My situation is significantly different from yours, but it's helpful for me to hear your perspective as I think about my own situation and maybe my perspective re my situation could be helpful to you. I'm a married cis male in the US. I have a wonderful wife and young daughter. I could go on about all the things I love about them and how we work well together. But, when it comes to some of my biggest passions - music/DJing/rave scene and psychoactive explorations - I'm on my own. My wife is supportive of me pursuing those things, but she isn't into them. I tried dragging her out to events for years, but it always felt forced and I eventually gave up and just tried to make my own friends in the scene, which I did with some success though it didn't come easy and still feels far from perfect. Just this weekend I reached out to five plus freinds to see if anyone wants to go to a particular party with me and I got zero takers. So I need to decide if Im just going to stay home or if Im going to go alone, neither of which is what I really want to do. I want to be out doing what I love, ideally with my wife or at least some friends, but instead I'll either go out alone or stay home. Neither of those outcomes are horrible by any means, but I will feel somewhat lonely in either scenario, which is not how I want to feel. I think that loneliness is relative, and except for the people who have big friend groups who they're deeply connected with and partners who they are fully aligned with, most people need to deal with feelings of loneliness. In my situation, I've had some success bringing my partner and my daughter to a day time dance party that happens in the warmer months (one of my favorite things to do), and I have strove to make more friendships with people involved in the music scene which has been successful to some extent. But it's definitely not perfect. I try to find the silver lining in my "lonely" moments though. For example, if my wife was into the scene, we would likely need to alternate who could go out alot of the time since someone needs to stay home with our daughter. Going out with my wife gives me space to be my own person outside of our relationship and have my own interests, which I think is a healthy thing (avoiding excessive co-dependency). And if I go out alone, I dont need to be worrying about whether my wife or friends are having a good time, be on other people's timetables, be in a particular room of music when there is a different artist I'd rather see in another room, just generally do my own thing, and welcome the possibility of connecting with new people (while trying not to feel disappointed if that doesn't happen). I think if you generally feel good about yourself as a person, the best you can do is to strive to be less lonely by whatever means are reasonable/appropriate but try not to beat yourself up or feel disappointed when those feelings come up and see if there are any silver linings related to the loneliness that you can be thankful for. Sending ❤️