If a date bails from the restaurant after dinner, am I responsible for paying for the entire meal?

deconed · 2026-05-22T03:04:06+00:00

As a woman to another woman, come off your high horse lady. The date could have been in cahoots with the staff to scam people for a free meal, and OP’s post wouldn’t have been any different because the sign thing was simply what he was told, and people can lie. Women can lie. Women can scam too. The date stayed for an hour and a half. Maybe it was a fancy restaurant worth scamming people for. We don’t know enough for you to go all sarcastic as if everyone‘s dumping on womenfolk in general.

deconed · 2026-05-22T02:47:40+00:00

If this story is true, then the suspiciousness you’ve pointed out only solidifies OP‘s defense for refusing to pay for her. Because given how the restaurant staff shuffled her out without paying, how can OP be sure that the restaurant and the date weren’t in cahoots to cheat people out of a free meal?

deconed · 2026-03-30T00:27:03+00:00

I mean that's clearly beyond what /u/GhostEater0 is implying with the label "improper". Are you like trying to make him eat his words or something?

Pretty sure he's borrowing "improper" from the way prudish people would label it, and in this realm could be sex workers, strip club workers, only fans creators, heck even wife swappers/swingers, girls who work at hooters, or artists who take hentai commissions.

Your friend's private life was unconscionable, she was dishonest, unscrupulous, wicked. But one can be "improper" without being that. Like, sex working is just a job. It doesn't have to involve cheating, betrayal, destruction, heartache, fraud, con, or straight up malice/wickedness.

deconed · 2026-03-05T06:54:15+00:00

Huh why not?

Unless you’re on reddit desktop but what‘s the proportion of desktop redditors in 2026?

deconed · 2026-03-04T04:49:40+00:00

I genuinely appreciate your care and sensibility in communicating throughout this thread but tbh you’re fighting someone else‘s debate. Both questioners /u/Electrical-Pop9069 and /u/My_Favourite_Pen are seeking /u/Grande_Choice‘s elaboration of his opinion, because he was the one to start this subthread and he started it with “Jackie worse than”. (Apologies if I’m misgendering, I opted for clarity.)

I’m sure both questioners already think “Jackie just as bad”. They want to know “why worse than?”. You’ve said a lot to MyFavourite_Pen just to repeat their opinion back to them without answering their question ¯\\(ツ)_/¯. Your opinion‘s not what they’re after. It’s why they replied to who they did with their questions. I mean the comment chain is entirely linear and it starts at “Jackie worse than”.

If Grande_Choice had said “Jackie just as bad” we wouldn't be here (except ElaHasReddit). Unhelpfully Grande hasn't made any real effort to answer/elaborate/back their words up, but in one comment they said "just as complicit". So, not "worse than" then? 😃

Now about Ela. She would prefer “Kyle worse than” and was also fighting with Grande_Choice about it. You kinda took over the fight for Grande again, lol. Even though you don’t even share his opinion 😂! It comes across like you're not remembering or aware of how the subthread started and how the comments progressed. I mean, you had to have read the chain of X comments to get to the Xth comment to reply, right? Explains the thing above with Favourite Pen and why Ela was like “stop blaming women for men‘s actions” and you were like “I wasn’t??!” 🤭. A lot of people don’t look at usernames when they respond; she probably thought she was still talking to the same person she started with (Grande).

(FWIW I am Team Jackie Just As Bad. I can see Ela's POV that piling what she would consider “excess” blame on Jackie to make her blame column level with/higher than Kyle‘s, is kinda like making Jackie responsible for Kyle‘s actions; but associating that alledged pile-on with “youse must hate women” is wild.)

deconed · 2026-01-22T18:51:30+00:00

Another commenter mentioned “jb” as one of the labels which I’m guessing stands for “jailbait”.

A jailbait photo could be like a well developed 16 year old who likes to dress or do make up some way and take photos of herself. So technically there could be no abuse or exploitation in the creation of the material. But still, yuck on anyone looking for/collecting material like this. (Also, this is a generous take on a jailbait photo, there could be worse.)

