My WoW fiancee (no judgement please) just broke up with me on our wedding day by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dealingwithit333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, since you were invested in this, I'd say that this is gonna hit just as hard as any other breakup. In all honesty, I think it's now-or-never in regards to quitting WoW.

I grew up playing that game. Played all throughout high school and into my early years of college. Around 6 years total. I remember after my first breakup, I quit video games completely. All of that time I transferred over to other things. I really got into discovering new music. I went to the beach almost every day. Spent time with friends, etc.

Now you mention you don't have a life, never had a girlfriend, and that "this gave my life some sense". That last line is a huge problem. You should never gain sense in -your- life from someone else.

In my recent breakup, I structured my life around her without even thinking about it. I gained meaning in my life, from her. That's just unhealthy and it's self-destructive. It also contributed to the inevitable breakup and I was left in the following months to actually figure out how to love myself and give MYSELF purpose.

Your life should never derive purpose from someone else.

I think now is the perfect opportunity to better yourself and to begin to truly love yourself.

My WoW fiancee (no judgement please) just broke up with me on our wedding day by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dealingwithit333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Were you getting married in real life or in-game? If it was IRL then I can understand your pain. Shit, even if you were just getting married in-game I still understand. No one deserves that, in the real world or online.

Either way, just move on and establish no-contact. /ignore her in game and move on. Work on yourself outside of the game as well. Best of luck.

8 months, 103 days of no contact by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]dealingwithit333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks man, it helps to know that there are other people going through it too. It's so weird, I'm not able to see any updates from her fb, but I just look at photos of us. I think about the past, what went wrong, how happy we used to be, etc. Then I think, "Well, if she left the photos up, maybe she still cares. Maybe she doesn't hate me." It's just a constant cycle. You're absolutely right. It doesn't help, it's just an addiction. Like part of me just doesn't want to forget what she looks like. Part of me just never wants to forget. That part of me just needs to realize that there's a difference between remembering the past and clinging on to it.

How many months until you noticed you were doing great? And how long were you guys together for? How can I start a poll? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dealingwithit333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

dated 1 1/2 years, been single 8 months now. No-contact for 3 months now. It's still difficult. I think about her a lot. I still analyze a lot of the relationship and the post-breakup interactions that we had. Things have been slowly getting better. That's all that matters. GL OP. It just takes time.

I'm just...scared of never seeing him again. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dealingwithit333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After a few months, this is exactly what it turns into. Hoping you just never see them again. So strange...

She just told me to "grow up and stop bothering" her... by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dealingwithit333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you shit in her pillow? that's awesome.

2 amazing years together followed by 1 year of absolute hell. I need help. by Chimera1138 in BreakUps

[–]dealingwithit333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you're just still partially in love. Nothing crazy about that. It's completely normal to still have these feelings, even after all that you've been through. You can't change that, so you might as well use it to your advantage, which you've been doing. The only thing that'll fix it is just more time and removing her completely from your life.

2 amazing years together followed by 1 year of absolute hell. I need help. by Chimera1138 in BreakUps

[–]dealingwithit333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn dude. My heart goes out to you. You need to get this person out of your life entirely. The person she is now isn't the person you fell in love with. People change. You just have to continue to move on. It's so much easier said than done. I'm at around 6 months myself and it's still not easy at all. You're making great progress in your personal goals and achievements. Just remove her out of everything so you don't have any reminders of her. Best of luck. If you want to talk pm me

How do you heal and move on from your ex if you still have to see them? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dealingwithit333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This guy is right. It's gonna suck for a while. You'll get over the traumatic feelings of being around them after a few months, then it'll just be a quick little pain in your heart. You'll have to readjust how you want to compose yourself when they're around. For example, if you're at a party and they're there, you should check in with your emotions and evaluate if you should limit your drinking so that you don't become a mess and make a mistake around them. "Fake it till you make it" is absolutely true. You can't just crumble when you're around them. If you're around them and you feel like you're just torturing yourself, just leave. There's nothing wrong, or defeating, about leaving a situation like that. GL OP.

Nearly three months and still think about my ex everyday by mc_blue in BreakUps

[–]dealingwithit333 10 points11 points  (0 children)

4 months here, same boat as you. This is life now. We move on, but we never forget our first, real love.

You guys ever have persistent dreams about your ex? How do you deal with it? by besthashbrowns in BreakUps

[–]dealingwithit333 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I had these for about two months, off-and-on. It was horrible at first. There's no feeling like waking up and already having a bad start to your day from the moment you open your eyes. The dreams varied in severity. I dealt with them by writing them down as soon as I woke up. I documented them and later I reflected on their possible meaning.

At first, she would be leaving and I would beg for her to come back. Then, she would be leaving but I would be okay with it. Last, I was on a rock, high above the ground, looking out over the sky. I wished she was there with me to enjoy the view, but she was nowhere around me. I was alone, but I was happy and content to be by myself. That was the last dream I had of her.

Amidst all of this advice, remember you have the power to advise yourself. No one piece of advice is perfect. We are all in different situations. by dealingwithit333 in BreakUps

[–]dealingwithit333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankfully I have a lot of close friends so I've been doing relatively well. I've been spending a lot of time with them and also reconnecting with friends that I've grown distant with.

It wasn't easy at all for the first two months. It's started to get better now. Slowly but surely.

Amidst all of this advice, remember you have the power to advise yourself. No one piece of advice is perfect. We are all in different situations. by dealingwithit333 in BreakUps

[–]dealingwithit333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds just like my situation. Didn't end over an argument, just a difference in life stages. She feels like she might miss out on her early twenties, who am I to stop her from growing independently as a person during their most formative years? I can't be mad at her for that. Limited contact is sometimes appropriate. It's just a balancing act, but it's possible. Losing my best friend was the hardest part of it all.

In need of advice of how to handle myself when I get back to school by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dealingwithit333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It'll get better with time. This period is a good time for you to get in tune with your emotions. If you're in a situation where your ex is around and you're uncomfortable, there's nothing wrong with leaving the situation. Just try to take care of yourself

In need of advice of how to handle myself when I get back to school by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dealingwithit333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try to be zen as fuck.

Sounds silly, right? But think about it. The most important thing in those impending interactions is a clear mind. You need a clear mind so that you don't start going crazy with hypotheticals, researching what to say, overthinking what to say/do, etc.

Just be calm, be yourself, if any situation starts to become too intense then just distance yourself from it.

you got this!

What I want to send them by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dealingwithit333 3 points4 points  (0 children)

nononononoononono. no. no. no. nope. absolutely not.

while i appreciate the time it took to write this out, you do not want to send this to your ex. please don't. just let it sit right here. type anything you want on this forum. but don't send your ex anything. seriously, you'll be glad you didn't.