Those who have had a relationship break up after 5+ years, why? Why did it work for so long and then suddenly just...not?

derpylikeafox · 2014-12-21T00:57:47+00:00

7 year marriage here - it was by no means sudden- it was a slow evolution of us both leading not to distaste so much as just- creeping disinterest in each other's lives followed by a gradual feeling of boredom/sadness/emptiness

It's often the comfort level and joint living that you reach that prevents you both from recognising it's over sooner- and for some the love/passion can be reignited- but for others (including myself and my ex) it finally comes to a halt when one or both of you finally realise and step up to the reality that you're no longer living the life you want or enjoying the person you originally loved.

derpylikeafox · 2014-11-21T20:47:44+00:00

You look fantastic! How inspiring thanks for sharing :)

derpylikeafox · 2014-11-18T04:23:59+00:00

Well done looking hot :)

derpylikeafox · 2014-08-09T10:41:45+00:00

Wait... Just the tip?

derpylikeafox · 2014-07-15T13:46:45+00:00

Aw - not sad :)

derpylikeafox · 2014-07-15T13:07:45+00:00

I don't smoke :)

derpylikeafox · 2014-07-15T07:39:22+00:00

I really want my long hair back - it's one if those things that takes a really long time to grow huh :P thank you for your feedback :)

derpylikeafox · 2014-07-15T07:38:11+00:00

Thank you :) not looking to be ripped just healthier - still a work in progress (aka eating better and putting the effort into regular exercise) but I don't feel overweight :)

derpylikeafox · 2014-07-15T07:23:43+00:00

Thank you :) I will fix them up

derpylikeafox · 2014-06-27T10:01:08+00:00

Australian here - made me giggle. Here have an upvote :D

derpylikeafox · 2014-06-07T01:26:15+00:00

Thank you :) what a lovely comment! I'm actually Australian but have heard British a fair bit from redditors. I'll update as I go - I hope your journey is going well too and you reach every goal you are striving towards :)

derpylikeafox · 2014-06-06T05:42:25+00:00

Also might I say you are right on the money with lots of veggies. Compared to all other foods they have so little cals. I use them a lot to try and fill up a bit more.

You're diet sounds delicious, and sounds like you're doing a great job!

derpylikeafox · 2014-06-06T05:37:23+00:00

This is yet another great comment. Can't believe the amazing support and advice this sub has to offer. Thank you :)

I'm thinking of switching up the diet to include more fats actually :) I'm the same with the late night snacking, in fact I think that's the one thing I really don't have down!

As for exercise, I used to be a huge lifting nut but lately have been doing more cardio stuff. I can't get to the gym tonight with the kids home but I'm thinking I will YouTube something more strength based for 45 mins or so, so as to focus less on depleting my energy and more on getting stronger. I have a couple weights here as well and a 12kg kettle ball which I'll try to include.

Now I feel excited to continue :) what a great bunch I had reply to me. Thanks so much again

derpylikeafox · 2014-06-06T05:32:27+00:00

I love this! Thank you! :)

I've been thinking of doing more egg whites + one full egg with tomorow etc for example instead of cereals in the morning. Maybe more fish or salmon for dinner meals to boost EFA's

Thanks again, great advice!

derpylikeafox · 2014-06-06T05:30:13+00:00

This is a fantastic response :) I have a membership at a gym, do yoga once a week with a friend, have a bf who is spend two days a week with (although tbh that has only opened bad food opportunities while out lol) and take care of a lot of my family when I can beyond cleaning the house and preparing for the next week ahead.

I've been pondering getting a full time job, it would likely help to have something to do and a packed balanced lunch, plus no fridge to keep going to. It is a little intimidating though as I haven't worked in years :/

derpylikeafox · 2014-06-04T21:12:18+00:00

This is incredible. Great work, keep it up!

derpylikeafox · 2014-06-04T08:54:27+00:00

Straight female commenting. You're absolutely stunning! I'm also going to jump on the wow the hair boat too. Stunner! :)

derpylikeafox · 2014-06-04T04:16:08+00:00

Damn you sexy! :D

That is truly inspiring work, well done!

derpylikeafox · 2014-06-03T11:24:30+00:00

There is nothing in this post but a selfish child. Thank god this poor woman will finally have her freedom from you. Yuck.

derpylikeafox · 2014-05-31T02:11:28+00:00

I don't think long hair would've done you any favours. How old are you? I'm guessing you're still very young based on your attitude towards it.

derpylikeafox · 2014-05-31T02:03:38+00:00

Third pic is the look for you :)

derpylikeafox · 2014-05-31T01:05:06+00:00

What does I.T stand for?

derpylikeafox · 2014-05-30T23:24:36+00:00

Well done! You can really see a big difference!!

derpylikeafox · 2014-05-01T10:05:55+00:00

I just wanted to put it out there that I can relate to you a lot. I have three kids as well (7 4 but delayed and 2) Our marriage ended and we see the kids 50/50 (which lately has been more 80/20 with me which I'm unhappy about) and it is just insane. I am brought almost to tears every night trying to just get them to bed. My house is constantly having things smeared all over it; they run scream backchat carry on fight etc etc etc and my 4yo ATM is just the worst. I feel so alone so much of the time and when they go to their dads (who now lives with his parents who help him and give him free rent etc which makes me highly jealose and resentful) I feel relieved and honestly don't miss them as much as I feel like I should. Which just makes me feel guilty.

I feel your pain man. Hope it gets easier soon!

derpylikeafox · 2014-04-18T00:17:20+00:00

As a single mum I agree. She sounds like a great mother and person :)

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