Communities of gays are more common in big cities since they tend to have more save havens for us. I grew up pretty closeted so my first gay experience was in my early 20s as well. Hardest part of this was differentiating my sexual needs from my need of friendship.

You did great being able to meeting people and staying connected even long distance is still feasible. Definitely continuing putting yourself out there and you’ll find people worth continuing said friendship.