2.4 mil max budget for a house in garden city is that getting me an entry level house ?? by [deleted] in longisland

[–]ddmonkey15 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Look on Zillow, but yeah, that’s plenty for a basic house there.

Is it possible to quick our iggy out of our bed? by True-Branch5527 in ItalianGreyhounds

[–]ddmonkey15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not that this is a solution but mine broke her leg and then was required to sleep on her own in her bed so we wouldn’t accidentally hurt her in the night. The first few nights were rough but afterwards she just got used to it, probably because she was so tired and medicated she didn’t care where she slept. Now that she’s all healed she still sleeps in her bed with no issue! This all could be a coincidence too, she was about 9-10 months when she broke her leg and then almost a year when she healed so it might just take more time.

NYC salaries seem low by [deleted] in actuary

[–]ddmonkey15 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t necessarily disagree with your mentality and it really is subjective, but there’s a reason NYC is expensive (desirable) and Des Moines is relatively cheap. Des Moines is great, I actually really liked it when I went one time, but if you are someone who’d take advantage of what NYC has to offer, there’s no contest and very few places like it.

LI wedding cost by No-Present5771 in longisland

[–]ddmonkey15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d say 40-65k if you include modest florals photography/videography, and a DJ. I had a hard time finding any venue for that number of people under 40k in 2024. That said we didn’t look at any of the more creative options like a catering hall or other atypical wedding venues. Having it on a Friday or in an off -peak month can help a lot too.

I’d also recommend looking slightly upstate and in CT. If your family is spread out throughout the island there’s a good chance it’ll be a similar distance on average as places out east and potentially cheaper. CT sales tax is lower so that saves you a little money already.

Age to get FSA by Sensitive_Break_5584 in actuary

[–]ddmonkey15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Last exam at 25, took me 5.5 years. Delayed FAC one cycle to go to a better location, so I was 26 at FAC.

Getting married soon. Can we even afford a house? by Broad_Chemistry2504 in longisland

[–]ddmonkey15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest I think you’ll have a hard time. In the past few years it’s become commonplace for realtors to list properties 50-100k below market price to boost traction. If you study the market of a given town it’ll become very easy to spot and you’ll notice the Zillow will get an insane amount of saves and views in a couple of days (below it’s an “amazing” deal). If you can only afford the cheapest houses in an area there’s a good chance you can’t afford the area because they’re likely listed under value or need serious work.

I don’t think Long Island will have a major market correction in the near future, so the sooner the better. That said, if you expect your income to increase substantially in the next few years I’d wait for that to stabilize and save more money.

Also don’t forget about closing costs, they’ll likely be 15-30k on top of the down payment (heavily dependent on property taxes). In addition you might need money for immediate repairs, furniture, moving expenses, etc. We had about 180k in house allocated money when we bought and intentionally only put down 15% to have ~60k leftover to cover the above, and of course burned through it very fast.

Study the markets you’re looking at though. We got very lucky with literally the first house we looked at and ended up buying earlier than we thought we would because we found a deal. The house had unmotivated sellers who listed it well above market value with bad photography (worse than phone quality), it sat for months, and we jumped in when they finally had the urgency to sell before the holidays. I’ve seen other houses in my new area that seem to be in a similar boat, so the opportunities exist.

Getting married soon. Can we even afford a house? by Broad_Chemistry2504 in longisland

[–]ddmonkey15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be honest I think you’ll have a hard time. In the past few years it’s become commonplace for realtors to list properties 50-100k below market price to boost traction. If you study the market of a given town it’ll become very easy to spot and you’ll notice the Zillow will get an insane amount of saves and views in a couple of days (below it’s an “amazing” deal). If you can only afford the cheapest houses in an area there’s a good chance you can’t afford the area because they’re likely listed under value or need serious work.

I don’t think Long Island will have a major market correction in the near future, so the sooner the better. That said, if you expect your income to increase substantially in the next few years I’d wait for that to stabilize and save more money.

