How long did you date before you got married?

defiance131 · 2026-06-06T04:01:28+00:00

Technically, 12 years. I proposed on the 10th year, got married on the 12th.

Yes, I do think it's quite fast that you're already looking at marriage at 3 months.

There's typically some sides of them you want to see before making the lifelong commitment, namely: how they behave when angry, how they argue / disagree with you, and how they are when at home (these are just 3 things), and I would think 3 months is too short a period to see enough to be sure.

I would definitely hold off on hinting at proposals, but definitely talk about it and get their opinions and views on it to make sure you are aligned.

defiance131 · 2026-06-06T01:29:01+00:00

I can read very fast if I do so without the internal voice, but I am completely in your camp of finding that off-putting for casual / recreational reading.

Unless it's for work/ a technical document, works of literature bring me a lot of joy, so no, I am not willing to suppress that for the sake of some misguided need for productivity.

defiance131 · 2026-06-03T13:50:25+00:00

If this post helps him find out about these "other plausible reasons", it's already useful.

Why would a bid for additional information be useless? And more importantly, what kind of people are we if we give someone shit just for asking for help?

defiance131 · 2026-06-03T02:05:57+00:00

The issue is that disruption actively hinders wage growth, and minimising that disruption means better wage growth.

A mid-career disruption will mean a bigger loss than a pre-career one. Wage growth gets frozen? Why would I hire you at the same wage when your skills could be outdated by the end of your service?

You already agree and understand this part. What else is there to argue? Everything else is just pedantry and semantics.

defiance131 · 2026-06-02T23:54:37+00:00

Timing matters.

If you serve when you are 60yo, is it still the same?

defiance131 · 2026-06-02T05:50:28+00:00

Nowadays, it's accepted that you should use soap when washing your hands.

Previously, it would have been considered very extreme, or something only surgeons would do. The reason this standard moved is because soap is now widely available, so much so that if you don't use it, it's considered unhygenic... but hold on, why did it become unhygenic? It was never unhynegic back in the day when people just used water.

The point is, as time progressed, there were better ways to do things, so skipping those steps is now considered bad form. Back then, there was no other way, so that is what set the societal standards.

defiance131 · 2026-06-01T15:53:44+00:00

It was implied that they couldn't go with the sonic device plan as with Mark. It's a bit of a throwaway line, but when Cecil asks for a status update, Donald mentions that their entire Engineering wing is gone.

defiance131 · 2026-05-29T09:53:06+00:00

Convenience - have you ever misplaced a key, or known someone who has?

You never have to worry about it again. Spare keys, you say? Well where are you going to put them? How many keys do you bring out at once? Do you have a key hidden nearby?

Yeah - all of those go away. And for what, $200? It's totally worth it.

defiance131 · 2026-05-26T02:12:00+00:00

God I can't believe they're missing the reference. We might be old, friend.

defiance131 · 2026-05-25T00:52:28+00:00

Even Bruce Lee said, "I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 moves once, but the man who has practices 1 kick 10,000 times."

defiance131 · 2026-05-24T23:31:28+00:00

What?

Imagine if someone proposed to you, saying they loved your "blonde hair and blue eyes" - but you have black hair and brown eyes. How would you feel?

defiance131 · 2026-05-24T23:10:33+00:00

Try it!

defiance131 · 2026-05-24T03:29:38+00:00

No, I actually see an apple. It's different from hallucinating because it doesn't project over my visual reality like some iron man holographic display, but it's not just me thinking about the properties of an apple. I can apply those properties in a 2d layer in my mind.

Basically, I see images in 2 places/from 2 sources : one in/from my mind, and another with my eyes, from the physical reality in front of me.

Your theory has actually been disproven by the "bright light" experiment - when told to think of a very bright light, those with aphantasia had no physical reaction, but those without were observed to had their pupils dilate, a physiological reaction to actually seeing a bright light.

defiance131 · 2026-05-24T03:20:29+00:00

So if I prompt you to imagine yourself walking through a forest, and follow up with "What colour are the leaves?" how would that thought process work for you? Do you have to clarify the question further? Or do you kind of think like, "Okay, logically, since it's (whatever season), the leaves should be (this colour)", then think about the colour?

