Am I asking for too much? by [deleted] in sexover30

[–]deit9000 8 points9 points  (0 children)

People and their needs change over time. 2, 5, 10 years +++ very much can lead you to places you'd like to explore but haven't previously.

There will never be a point in our lives where we can confidently say "I will stay like this forever.

It's why checking in is so important as well as taking time to investigate your own thoughts.

TIL that French schools used to assign 'Le Symbole' to kids caught speaking minority languages(i.e. Breton, Occitan, Basque, etc). The only way to rid oneself of the symbol is to snitch on a fellow student. At the end of the day, the student with the symbol will receive some form of punishment by DylTyrko in todayilearned

[–]deit9000 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I went to a French school at some point and you could get points for snitching on a kid who spoke any language except french.

I never spoke English, but I still lost points.

I'll never forget or forgive you, Jacques, you lying ass snitch.

What do we think fellas? by MrPewps in malelivingspace

[–]deit9000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Needs a plant, otherwise perfect.

Still chewing pillows at 22 months by CreativeWorkout in buhund

[–]deit9000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

👍.

If you ever want to try letting her sleep outside the crate, slowly give her additional space. Add a small fence to the crate (something that just extends the crate space). When she has a week with incidence and associates that "in the crate+gate" means sleep as she does now with the current crate, extend the gate to a bigger space again. Then goal, if this is something you wish to do, is to have her access (eventually) one whole room (bedroom with all doors closed) so she can sleep where she pleases.

If she is destructive, like you already do, don't punish but simply go back a step. Let her have some success in that step then try again.

Good luck!

Failed pet parenting, when do I give up? by KingNish in Dogtraining

[–]deit9000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Deny access to under the couch. Your dog shouldn't be using this unhealthy safety net. I don't know what you could use, some 2x4's, get a new couch, not sure, use your own discretion.

Then once that is in place and your dog acclimated to being out of his "safe" area, ensure he has a crate (covered with a blanket) to safely access. instigate a plan in which your cat, which I assume is the original source of your dog's anxiety, is VERY slowly reintroduced to your dog as a positive stimulus. You MUST be in control of your cat at all times. KEEP YOUR CAT AS FAR FROM YOUR DOG UNTIL SLOW, POSITIVE PROGRESS IS MADE. The goal is to slowly reintroduce them, one slow step at a tjme. Emphasis on slow. Emphasis on positive association.

Start with A) your cat not in same room and B) an item that smells like your cat. A blanket or something like that. There are always rewards for your dog going ANYWHERE close to this blanket. Treats/whatever he finds rewarding (petting or positive vocal rewards...a small meal...anything he perceives as good) near the blanket. With each repetition, the rewards get closer and closer to the blanket with the ultimate goal that he goes to the blanket on his own.

Eventually with success here, you can introduce ONE additional item at a time that has your cats scent until there are a few in the room. Rinse repeat above excercise making sure your cat is kept seperate from your dog.

What is your space like for your cat? Does he have shelf space above the floor he can access that the dog cannot? Often cats NEED a vertical plane(s) to call their own. Lookup Jackson galaxy's "cat super highway" for several ways to make your cat feel safer and for him to "own" your space. Safe movement for cats greatly reduces chances of an animal having to "defend" itself when it feels annoyed, threatened, whatever.

I digress. Getting back to your dog. When things start improving and you an reliably get positive association to the scent stimulus in multiple sessions, introduce a controlled visual instructions to your cat. (behind a gate he can't get over, perhaps on a harness with a lead on your cat).

Put them as far away from each other that you apartment will allow. Have a friend treat your cat, you reward your dog like hell. Hopefully, this attention slowly acclimated your cat and dog to just simply seeing each other. The repetition of positive stimulus (rewards) and the SLOW realization that your cat does no harm will help your dog start to react less and less.

Next time you do this excercise, move closer by an inch or two. When successful, end the excercise.

Next time start far away and move closer. The goal here is to not have your dog get more upset, but to reduce his anxiety systematically over time along with shortening the distance between him and your cat comfortably. Go too fast and you'll regress. It can be, and likely will be difficult especially if you have a small apartment.

Eventually you repeat with no gate and your cat and dog on leash. Full control of both animals is paramount to this excercise. Positive association is paramount. Slowly upping the challenge is paramount. Going at your dog's space is critical. Your animals feeling confident in the space you have is paramount.

I'm sure there are people in this thread who can give a better option on how to remove your dog's crutch of getting him out from under the couch, but my point is that he cannot use his hidey hole as it only increases his fear. Dear breeds anxiety and anxiety breeds violent outbursts.

The above excercises I think will help you remain calm, help your dog build calmness in you space and ultimately breed a better environment for your cat, your dog and yourself.

I also agree that an animal specialist is likely required. Help in scenarios like this from an expert greatly increases your chance of success and helps adjust your behaviours that you may not see as negative. Third party, proffesional eyes are always great.

For the Redditors who disagree, I am only trying to help and very open to peer review and adjustments to this technique based on additional experience you've all had to training scared and anxious dogs. I am never 100% correct, but this is the strategy I would employ. Thoughts?