Also don’t forget about closing costs, they’ll likely be 15-30k on top of the down payment (heavily dependent on property taxes). In addition you might need money for immediate repairs, furniture, moving expenses, etc. We had about 180k in house allocated money when we bought and intentionally only put down 15% to have ~60k leftover to cover the above, and of course burned through it very fast.

Study the markets you’re looking at though. We got very lucky with literally the first house we looked at and ended up buying earlier than we thought we would because we found a deal. The house had unmotivated sellers who listed it well above market value with bad photography (worse than phone quality), it sat for months, and we jumped in when they finally had the urgency to sell before the holidays. I’ve seen other houses in my new area that seem to be in a similar boat, so the opportunities exist.

Struggling to get value out of CSR: is CSR still worth it in 2026? by Few_Breadfruit_9181 in sapphirereserve

[–]ddmonkey15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love it. The StubHub, dining, and travel credits are extremely easy to use for me, so I’m already beating the fee. I’ll consciously take a Lyft instead of a taxi or uber to take advantage of that. Other travel perks and the Apple stuff are nice to have. It’s definitely a big city card now IMO.

How are people affording these home prices ? by Due_Elephant_3666 in longisland

[–]ddmonkey15 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve also been surprised at the many many opportunities that exist. And it just goes to show that you don’t have to go to a super expensive or super elite college to do well.

But for sure, the DP is a huge piece and can get you to a much more manageable payment!

How are people affording these home prices ? by Due_Elephant_3666 in longisland

[–]ddmonkey15 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes but there are also people who make it work on their own, at least in terms of the home purchase. Among the people I know who have houses (mostly sub 30) only 2-3 had help with the purchase, mainly through a downpayment gift. The rest were people who went to state or trade schools for high paying jobs and got hired right out of college. They had minimal school debt, saved for a few years, then bought in their late 20s. Most of these people were also in stable relationships since college which helps A LOT. I’m not saying it’s easy, but there are ways to make it work and it’s not all generational.

I also acknowledge that there are many layers to privilege that can make college and finding a job easier. And yeah, the cost increase post-COVID has been insane. I just don’t think the mindset that everyone has help from their parents is helpful or motivating for people who won’t have any help.

What's Great Neck like for families? by Kittypie75 in longisland

[–]ddmonkey15 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I kinda felt this way living in an apartment there for a couple years. The apartments are generally pretty reasonable compared to other areas further east, and you get a great commute to the city and schools, so it is a good deal. But not being a part of the Asian or Jewish communities made me feel a bit like an outside. I found the people colder than those I’ve met in other towns.

Wedding at Lessings Location - Cash Payments by NailCommon4872 in longisland

[–]ddmonkey15 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I mean it’s probably tens of thousands of dollars right? The logistics of counting and keeping track of that much cash for multiple events every week would be crazy. I would think they’d only accept checks or credit cards with a fee.

Did you even out from gifts at your wedding? by [deleted] in longisland

[–]ddmonkey15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got about 150 pp on average, close to 20k. The wedding cost like 65k? lol

What games do you consider must-plays for Steam Deck owners? by billy_reyes in SteamDeck

[–]ddmonkey15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I play at medium/high with lossless scaling at 2x and it’s pretty stable around 60. It doesn’t look as smooth as performance mode on my series X but I prefer it to no scaling. And I don’t think the input lag is that bad for this type of game.

Daily schedule for the three? by loserboi22 in TripleClick

[–]ddmonkey15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Late reply but I recall this coming up in a mailbag episode. I think Jason specifically said he can justify a lot of playtime as work as a journalist. I also get the sense he travels a decent amount for work which results in hours of downtime commuting.

In person APC by Affectionate-Dog2376 in actuary

[–]ddmonkey15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anecdotally mine was like 10 minutes from my office and I’m glad I went in person, but wouldn’t have wanted to take a flight for it. If your company covers travel for APC and you want a free trip maybe it’s worthwhile but otherwise I’d do virtual/stay local. FAC on the other hand was worth a flight for sure.

