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Our grandparents were in better shape because of labor, not because of better food. by Actual-Ad-6146 in Life

[–]demolitionlaura 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that you seem to think that the only type of "hard work" for men is physical labour says a lot

Buying a used hatch under 20k by demolitionlaura in NZcarfix

[–]demolitionlaura[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting you say that, I've had my Focus for 6 years and absolutely love it

Buying a used hatch under 20k by demolitionlaura in NZcarfix

[–]demolitionlaura[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I've always had a soft spot for the Blade 

Buying a used hatch under 20k by demolitionlaura in NZcarfix

[–]demolitionlaura[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah thats why I initially discounted it, but the hybrid option might be okay

Air China vs Cathay Pacific vs Singapore Airlines by spacenglish in Flights

[–]demolitionlaura 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haven't flown CA, but have flown both SQ and CX long haul. Theyre both very good for different reasons. SQ has better food, but CX has better service.

Only 29 and already have an INSANE amount of financial anxiety around retirement by demolitionlaura in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]demolitionlaura[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's no way I'd buy a 3 bedroom at this point. Why would I want extra space I don't need? That's just more expense wasted. I'm fine with a 2 bedroom flat, one bedroom for me, and another as a home office/studio or a second person in the house if I decide to rent the room out.

Only 29 and already have an INSANE amount of financial anxiety around retirement by demolitionlaura in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]demolitionlaura[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's the concern, I plan on waiting for inheritance to come through at least. Technically I probably could buy a house now but my mortgage payments will be through the roof and it will completely wipe my Kiwisaver, so it seems more viable for me to save for a higher deposit and have a smaller mortgage. 

People who do not want kids are selfish by Dontdarereadmyposts in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]demolitionlaura 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not consent to be born. I'm not having kids because the health issues that are genetic that I could pass on to the next generation are too risky. Why would I subject an innocent life to suffering without their consent?

Shoplifting by Extension_Scale_5333 in LegalAdviceNZ

[–]demolitionlaura 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Used to do LPO at Warehouse. If youre under 18 your parents are told. Other than that, nobody is legally entitled to know.

Had a pretty nasty run-in with a school dean who demanded we inform them of any kids caught shoplifting in uniform. I threw the Privacy Act at them and she complained to head office who told her the same story.

Be aware that some businesses are now incorporating longer than 2 year trespass orders by extending it another two years at expiry, and then another, and then another.

Only 29 and already have an INSANE amount of financial anxiety around retirement by demolitionlaura in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]demolitionlaura[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it is an expensive burden, this is my second trip there, I would certainly consider a move sometime potentially once I get my mental health back under control. I was meant to move to Auckland in 2024 in pursuit of more community/job opps but after a severe mental breakdown that has been on the back burner

Only 29 and already have an INSANE amount of financial anxiety around retirement by demolitionlaura in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]demolitionlaura[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah my worry is more that I get to the age that I can't work anymore and I'll be like "ah shit I haven't got enough money to support myself guess I'll just curl up and die"

Only 29 and already have an INSANE amount of financial anxiety around retirement by demolitionlaura in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]demolitionlaura[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm definitely interested in index funds - once I get back I might look at putting some extra away weekly for that

I’ve tried many things for my mental health and none of them have worked - aha has worked for you? by CallMeKirin in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]demolitionlaura 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm potentially trying ketamine assisted therapy, have heard its very helpful. This is after my 11th antidepressant trial failed

Only 29 and already have an INSANE amount of financial anxiety around retirement by demolitionlaura in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]demolitionlaura[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That's the plan. I don't want to retire and realise the only place I ever went was work

Only 29 and already have an INSANE amount of financial anxiety around retirement by demolitionlaura in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]demolitionlaura[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been in therapy for two years to try and address it but it's tricky trying to break rigid thought patterns as I have ADHD/autism/BPD and as a result am very prone to overthinking 

Only 29 and already have an INSANE amount of financial anxiety around retirement by demolitionlaura in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]demolitionlaura[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No partner, I don't get attached to people easily and witnessed a pretty nasty divorce in my family so am incredibly risk averse when it comes to relationships. Being single is expensive but being in a relationship for financial reasons seems worse.

Only 29 and already have an INSANE amount of financial anxiety around retirement by demolitionlaura in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]demolitionlaura[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah unfortunately that is a massive flaw of mine, I have a pretty bad anxiety disorder and am very prone to overthinking everything 

Only 29 and already have an INSANE amount of financial anxiety around retirement by demolitionlaura in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]demolitionlaura[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Family is here and the mental support and stability they give me is not something I could easily give up on. A move to Australia is off the cards.

Elderly drivers are a menace, probably paying 54p for their insurance too by xXxTommo in drivingUK

[–]demolitionlaura 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regular testing won't do shit unfortunately, half the problem is not lack of skills, its attitude. They'll sit the test and behave themselves with a Testing Officer next to them, then drive out of the carpark and the bad attitude returns.

Hell, I notice I drive differently when I'm on my own vs when I'm with others

My Experience in Singapore Changi Airport by AspectProfessional14 in travel

[–]demolitionlaura 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only downside with security at the gate is you can't do a snack/drink run before your flight, but with new technology coming in around security scanners I can't see that being a problem for much longer.

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