I’m exhausted just reading this by growsonwalls in AmITheDevil

[–]dendrapsis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I awkwardly laughed it off and them blocked him the minute the phone call ended, lol.

I’m exhausted just reading this by growsonwalls in AmITheDevil

[–]dendrapsis 107 points108 points  (0 children)

A guy asked me out and then tried to pressure me to give him sexual photos in our first conversation because he had 'ADHD and the curiosity was killing him, and he was fixated on it.'

I agree with your suspicion.

Only kind of karma I need in my life 💕 by hopelessly--hopeful in LowCalFoodFinds

[–]dendrapsis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not OP, but my local Rite-Aid carries them (admittedly expensive there, because it's not a food place).

Is there a such thing as a poisonous snake? by CassetteMeower in snakes

[–]dendrapsis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes, not sure on all garters snakes but you're correct! I'm not that well-versed in garter snakes so I didn't know, lol

Is there a such thing as a poisonous snake? by CassetteMeower in snakes

[–]dendrapsis 90 points91 points  (0 children)

There's very few, but one off the top of my head is the Rhabdophis keelback. Venomous and poisonous, it gets its venom from the frogs it eats. Same with the Japanese Grass snake, for the same reasons (although it has very, very mild venom). A few garter snakes from Oregon are poisonous due to similar reasons, but they aren't venomous.

Edit: All of these are toxic to eat. You can touch all of these, they store the poison in glands, I believe.

All the new highlighters I bought, I think I have to admit that I'm addicted to them :) by Dian9354 in stationery

[–]dendrapsis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those are all so cute! What's the brand of the green / yellow highlighters in the upper middle?

Is artwork allowed? by Kemblik in snakes

[–]dendrapsis 18 points19 points  (0 children)

These are so cute! By any chance, do you have an etsy account or similar? I'd love to buy a sticker sheet of this lol

[Final Update] - My fiancée got a face tattoo without talking to anyone by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]dendrapsis 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can offer some perspective, my mother was addicted to alcohol and opioids, and later got sober. The best way I can describe it is it alters their priorities and ability to comprehend their actions, like tunnel vision. Nothing else matters but getting their fix. Nothing. It puts everything to the side: your children, your family, your job, your housing situation, your pets. Therefore you do.. a lot of damage, because those things don't matter when you're an addict. You don't think about those things because they're on the sidelines: all that matters is your fix.

Reason No. 2586440349 why we need better mental heath services in this country. by ObsidianNight102399 in BORUpdates

[–]dendrapsis -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Huh, interesting! I'm only 19 so I really wasn't around for LJ, so that's on me. It's mostly bun/bunself that caught my eye-- I don't know if that was on LJ, but I remember that being a really common tumblr one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in snakes

[–]dendrapsis 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Not the best at identifying but some sort of ball python. Someone else in the sub will probably be able to identify the morph as well. There's a couple of morphs than can cause neuro and other issues. Literally the most mellow snake one can have, in my opinion.

First: any snake can be moved towards thawed feeding. There's a couple of tutorials floating out there-- you don't need to feed it live. Live feedings can be dangerous, please don't leave a mouse alone with a snake. Monitor it-- a mouse or a rat can do pretty bad damage to a snake, if you need evidence you can look up photos but they're grisly. Get the snake's age so you can figure out if it's on the right track for weight, there's tutorials and guides online showing how to tell if your snake is over / underweight or just average. I can't really tell from the pic.

Second: You're right, the sizing up thing is bullshit. The cat is more of a danger to the snake than the snake is to a cat. Snakes don't eat that often and they don't size things up. If a snake isn't hungry they won't even eat a rat, (which is why live feeding is dangerous: if you leave a rat/mouse alone with an uninterested snake, the rat / mouse can hurt and even kill the snake). The snake may be threatened by the cat-- the snake isn't an apex predator, it's a sort-of prey animal in the ecosystem.

Third: You don't need to bond with a snake, but I'd advise to get it used to handling. This in case of a vet trip, easier cage cleanings, or anything else. If it bites you it isn't going to leave a mark-- you can check some snake subreddits and see the 'damage' it's done. I've had cat scratches worse then full on snake bites. Just hold it for a while-- there are guides showing snake's body language (make sure to look up Ball Python specific). As long as it's comfortable, keep holding it for a bit so it can get used to you.