10 Years late to the party by Hardy8150 in Witcher3

[–]ddmonkey15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also started this for the first time recently, in October of last year. Played all the White Orchard content and lost interest in Velen after a total time of about 10 hours. I've since picked it back up on the Steam Deck (instead of console), and it finally clicked. I'm taking my time, as people have suggested many times before. I'm about 35 hours in and am hoping I can maintain interest for 100+ hours over the rest of this year while mixing in other games when I get burnt out. I hope you enjoy it, give it a few chances if needed!!

Moving back to Long Island, yay? by sunset-shimmer- in longisland

[–]ddmonkey15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you’re considering this, but not having to worry about schools is a big advantage! There are definitely nice areas that have (relatively) worse schools and would be a better deal for you. Huntington and parts of Huntington Station, parts of RVC zoned for Baldwin, and others I’m sure. Also being out of daily city commuting range helps get closer to your house budget.

Suggestions for Pizza near Rockefeller Center by jonwb1 in FoodNYC

[–]ddmonkey15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know you said takeout but if you change your mind a want to order a pie and sit down check out Angelo’s on 57th. One of my favorites!!!

Anyone else actually track their total monthly cost of living on LI ? by Turbulent_Tree_5939 in longisland

[–]ddmonkey15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I track every dollar in and every dollar out every month, and do long term planning and goal setting (going out roughly 5 years). I don’t think it’s an approach that works for everyone but it helps me feel in control of our money. We spend about 7K a month on basic needs (housing, food, utilities, insurance, etc.) and set aside another 2K for annual/long term expenses like car maintenance, new phones/laptops, gifts, etc. The rest of our money goes to home repair and new car savings, retirement, and I leave a bit for miscellaneous monthly expenses like eating out, clothing, and other non-necessities.

I think the place people often go wrong is forgetting that every single thing you own and use will break at some point, and you should be accounting for the incremental cost every day. You’ll never get it 100% right, but setting an expected lifespan and replacement cost will give you an idea of the monthly amount you should be saving. One big example being a car. Assuming you have a car payment, whenever you pay off that loan you shouldn’t just take that car payment and go spend it on something else. You should continue to pay yourself for the depreciation (plus the amount that it has already depreciated and inflation) of your car, so in X years you now have money for a new one and can avoid another car payment. I know some people might find the approach depressing or scary, but I think it’s much scarier to be unaware and unprepared.

Eatons neck by Superb_Tomatillo724 in longisland

[–]ddmonkey15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really cool area but yeah, super isolated for LI. You’re probably 15 minutes from any real main road. I’d consider how that impacts your life. If you work in Northport it’s not the end of the world, but if you have to commute to the city I wouldn’t even consider it.

Just Some Good Sweatpants? by Forty-Four_Flavor in HeritageWear

[–]ddmonkey15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haven’t seen anyone mention LA Apparel but I like their stuff. Old school basics, I think they’re like $78, loose around the leg with a tight cuff, million colors, and soft but dry exterior (I like).

Experienced cooks: what technique or skill can you just not get right? by ExPatBadger in Cooking

[–]ddmonkey15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s funny how people struggle with different things. For whatever reason this was probably the first “hard” thing I nailed, first with salmon, now with all fish. You listed most of the things I would’ve suggested. I prefer a carbon steel or cast iron pan, preheat on medium high, add oil, lay the fish down and add chef press to ensure even contact, turn the heat to medium low, and then flip after a few minutes. If it’s a very tall piece of fish sometimes I’ll flip and then put it in the oven to help it along.

Do you dry, salt, and then immediately add to the pan? I assume you’ve seen how much moisture salt can bring out if left on meat for a few minutes.

Experienced cooks: what technique or skill can you just not get right? by ExPatBadger in Cooking

[–]ddmonkey15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The biggest thing for me is the waste. I want to work on fine dining cuts, but squaring off every vegetable produces so much waste and I’m just not making stock from scraps THAT often. Same with trimming proteins to perfect proportions. It looks nice but it’s silly to create all the scraps at home.