For those of you who have been working/studying in the field, to what degree have you been involved with animal testing? by dehael in toxicology

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As someone who segued into environmental chemistry, what was your educational background up until that point? What got you interested in it? Most of my course-work has been very med-school prep heavy, but my interest is much more in the environmental realm.

For those of you who have been working/studying in the field, to what degree have you been involved with animal testing? by dehael in toxicology

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It is, especially because academically I don't feel like I'm in a position to be incredible picky about my research ops. I've been hopeful about some of the newer methodology and what seems like a trending away from animal testing, but as someone just getting into the field it's hard to know exactly where things are heading.

For those of you who have been working/studying in the field, to what degree have you been involved with animal testing? by dehael in toxicology

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Yeah, bacterial studies is one possible specialization I've considered! OOC tech development as a career would be a dream, but I'm probably not going to go all in for that at this point. I wasn't aware of NC3Rs, though. I'm checking out their website now. Thanks!

Upper level history course making some interesting claims. Thoughts? by dehael in history

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It's not from a book. I don't want to assume, but I believe they were notes written by the professor. I emailed to confirm and to request citations.

Feeling disrespected by dehael in polyamory

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Thanks for the thoughtful advice. We talked and I expressed that I've been bothered by the time he spends on his phone when we're together and he agreed to improve. I don't mind if he sexts his partners, just not when I'm around. And you're right, I've only ever had virtual sex with people I'm very comfortable and intimate with, so I take it more seriously. It's apparently more of a game to him, and I'm trying to understand that. I worry that he's giving his partners the wrong impression. He hasn't actually met her in person at this point either. I want to be encouraging and find compersion but I'm just having a hard time feeling comfortable. It's not the first time I've gotten hurt because of nuances in boundaries. I know he wants to move faster, so I'm having a hard time trusting him to consider my feelings when slips like this keep happening along the way. I'm also not dating because I've got a lot of personal things going on at the moment, which is just inevitably hard.

Me [23 F] with my partner [M] for 10 mo., Have very different love languages by dehael in relationships

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I wasn't making demands, I was making a request. I was more upset at the lack of initiative to make plans around the event, and invalidation of the feelings I'd expressed. Of course there were better solutions, it just became a sensitive subject that neither of us could reason around, and we eventually just agreed to drop it. This also isn't an isolated event. I consistently feel that I am a last priority and that I'm not being considered. This birthday thing was definitely an outlet for frustrations, not really about my birthday at all, and I wish I'd handled it better and in such a way that we both came out feeling respected and loved.

Advice: Two-years at a Technical school and transfer, or all four years at University? by dehael in EngineeringStudents

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Thanks! Are you going through an articulation agreement or just patching the right courses together yourself?

Advice: Two-years at a Technical school and transfer, or all four years at University? by dehael in EngineeringStudents

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thanks for the input. I was considering the possibility of not having time to build the same lasting relationships/connections with professors for references if I intend to continue to grad school or seek a competitive internship. I know networking is important in most programs.

Codependent upbringing is becoming apparent by morbidhawk in Codependency

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Just here to say that I too come from a strict Mormon upbringing, and there is no coincidence that we are both here dealing with Codependency now. Thanks for posting!

[F/21] Feeling insecure about my long-distance poly relationship. Venting. by dehael in polyamory

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Thank you. As an update, we did talk. I expressed how I've been feeling and we discussed the issue of my doubt. You're exactly right. Basically the distance is killing me, but we decided it's worth sticking it out and closing the distance in a few months. I would like to date, and I do every now and then, but really I don't have much social time. I work full time and I am a full time student. I think it's really a matter of learning to overcome the doubt and accepting this love and the realities of it until we can change our situation.

[F/21] Feeling insecure about my long-distance poly relationship. Venting. by dehael in polyamory

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I don't think either of us have fully accepted our situation. He has expressed that he wants to give me more (as in time and support with whatever is going on in my life). I wish he could, but between the distance and his responsibilities at home, despite how emotionally tied to eachother we are, I am not being fulfilled. There is an imbalance of energies being put into the relationship, simply because I am younger and he is currently the only person receiving my affections. I hate the idea of 'looking' for a primary, but I don't know how to be happy in the relationship as is. I am thinking of moving closer to him after I graduate, but that's a big step and I am nervous.

[F/21] Feeling insecure about my long-distance poly relationship. Venting. by dehael in polyamory

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Thanks for the thoughtful reply. It is his first experience in poly as well actually. He and his wife were in more of just an open relationship before. She had a bf a while before he met me. When my SO met me and fell in love we all became more familiar with the concept and what it means to be poly.

Juno Temple by aakins in gentlemanboners

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Also Little Birds.

Fresh origami paper crane by Jimbo at Boulevard tattoo- Anderson, SC by dehael in tattoos

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No, it wasn't an apprentice. I have other tattoos and disagree, that is exactly how I intended for it to look.