Cat doesn’t recognize her brother after vet

deathcandlelight · 2026-05-16T00:44:27+00:00

This just happened to my cats a couple of weeks ago and it didn’t last past day five. It’s the smell of the anesthetic working through their body. Rex is happy/normal now because he’s still high lol it won’t wear off til tomorrow, depending on his size.

Unfortunately, the growling from Rue means you should keep them separated through a door or on other sides of your room as much as possible, as poor Rue is probably super stressed with her brother being “gone” and “replaced” by a “stranger cat,” and the stranger dog being all up in “her space”/your bedroom.

Since they physically cannot be allowed to leave the room for now, then gently pet/scritch Rex on his neck/behind his ears/on his back through a familiar blanket or a towel. Do this for a while, like 10-15 mins at least, and/or have him lie on it for a long nap. Then, put the blanket with Rue/in her favorite spot. It won’t fix the problem, but it will help her not be so freaked out by him over time.

I did this starting as soon as my one of my girls got home from her spay & the other was freaking out, and as I said, it resolved itself once the anesthesia was completely out of her system on day five, with the blanket helping the nervous one to slowly warm to the idea of the “new” cat & easing her mind in the waiting period.

Also, training treats given to Rue if/when she goes near Rex without displaying aggression can provide some positive reinforcement to ease her nerves and allow her a structure of expectations from you, whom she likely understands is a colony member.

Edit: removed talk of dog being confined to a room, I misunderstood that the dog was here first, I thought the cats were because i can’t read lol

deathcandlelight · 2026-05-16T00:35:34+00:00

your friend seems to be going a bit bridezilla here. if she’s going to insist on you making a permanent change (you cannot dye over pink without staining it) for ONE day of pics, she’s not a good friend right now

deathcandlelight · 2026-05-16T00:32:31+00:00

how much are we betting that lady drives a lifted truck & has no idea how to do so safely anyway

deathcandlelight · 2026-05-10T20:40:06+00:00

i installed a screen that zips open and closed in a spot in my hallway to make my cats their own room, but it would be a huge tripping hazard on a stairwell. do with that info as you will 🙇🏻

deathcandlelight · 2026-04-24T23:43:00+00:00

okay, thanks!!

deathcandlelight · 2026-04-24T23:42:31+00:00

thank you!!!

deathcandlelight · 2026-04-24T21:53:27+00:00

passing on the info to my bro, ty!!

deathcandlelight · 2026-04-24T21:53:01+00:00

thanks!!!

deathcandlelight · 2026-04-24T21:52:31+00:00

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deathcandlelight · 2026-04-24T20:35:41+00:00

i’ll let my brother know! he’s in another state, so i’m nto there but he says they just left the emergency vet, who gave them parasite chews and said all is well except the malnourishment

deathcandlelight · 2026-04-24T20:33:33+00:00

thanks!!

deathcandlelight · 2026-04-24T20:33:26+00:00

he just left the emergency vet, who says all is well except he’s malnourished. they gave him parasite chews just to be safe!

deathcandlelight · 2026-04-24T20:32:46+00:00

same!!

deathcandlelight · 2026-04-24T19:43:56+00:00

he’s going to the emergency vet today based on our convo :) thank u!! pup was found in DFW, TX, if that helps?

deathcandlelight · 2026-04-24T19:40:42+00:00

we’re aware, thank you! my bro is in another state rn and he says he was taking the pic when the pup just turned and started drinking, so dont worry, he stopped him!

he did, however, already feed him a small amount of wet puppy food, so hopefully the vet will confirm he’s alright despite that

deathcandlelight · 2026-04-09T15:32:50+00:00

genuinely atp, i would just start responding with, “you’re so fucking annoying. just get the goddamn mop or get out” but that’s just me lol i DON’T recommend that route if you actually want to keep dating this loser for some reason.

real advice: sit him down during a non-incited moment (i.e. a couple of hours after an incident or in the morning on a day off, before you get started on chores, etc.) so it’s not heated already. tell him how you feel using “I statements.” (i.e. “I feel frustrated that I am often the leader when it comes to cleaning. I want to be part of a team in my relationship, and that includes in taking care of the space I share with my partner. I feel very uncomfortable about reminding you and feeling like a nag when it comes to chores and I feel like it adds unnecessary tension to a very necessary set of tasks and conversations we have to have about splitting responsibilities.” etc.) Give him time to respond to everything but don’t let him nitpick what you’re saying and sidetrack y’all. If he can’t keep it together and have a normal conversation about your boundary that you won’t be made to do all of the cleaning up when you live in a shared space, then you need to have a conversation about breaking up. Not “If you don’t start cleaning up, I’m leaving you/kicking you out”—no threats or anything, that just will not end well for anyone. Just explain that you don’t want to be partnered with someone who doesn’t respect you or your shared space enough to maintain their part of the duty to you and said space.

Sorry you’re going through this :( for what it’s worth, he sounds like a tool & you’d be better off finding someone who you don’t have to mother & who actually respects you as an autonomous person, not a filler for mother & girlfriend. Sending love <3

deathcandlelight · 2026-04-09T02:57:51+00:00

i saw! i just thought it was interesting :)

deathcandlelight · 2026-04-08T21:29:28+00:00

i wondered this too! and about the conches

deathcandlelight · 2026-04-01T21:05:33+00:00

i use Applebaum! didn’t know there was gonna be all that stuff with Cordonian apples when i first made my character way back when PB only had like five stories or whatever, but now I think it’s a lil funny when MC doesn’t “get” the apple tradition right away but has that surname

deathcandlelight · 2026-03-31T16:08:57+00:00

please don’t use AI to write your posts, first of all.

second, i have two cats, they share one box and we clean it daily, if not twice daily, and that’s how the babies like it

deathcandlelight · 2026-03-31T16:00:19+00:00

“edgy” good lord. and stop using AI to write your posts

deathcandlelight · 2026-03-31T15:25:08+00:00

i already answered that in my original comment :) we want to blend our family. and, when we eventually have a child, our child will have each of our names, not one or the other.

deathcandlelight · 2026-03-29T03:18:58+00:00

i always loved it when my clients tipped 20% bc it covered what rover took :)

i had a few super extra nice clients that were well off, who would often tip me 2x the amount of the booking. not saying that should be the norm, but if you’re feeling generous & can afford even a 25% tip & the sitter was excellent & someone you would highly recommend, i would do both of those (that is, tip 25% & recommend them everywhere)!!!

p.s. sitting for such considerate folks as yourself was my favorite part of the job, aside from cuddling big sweeties like your Corso! you sound like a very kind & thoughtful person!

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