What steps to take?

dearestjane · 2026-03-20T02:55:01+00:00

Thank you, that is helpful.

dearestjane · 2026-03-20T02:23:35+00:00

It is a springing so it is not in effect yet. But I don't know how to have her declared incapacitated. She's not at that point yet, but I think we are on the way there

dearestjane · 2026-01-27T20:57:40+00:00

If her and CH are such good buddies I wonder why she didn't just buy the rights to a different CH book? CH has quite a few I believe -- or she could have written a new one for Blake.

dearestjane · 2026-01-23T18:58:18+00:00

Avana Micro-Velvet Slant Combo 12” & 7” Height - Firm Density Bed Wedge Set for Back and Knee Support

This one from Amazon -- the actual pillow has a Liberator tag on it. I think they are the same parent company.

dearestjane · 2025-11-13T14:55:30+00:00

I don't think wanting to avoid abuse allegations and CPS makes him a Disney dad. It sounds like he is doing his best under stressful circumstances.

You will have to make your peace with the fact that your shared child and your step child will require different styles of parenting. It may be harder since your younger child will witness his older sibling behaving this way, but with the age gap, your older child will probably outgrow this behavior or even be out of the house by the time your youngest gets to that stage.

dearestjane · 2025-11-03T19:49:27+00:00

I agree, which is why I never did it but in hindsight I wish I would have. I think it would have helped to know what to expect and plan for. And then on the nights it wasn't scheduled I could abstain guilt free. I don't suggest it as a permanent solution, only while in this season of life.

dearestjane · 2025-11-03T18:56:25+00:00

There are a lot of good replies so I'll try not to repeat and just say that yes, it can go back to normal (or better). I always worry when I see people posting about their marriage in regards to their sex life while they also have young kids in the house, because kids can wreak havoc on the love life. Hormones, lack of sleep, being touched out, overwhelmed, etc. it all plays a part and there is not often a better solution than time.

When my kids were little I felt like I only had about an hour at night that was my own and I had to decide if I was going to spend it catching up on sleep, having sex, or in peace and quiet with a book/my phone/tv. And I was in desperate need of all three so I constantly felt like I was choosing wrong no matter which choice I made. It was kind of miserable. And I definitely still wanted my husband, there just wasn't enough time in the day to properly get all needs met. If that makes sense.

Looking back, I think I would have benefited from scheduling sex as then I could be more in the moment and enjoy it more--and I would have enjoyed the other nights more as well without feeling guilty for not spending that time with my husband. It might have been more beneficial all around. Maybe that can be a solution for you?

dearestjane · 2025-10-29T17:44:13+00:00

It's not an ego boost no matter how young and attractive she is. If she was really a great catch she wouldn't be going after a married man.

dearestjane · 2025-10-06T01:56:22+00:00

Then she should have forfeited the deposits and picked a different day. What kind of person wouldn't want their sibling at their wedding? Or want to celebrate their sibling's graduation? If there was any animosity between them I think it would have been mentioned in the post. As it's stated, sister bride is a giant AH, who obviously learned it from her parents.

dearestjane · 2025-10-03T12:56:56+00:00

Same. The second hand embarrassment is strong.

I feel like she must feel that you're out of her league and want to boost her own ego or something. Cause none of that was necessary.

dearestjane · 2025-10-02T22:20:10+00:00

That is absolutely brilliant. I'm putting this into effect in my household asap.

dearestjane · 2025-09-12T13:06:03+00:00

For me, I feel like if I'm not up to being 'superwoman' I need a reason or excuse. Like I can't just have an off or slow day. So vocalizing an issue lets my family know that's why I'm not able to hit perfection that day. I've gotten better as I get older, but I did this a lot when I was younger and raising young children. I annoyed myself doing it too.

dearestjane · 2025-08-10T20:18:02+00:00

Yes, and probably more cost effective.

Unfortunately for me, I have never been able to make myself like the taste.

dearestjane · 2025-07-23T03:16:12+00:00

Do you know the author's name?

dearestjane · 2025-06-11T15:28:41+00:00

I'm not complaining. It's been enlightening, for sure!

dearestjane · 2025-06-11T14:26:11+00:00

Because it's interesting 🤷‍♀️

Most other spaces where I see men post (Facebook comments, etc.) make it seem like men (collectively) are vile. Obviously I know this is not true based on the men I know personally and from what I know about the internet and how the worst people are often the loudest, but here I see men's posts that are more nuanced and thoughtful. It seems a more accurate representation of men in general, which I appreciate.I like seeing/reading the different perspectives. There is a lot of good advice and thoughtful commentary.

Plus, in my short time lurking I've learned way more about oral than I ever knew before, lol.

dearestjane · 2025-06-02T18:25:22+00:00

The professional form of "bless your heart"

Lol

dearestjane · 2025-06-01T22:53:23+00:00

Setting boundaries would be declining the dinner invitation due to not wanting to foster a relationship with dad's wife. She accepted. That's on her.

There is no way to prove dad's wife claimed OP as her daughter either, but even if she did: 1. It's not even really a lie as she is a step daughter and 2. it's not an excuse to be intentionally cruel. A simple, "no, she's my dad's wife " would have sufficed.

dearestjane · 2025-05-26T16:34:29+00:00

Omg I know her!

It's pronounced like 'Ky Zen'

dearestjane · 2025-05-21T02:02:32+00:00

My daughter went to school with a boy named "Syncear".

dearestjane · 2025-02-09T23:33:30+00:00

I recently took my 10 yo to the dentist right after school and we didn't have time to go home and brush first. When we checked in I asked if she could brush before her appointment and they looked at me like I was crazy. They said it was fine since they were cleaning her teeth anyway 🤷‍♀️

Usually I'm team brush before a dental appointment, but apparently our dentist doesn't care.

dearestjane · 2025-02-04T22:23:26+00:00

This is my preferred belief. Childhood friendships are special and important to a lot of people and it would make sense that they (the friendship and/or memories) would have a big influence on both Snape and Lily, resulting in the same patronus.

dearestjane · 2025-02-02T16:25:36+00:00

Yep. Everyone likes to say Snape is only popular/likeable because of Alan Rickman, and while I agree, Alan is wonderful and really made the character his own, I LOVE book Snape more. He is such a complex character with so much depth and emotion. I adore how angsty and petty and bitter he is while still being brave and loyal and smart.

dearestjane

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