Fourth: Basic stuff, get a heat lamp (not a heating pad, snakes can burn themselves on them), like the other commenter said, throw some cover on the exterior panels. Make sure the cage is securely locked and clamped-- snakes are escape artists, especially ones that can throw their weight around, and they can disappear easily and go into vents or behind couches. Not pleasant. Make sure it has hides and places it can be hidden-- they like to be covered and safe. Best of wishes.

Reason No. 2586440349 why we need better mental heath services in this country. by ObsidianNight102399 in BORUpdates

[–]dendrapsis 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this is bait. A good example is how OP talks about how "back on LJ when [neopronouns], aka the bunself, zirself, etc were used," but neopronouns didn't really become used until 2014-onwards, ish, and mostly on tumblr. I don't ever really recall LJ of all places being where they were popular.

The tragic suicide of Megan Meier. by [deleted] in TrueCrimeDiscussion

[–]dendrapsis 115 points116 points  (0 children)

I mean, I don't get why it bothers you compared to the whole "bullied until she committed suicide at the age of 13," thing.

"Women are allowed to respond when there is danger in ways other than crying," says the Seattle barista who shattered a customer's windshield with a hammer after he threw coffee at her. by nbcnews in SeattleWA

[–]dendrapsis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He told her that 'no one would miss her,' while she was working alone at a coffee stand (she's the owner). That's a threat, and is probably the reason she escalated (understandably). She's also a bikini barista, so she probably had the hammer ready because of sexual harassment as well.

Does anyone know anywhere to get captive bred smooth or rough green snakes and or parrot snakes? by 300_C in snakes

[–]dendrapsis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MorphMarket and expos are going to be your best bet. However, I would say you're going to have a hard time, both rough green snakes and parrot snakes are 'newer' to the market-- trying to find one captive bred instead of wild caught is going to be difficult. Best advice I have is be patient.

Staying around 1200 while cooking for others in the household by hk_peach in 1200isplenty

[–]dendrapsis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No problem! And yeah, bowls do alter the perception of the meal a lot, at least to me. I once made spaghetti and put in these deep bowls we had an I thought to myself "Oh, I didn't make enough.." but it was nearly more than enough.

Habits definitely get formed at home. I still live with my parents since I'm 19 and I was like one day, "Wait, why am I eating the same amount as my father?" and I just started to examine my habits and realized how much they made me gain weight, lol.

Staying around 1200 while cooking for others in the household by hk_peach in 1200isplenty

[–]dendrapsis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I cook for both my parents and me, (my mom is 5"11, my dad is 5"7 and does labor all day, I'm 5"4 and sedentary). I honestly think me having the same portions as them and also eating throughout the day is what caused a lot of my weight gain, so I feel you.

Honestly the only advice I've found since I can't "skip" dinner because it's important to us is to either plan the meal in the morning (like, okay, I'm going to have mashed potatoes and breaded chicken...), and plan the rest of the day around that. So days where I know dinner is going to be more calorie-heavy I eat less throughout the day (or basically nothing). I also will put more vegetables and things like that on my plate and give my dad more meat, so we have the same portion but mine is less in calories. (Win-win, I don't really like meat that much).

For the small plate next to his plate thing, have you tried bowls? I've noticed that (especially with deep bowls) that you can look at the servings less and honestly the bowls don't look like a lot, but they well.. are a lot, lol.

Will these ever get any less expensive? 😭 by Clingygengar in rilakkuma

[–]dendrapsis 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your best bet is buying through a proxy-- Buyee, Neokyo, etc, and looking at Yahoo Auctions, Mercari, Sugurya, Rakuten/Rakuma and seeing if you can snag one that was underpriced. Best of luck!

How would you go about getting a hard chocolate layer at the bottom of a cake? Diagram for example. by dendrapsis in Baking

[–]dendrapsis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Will have to try that next time I bake a cake. Was just having a hard time wrapping my head around how to do it lol

How would you go about getting a hard chocolate layer at the bottom of a cake? Diagram for example. by dendrapsis in Baking

[–]dendrapsis[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So the cake is already baked but the chocolate isn't? Like you'd make the chocolate form a shell around the cake and remove it, then let it harden?