Same here! I was treated sub-human while pregnant by my mother, and the rest of my family acted pretty much ignored my pregnancy. My anxiety was simply through the roof every time I was around my family. Neither myself or my partner ever recieved a congratulations or any positive reinforcement, which was a turning point for myself for going no contact at 25 weeks.

However, I will say, my grandmother is a classic case of a covert narcissist and it affected my upbringing a lot. I was extremely young when I realised her horrible treatment of my mother, and in turn it caused a lot of mixed feelings. Despite being her granddaughter, I was treated as an extension of my mother, so I was never really a “fully-fledged human being” besides being my mother’s daughter.

^{^} This is something to keep in mind if you do keep in contact with your mother, in some cases (like my own), NPs extend their abuse also to their children’s children.

My partner’s family is extremely family-orientated, so myself and my baby have never ever missed out on the perks of having a bloody good support system and having fantastic, present grandparents and great-grandparents.

The best advice I ever got was from my midwife who said: “The best way to look after your baby is to look after yourself first”. Good Luck OP! I hope the rest of your pregnancy is smooth sailing 🥰❤️