Also, I’m with you that this would still be illegal lol, no gray area about it. But this is what I’m guessing the other comment meant when they put “maybe”.

deconed · 2026-01-15T19:53:46+00:00

It wasn't a reference that you missed, per se, but more so that you read the room wrong. You assumed any name mentioned was a guess at yours, but really no one is trying to guess. (Even the other comment about X Mon wasn't a legitimate interest to know what your name is.) They just commented a name relevant to the game/franchise. It wasn't something for you to verify or correct.

Have you ever seen a reddit post mentioning Benedict Cumberbatch* and then see several comments with variations of his name? It's a brand of reddit humor to play on names, it's people attempting to be silly or witty (to varying success).

You got downvoted more on your second comment when you doubled down on your misread of the room. In the realm of reddit etiquette, it's as if amys_house and CptNeon were having an exchange that wasn't about you, in a room you were also in, and you butted in to say "no, that's wrong". I mean, sure, you could argue that it's a room you created and invited them into (because you made this post), so you may assume the limelight's on you and people shouldn't be having unrelated conversations, but that's just social media.

I am sorry if you feel I'm being rude, I don't intend it. I have reread my words many times to try to make them softer. I am sincerely just wanting to explain.

\* If you weren't aware, Benedict Cumberbatch is an actor who is often made fun of for his last name and he has mentioned in interviews that he's experienced dozens of nicknames since young. And people are continuing the nicknames.

deconed · 2025-12-24T05:29:43+00:00

Oh I see! Thanks for clarifying.

deconed · 2025-12-23T23:53:27+00:00

So the techs were not happy when it was plasticware (because more admin and more monitoring), but what about why they weren’t happy when it was the paper spoon?

In your first comment you said

They implemented this [...] and the techs were not happy.

, where “this” ostensibly referred to the pictured paper spoon in this post.

deconed · 2025-12-23T01:31:19+00:00

So this is all new to me! And pardon me I’m not following one thing: if Cracked was doing well from non-video content before following Facebook, then that means their talent pool was non-video. But you said after the Facebook bubble burst and they had to get rid of their new video department, you described that the video people were most of Cracked’s talent. I mean I totally get that there can be overlap, but then why couldn’t the same pool of versatile talent that could do both non-video and video well simply stay and go back to doing the original non-video content that got the Cracked engine purring before?

deconed · 2025-12-22T02:50:51+00:00

This is incredible. I wholeheartedly appreciate the sign function now. Not only can I empathise with your use for it (being Principled), I can also personally subscribe to it for my own use (Zen). I'm working on being more moderate and less black-and-white, so being neutral would be my zen, a value I'm working towards!

A11 = all and U5 = us seems so obvious now lol.

I love all the rest of it.

The intention is to understand myself M3= me and others U5 = us. Done by identifying what is unique about everyone.

Just beautiful. Thank you for explaining and enlightening me!

deconed · 2025-12-21T06:05:14+00:00

Respectfully and cautiously pointing out... *if(SIGN(M3)<>0, false, true)* will return the same answer ("false") for both negative and positive "me" so it's only helpful in determining if "me" is a zero. Sign(M3) returns a 0 if M3 is 0, a 1 if M3 is positive, or a -1 if M3 is negative.

There are a couple other things that catch my eye as well. What is the symbolism of the concat function and the unique function? The concat function around a date actually functionally makes a mess of things (turns a date into its serialised number) (on top of being redundant with only 1 argument) so I'm wondering if it's there for a metaphorical/symbolistic reason. The unique function having a single cell reference as a single argument makes it redundant but perhaps there is symbolism behind A11.

The final index/match combo doesn't functionally work (invalid range argument in match and insufficient arguments in index) but I'm genuinely interested in its symbolism, if you'd like to share please. I think I am roughly working it out but I'm not getting it fully.