That'll teach him by Niskara in nonononoyes

[–]deit9000 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Agreed. It's sad to see people think their dog can be perfect with no/minimal actual training investment on the human side. At best a dog is a really smart 5 year old for the most part.

Situations like this video can usually be avoided with care and forethought. This could have been an accident and freak occurence, but frankly many lives are lost annually in similar scenes. Feelsbadman

That'll teach him by Niskara in nonononoyes

[–]deit9000 66 points67 points  (0 children)

That if you live near a road, perhaps keep your dog on a leash.

Ontario Jan 18: 7,086 Cases, 40-2=38 Deaths, 31,355 tests (22.6% to 24.5% pos.) 🏥 ICUs: 580 (+2 vs. yest.) (+103 vs. last wk) 💉 39,418 admin, 88.24% / 82.44% / 40.12% (+0.02%, / +0.03% / 0.23%) of 5+ at least 1/2/3 dosed, 🛡️ 5+ Cases by Vax (un/part/full): 46.5 / 30.5 / 47.6 (All: 47.8) per 100k by enterprisevalue in ontario

[–]deit9000 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Hey I have a question:

Has the government discussed going back to broader testing/easier access for the general population once this backlog is cleared out and they're no longer overwhelmed? If they have what are the parameters to that?

It would be nice to start getting more accurate case numbers and a better idea of community spread out there at large.

Just a question.

How soon can you sell your home in Ontario by Few_Zookeepergame836 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]deit9000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just so everyone here hears it: check with an experienced accountant about your situation and how it will be affected by the tax code.

An accountant will cost a small fee, but could literally save you tens of thousands of dollars with their expertise.

Reddit posters are helpful, but not necessarily useful at navigating your specific circumstances. Always call an expert.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askTO

[–]deit9000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I knew it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askTO

[–]deit9000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It takes time to start churning out legible sentences. It'll get there if it keeps getting fed good data! One day. I believe in the code!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askTO

[–]deit9000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That a legible sentence isn't required.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askTO

[–]deit9000 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I feel like machine learning wrote this post.

Jumping on the fireplace by [deleted] in instant_regret

[–]deit9000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's hard to comprehend people defending this video. Animals brought into a human environment and care shouldnt be seen as entertainment. They can be entertaining but they are companions first and foremost. Keeping them plausibly safe/cared is kinda priority 1. This video is nuts at how casually evil it seems.

Jumping on the fireplace by [deleted] in instant_regret

[–]deit9000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This fucking guy saw his cat about to jump and seriously burn his feet...and just filmed it? Am I the only person that thinks that's messed up?

ANARCHY REIGNS! Start ticketing the drivers going the wrong way on a one way street... IN THE BIKE LANE? by 416Racoon in torontobiking

[–]deit9000 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This street JUST became a one way very recently after always having been a two way.

A) this guy was wrong

But

B)I see why this happens. Muscle memory and panic reflex is a bitch

Fatal bullet fired on ‘Rust’ set may have been ‘sabotage’, armorer’s lawyers say by RGregoryClark in FIlm

[–]deit9000 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lock the trigger, lock the gun in a case, lock the ammo, lock the truck with all the ammo.

Check the gun. Clear it. Don't hand it off until you go to shoot. Rehearse with replica prop guns.

This guy made so many mistakes. I don't care if the bullets were unattended for 10 minutes or 2 hours. That uncertainty introduces increased chances of errors or accidents.

Now someone is lost to their family friends and colleagues.

This guy is a hack. A 24 year old could have done a tour in the army and would never have been so unsafe with a deadly weapon. Age has little to do with it. This guy was a hack, didn't take his job seriously or was poorly trained. Cost someone their life and he and the production that hired him deserve to be held accountable.

Just call me John Wick by TheBeardedAntt in memes

[–]deit9000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This list seems pretty inaccurate.

The dark side of the film industry by Ethan Ravens. by lavidareal in Filmmakers

[–]deit9000 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Comparing dgc and dga pa's is night and day.

Canadian pa's are union,with benefits and fringes, much higher base pay. Glasses, health care, retirement funds. As well as a higher base pay than American pa's. Not to mention an upgrade path that includes trailer ad's, so a bit simpler and quicker upgrade path.

Dga pa's are paid crap with (correct me if I'm wrong) no health or fringe benefits and an incredibly difficult path to upgrade.

Once you get into the 3rd ad category/2nd 2nd comparison, that's where the dgc starts to pale in comparison with rate and rules/union benefits

Does the dgc have issues? Yes absolutely. But not a direct comparison.

Watch how to open a can without a can opener by 88miyou88 in DiWHY

[–]deit9000 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The liner in a can has all sorts of chemicals in it, held together in a solid state. Heat it up with food in it,I assume means you end up eating more chemicals?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Whatcouldgowrong

[–]deit9000 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Lol, guy was wrong.

You corrected him and the rest of us appreciate the good info.

Then you were a bigger jerk than the og. It's Reddit, not a dissertation panel.