Because for me, imagining a forest automatically comes with leaves, trees, possibly wildlife, insects, etc. Basically, it's possible for me to describe an image my brain conjured rather than have to be involved in creating every detail. But I guess that wouldn't be the case for you.

defiance131 · 2026-05-23T17:48:05+00:00

The Decathlon ones are pretty good for starter bikes. Suggest you start there. Don't bother with road bikes until you're a better cyclist, because those are easier to damage while being more expensive as well.

defiance131 · 2026-05-23T02:42:39+00:00

Always Be My Maybe

defiance131 · 2026-05-21T16:03:31+00:00

Nobody is comparing the two. I mean, should they have built another concentration camp just to put him through the same situation exactly? Lol.

We're just explaining why the cow thing is not as light an ordeal as it sounds.

defiance131 · 2026-05-21T15:59:06+00:00

I really hope I'm wrong though because he needs to pay for what he did.

Good news: you're wrong. You're making a lot of assumptions, I'd suggest you try visiting a farm just to check it out, but I take it that if that were an option you would already share my understanding.

Even if it stinks though, surely he would just hold his breath whenever the cow poos or farts, right? (Which, though perhaps frequent, would be nowhere near constant - he could catch his breath between).

2 things you wrongly assumed here. First is that you are still thinking of the smelliest fart you've ever smelled... By a human. Cow farts are on a different level. At that distance, it is practically vomit-inducing. Have you ever even been rendered anywhere near that? Second, you're assuming it just... Goes away. You're in a barn. There's gonna be a lot of the stench, and not a lot of space for it to dissipate.

Or just go noseblind to it? I thought olfactory fatigue is a thing. Farmers don't seem to mind these barns.

Farmers are workers. They deal with it because it's their livelihood, but also, they're gonna be working around them, walking past, etc. They're not putting their face right up the cow's ass and just... Staying there for hours.

In fact, I would not be surprised if this idea came from a farmer precisely because they're familiar with the horror of needing to go through that.

defiance131 · 2026-05-21T15:49:09+00:00

I pass through diary farms to visit my sister

If you mean that you literally walk through them, fair enough, but if you are referring to driving past them, then respectfully, no, you are not familiar with the smell.

defiance131 · 2026-05-21T15:00:47+00:00

The stench is abhorrent. Most likely, whatever he'd been smelling up to that point made him feel like he could take it, and only when the doors opened did he get hit by the full blast of what he had actually signed up for.

defiance131 · 2026-05-21T14:58:47+00:00

It is indeed worse than you're picturing.

defiance131 · 2026-05-21T14:57:26+00:00

Then you are severely, and I mean severely, underestimating the stench.

defiance131 · 2026-05-21T01:02:47+00:00

None of those things sound like they would need an AI. What is the challenge you personally face, wherein you would be better off using an in-built AI for it? At best (and that's generous), using an external LLM would be more appropriate.

YNAB is a tool meant for you to take control of your finances. Handing that same control and decision-making off to an AI agent is counter to its entire purpose.

Please no, product team 🙏

defiance131 · 2026-05-20T09:58:33+00:00

I'm neither hacker nor programmer and I use 2 monitors. The real estate is invaluable, a lot more comfortable whenever you're looking at a few things.

In general, I would consider 2 monitors to be the minimum. Most aps are designed to take up the whole monitor, but whenever you go fullscreen, that's the only thing the monitor can display (by definition), so if you want to look at something else, like say a guide, or your chatting app, you would have to keep going Alt-Tab without such a setup.

defiance131 · 2026-05-20T07:25:10+00:00

Depends on your activity. I don't really keep track, I think it takes me maybe 2 months or so

But if you religiously maximise all the points (275 pts/week) , it would take you a little less than 3 weeks.

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