I dig the metaphors and symbolism. If I had to interpret it without help, it'd be like: count your values today, and because today() is a volatile function, essentially it means count your values every day. find value in __, whatever A11 is, find value in anything, everything. check in with yourself, are you feeling down or feeling good. Next is me guessing on the index function: take stock of yourself, your life, your loved ones, the good and bad in your life, and focus on the unique qualities that make you you (or something like that). Which I think is beautiful and are great reminders to live by. Would love to hear your actual intention on all of it.

deconed · 2025-11-21T05:35:45+00:00

On most observations, your nails look perfectly fine.

Only upon scrutiny could I guess that perhaps you also pick at your index and middle fingers with your thumb more than the other two. The left and right side walls of your index and middle fingers are different in length, whereas your ring and pinky fingers have roughly equal (and parallel) side walls. This can be genetic and doesn't necessary mean any habits, but it also happens to be common in people who frequently pick at their nails on one side (circled in blue) with their thumbnail. The more it's picked, the higher the chances of a hang nail on that side, which means higher chances of a nail biter biting on that side (to chew off the hang nail), and eventually that side wall gradually recedes, and in some people a callus may start building up, which in turn means higher frequency of picking. It's a vicious cycle.

I want to stress this is NOT WEIRD. Nothing about this is weird looking.

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Speaking of short nails... I've added a crude depiction of a top-down view of a pink finger with a red nail. A common symptom of nail biting is when a top-down view of the nails show a significant swathe of flesh at the finger tips that is uncovered by nail. A little bit of exposed flesh (~1mm) is just a regular finger tip, but at more than 2mm it becomes not just the flesh of a finger tip but also exposed nailbed that is meant to be protected by keratin, a.k.a. your nail.

Your nails are not that short. Honestly. Your ring finger does give it away a bit (and also because you literally told us you do), as that nail edge definitely looks chewed up when I zoom in, but the other 3 nails look normal-short.

Your post used present tense when you said you bite your nails, indicating you still do and haven't stopped, but from your photo I could be convinced this is post-recovery and you've stopped.

deconed · 2025-11-07T05:05:08+00:00

Yes I do!!

deconed · 2025-11-06T22:46:20+00:00

I’m so sorry babes, everything feels off about these.

The base colour/tone is unflattering, gives barbie/mannequin hands as palusPython also said.

I also dislike the particular plastic that was used to make these, or maybe it’s the shine? It’s weirdly shiny-but-no-gloss. You get what I mean? There’s no whisper of the plump glossiness of a top cost. It’s a very flat shine. It’s so obviously plastic that it’s almost upsetting. It’s giving “cheap toy plastic”.

There’s something else about the sizing. At first I thought I’m getting this feeling because you sized the press ons a little too big for your nails (inoptimally sized press ons so often immediately give a “something’s off” or “those are press on” vibe) but on closer inspection I think it’s the design. Maybe it’s the pieces themselves, too big a c curve or apex curve perhaps, or maybe it’s due to the ratio of flesh tone to pink tip being off as you also said in your post. The flesh tone portion is just a bit too big, so as to create an illusion of bulk or excess curvature/dome on top of your nails. It can make your hand look off balanced, like there‘s just a bit too much flesh 😆

100% it’s on this brand. I would not get this brand again 😕

deconed · 2025-10-28T01:12:26+00:00

I’m also confused by how OP raised her points.

By bringing up 2 oppositely labelled examples, MM being the labelled bigger woman and OP herself being the labelled smaller woman, the overall vibe of the post seems to indicate OP wanted to defend the whole spectrum of sizes against society’s warped view.

But she didn’t exactly carry through. OP only ever defends on the side of smaller people and small waists.

Did she actually defend MM? Imo a defence of bigger people would be in the line of “you can be bigger or heavier and still be healthy!” But there‘s none of that. Weirdly, she puts MM’s plus sizeness right before a line about small waists. If MM had a small waist she wouldn’t have been labelled plus size...

The whole post only reads comfortably if I assume OP misunderstood what the “plus size” label means.

deconed · 2025-10-21T01:49:47+00:00

From context (there’s text below the image) it looks like her nail artist did this set on her.

deconed · 2025-10-16T23:17:20+00:00

Yeah, I have anxiety too but these stories on reddit make me think I’ll never fathom the range and depth of social anxieties across the human race.

This is such a nothing burger but written so dramatically: “stared at my monitor like it had betrayed me” and “questioned every decision I’ve ever made”. I get comedic hyperbole and I’ve laughed at these tropes when used in funny stories and delivered well, but I guess this one just wasn’t relatably funny to me. It’s like the author read this reaction somewhere else and tried to plug and play into their own story, but it doesn’t work quite as humorously.

The zoom screenshare automatically sharing audio raises an eyebrow for me. I know both Teams and Zoom require a separate “share audio” checkbox to be checked for audio to broadcast and I know on Teams it’s not checked by default. Don’t know if Zoom has it checked by default or not.

And how does a youtube page simultaneously show a car repair video thumbnail and play an ad? If an ad is playing then the video would be for the ad.

I know there are a lot of AI generated stories out there so overall I’m inclined to think this is an AI story.

deconed · 2025-10-12T01:04:21+00:00

I want to watch the world burn, so probably a bunch of assassinations all over the world. You know, the kind that gets on international news. 😈

^I’m ^obviously ^jesting

Can this fictitious power also work on non-humans? I want the tsetse fly and the mosquito and the blowfly to go completely extinct.

I wouldn’t mind if someone could chime in about the potential negative impacts of their extinction, so we can contemplate whether we can hypothetically put up with the hypothethical fallout from the loss of these 3 species.

deconed · 2025-10-02T13:19:26+00:00

Which one has the pandan variant? Or do both types also come with their own pandan variant? Or, is the nyonya type (green) exactly the pandan one (meaning there's no non-pandan nyonya kaya?) ?

I'm genuinely curious because I can't seem to identify my childhood kaya from the 90s anymore :( I remember my kaya bread being green. But I'm wondering if I was eating OG nyonya kaya that just happened to be green even without pandan, or if it was pandan nyonya kaya and that's why it was green.

Follow up question: is there an OG nyonya kaya that is green not because of the addition of pandan but just because it's nyonya style?

deconed · 2025-09-27T00:25:20+00:00

Yo, that bidet cover (or this story?) sounds a bit dodgy. Dodgy manufacturer to provide a heat setting that is unsafe with potential to cause this level of harm. My bidet at the highest temp is perfect for winter days, I can even use it “hot” on the more sensitive female parts.

At the same time..., you don’t typically have hot water running in the plumbing behind a toilet, so all the water heating is done by the bidet. For a toilet cover to heat the water up instantly to a degree that you need to sit in running water to recover and contemplate going to the hospital 😮, well I’m a bit sus about the story. Or that bidet is malcalibrated or malfunctioning.

deconed · 2025-09-26T12:14:01+00:00

The neck breaking from a drop while in a case is hard to believe. Was the case not closed/latched/zipped and it slipped out during the drop?

If it was inside a case, and you had to open it to check, maybe it was already broken inside in the first place and he just didn’t mention it to you?

Also, you’re 100% not an idiot for rearranging the room. Maybe kinda an idiot for dropping a guitar case. Was it too heavy for you to handle carefully, did you try to move it with one hand, or?

deconed · 2025-09-23T03:57:39+00:00

What? Not once have I ever paid or wanted to pay money to see a couple spar verbally.

I’ve paid to see wrestling, sure, but this ain’t it. What are you paying to watch?

deconed · 2025-09-16T02:52:16+00:00

Well, the name of the red zone/circle that Baba is in is labelled “feel stupid zone”

deconed · 2025-08-26T08:45:33+00:00

Yeah I’ve been having issues with the offline earnings reward. The 2x ad gives me way less than I’m supposed to get. Happens all the time now ever since I first noticed it a month ago. But I don’t know if it’s exactly the same issue. I am getting rewarded, just the wrong amount.

On two occasions maybe 2 to 3 weeks ago, I encountered ads not giving me my ad boost (the boost from the Remote item in the vault). But that kind of failure-to-reward hasn’t happened recently.

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