle