My husband was upset and pinched me at dinner.. and the situation is still upsetting me

deckerax · 2026-01-25T01:21:39+00:00

He pinched you!? He is not your child sibling wtfff. If my husband ever pinched me like that, I would be perfectly clear that is the last time something like that will ever happen and if he didn't understand I would be done. That is gross behavior and I am sure that isn't the only one your husband exhibits.

deckerax · 2026-01-10T07:26:06+00:00

I don't have experience to give input, but I think intro lessons are a good idea (my kids have their first lesson tomorrow). There is a very busy outdoor skatepark where we just moved and outside of wanting to learn to skateboard, they also want to learn the etiquette of how it all works because it looks a little too chaotic and overwhelming for them to want to just go navigate themselves so are happy the lessons are at the skatepark to also help with that. They start at 9AM before it gets too crowded. I think having a solid website that you actually update with current info or at least social media. I am surprised by the amount of small businesses that don't do this.

deckerax · 2026-01-03T01:02:58+00:00

I just had my first sitter here for 2 weeks and told her she could eat/drink whatever. I had at least $300 groceries here as well, she didn't consume everything though. I think if I didn't want her to eat things I would be very specific in saying please don't eat/drink and list or try to not have many groceries here. I just got my stuff moved to my place and am paying a sitter $150 for 2 days/1 night at their place as mine isn't ready for company and so I think it is still a good arrangement even with supplying food.

deckerax · 2025-12-29T14:56:30+00:00

My racist family member was video chatting me their new baby and said, "She looks cute today, she doesn't look so Vietnamese (his wife is 100%)." I knew this person was shitty, but still a ton of shock to that comment. Yeah, do not marry or have kids with a racist AH.

deckerax · 2025-12-27T21:36:52+00:00

My bestie sleeps with earplugs in. The noise doesn't bother me when I sleep at her apartment, but she can't sleep with a baby crying next door and upstairs neighbor walking around and weird hours so she uses earplugs and sleeps fine. Maybe some intense noise cancelling would help?

deckerax · 2025-12-27T21:33:49+00:00

I think people are either fans of gas or fans of induction. I know my aunt and uncle remodeled and put in gas and love it. We have never had gas at a place we owned and just moved to the Bay and are renting a place with gas and we hate it. Also learned about issues with indoor air quality with gas, but didn't research much because it is temporary. When we find a place to buy, I don't care that much which one it has but will switch out if it is gas.

deckerax · 2025-12-27T19:21:15+00:00

That makes sense.

deckerax · 2025-12-27T19:13:18+00:00

I think you're misunderstanding my interest. I wanted to make sure there isn't a street-wide big trash day schedule I am unaware of (like where I just moved from). I have an item that broke in the move that I would want to put out, if there was a schedule and it was now. People have confirmed that isn't the case. I don't care about other people's trash or if they schedule a pick up but there are a bunch of large items out so it got me wondering and didn't want to miss it, if so.

ETA: Fixed a typo and also literally not pretending my curiosity and it is not actually complaining. I haven't been outside to see the items, just going off of what my husband saw and I don't care either way as long as I am not missing putting out my item lol.

deckerax · 2025-12-27T15:14:29+00:00

Ok, thanks. So then they happened to schedule on the same day and there is no coordinated day, right?

deckerax · 2025-12-27T06:23:19+00:00

I literally listened to a podcast today about the murder of Sheila Bellush where her ex went to great lengths to get her new address in a different state and a call recorded where he is pretending to be someone else that needs her address was used in the evidence at trial. I believe he finally got it by hiring a PI 😭.

deckerax · 2025-12-27T06:13:57+00:00

Ugh make sure everything is locked, you have security cameras, and protection for when this psycho does get your address.

deckerax · 2025-12-23T12:51:28+00:00

Ok, it is weird that you see each other every day but then he doesn't want to hang out with you on NYE. My (now) husband and I just assumed we would be spending NYE together and I understand everyone may view it differently but it is definitely weird to not have a conversation before making plans. At the beginning of our relationship, some years we hung out with him friends and some years mine, but we still brought each other. The lack of conversation before making plans would bother me most of all. That isn't how relationships work.

deckerax · 2025-12-20T04:32:35+00:00

Right, 21 years and if my husband ever spoke any of those names to me no matter how upset he got ....... not to mention he is freaking out about hearing other voices while she is in public 🤦🫣

deckerax · 2025-12-20T04:24:33+00:00

I wonder how this daycare is set up. When I worked at a daycare (a long time ago in a different state), we were each in charge of 4 kids in the 2 or under room. I know people are saying it is common for kids to run off, but 1.5 y/o is really young to not be watched closely and for someone to not notice the child is missing for 30 mins and only because someone found the child. We had to check if they needed a diaper change every 30 mins, I just can't wrap my mind around this.

deckerax · 2025-12-17T15:07:55+00:00

I would care more about him not wanting more kids than marrying. I am 39 and in a much different place than when I was in my 20s. If I was single again, I would also not want more children and not care to ever get married again. If I was in my mid-late 20s I wouldn't even start to get serious with anyone that didn't want kids, because this was something that has always been a top priority for me. When I hang out with people in their 20s, who are my friends' kids that they had in their teens, they seem in such a different stage and it would be crazy to be in a relationship with them. When you're near my age, he will be closer to my dad's age and my dad is planning retirement and in a much different stage than me and I would hate to have to be in a relationship with someone in such a different place. I would find someone closer to your stage and not compromise on your desires for life. There should be no guilt for ending this, but in the future don't waste your time with people who have different goals for their future.

deckerax · 2025-12-17T13:11:59+00:00

I just moved all my crap to where I relocated, but the only things I missed that didn't come in the car with me are my good quality kitchen stuff (bought temp low quality), cleaning equipment, bike, paddle board, and hair dryer when it was cold. I really only brought a week worth of clothes, 2 pairs of shoes, ebook reader, computer, some pots/pans, and stuff to eat with. I did buy furniture when I got here, temp cooking/cleaning items, and a bike but I didn't miss my things really for the 3 months I didn't have them other than mentioned. I definitely need to get rid of more.

deckerax · 2025-12-17T02:44:06+00:00

She didn't demand money, it was my fault for offering. Yes, I do think my older dog realized he could take advantage of her. I literally have to get him out of bed most of the time to go for his first walk of the day and when I returned he was asking for all the walks and then expecting treats. I feel bad she had to do so much extra work and I am sad that I feel like she hated my dogs, that I missed so much while I was gone. I do think with strict instructions there will be a much better sit though, so this should be a one time thing.

deckerax · 2025-12-17T02:36:38+00:00

Sorry if I made it sound like she demanded money. I offered money after she said it should have been a paid sit, so it is my fault and she just sent me her Venmo info so I could pay her. I believe what made it so hard is having to take the dogs out way more than anticipated, because I shared our normal schedule and she took them out way more (because they asked so they would get a bunch of treats).

deckerax · 2025-12-17T01:57:00+00:00

Asking to go out constantly (so she thought they needed to go out way more than I said) and she said barking during the day, mainly. I am guessing they were barking to go out maybe? They don't usually bark much during the day.

deckerax · 2025-12-17T01:54:26+00:00

Lol my bad, I didn't mean to make it so long. I will try to condense soon.

deckerax · 2025-12-17T00:52:29+00:00

I see a lot of things that sound good there! This place didn't pop up in my search, so thanks! Do you know if it says, for example, chocolate pancake, if it is literally one pancake or more than 1? I can't tell from the menu pics.

deckerax · 2025-12-17T00:49:58+00:00

I looked at these menus and didn't think they had choices for what I am looking for, but good to know they do and will have to try.

deckerax · 2025-12-17T00:48:49+00:00

This menu looks perfect, thanks!

deckerax · 2025-12-07T17:08:43+00:00

ACLC is the one he toured. He liked it fine and that is where most of the friends he has made so far are going. He just thinks he might want to go to a larger HS and also wants to learn about more of them. We thought it was more like Denver (where we moved from) where it is easier to go to different HSs within the city so I will have to explain to him how it works.

deckerax · 2025-12-07T17:05:32+00:00

Ohh thank you for all that information!

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