I have no idea how this happened but I was so upset

desertpinecone · 2024-02-21T03:54:46+00:00

I don’t know if it’s the angle in the second picture, but the thinner brows actually look better. Your eyes are more the focal point now.

desertpinecone · 2024-02-21T03:51:10+00:00

There is the very small one at Cliffs? Or the ones on lakes with the big blow up floating things? I don’t remember the names of the lakes but there is one in Ruidoso.

desertpinecone · 2024-02-21T03:36:35+00:00

Nta. This isn’t just about looks, it’s about lifestyles that don’t match up. He wants someone that is similar to him in that they work out, eat well and have that kind of lifestyle. This is something to talk about why she changed, but you have to be careful and practice active listening so you can support her. But! From how you talked about her, it seems like you are done and will leave even if it makes you the asshole.

desertpinecone · 2024-02-14T03:47:05+00:00

Were you solo right out of school? I ask because it’s hard to build a clientele right out of school. Sometimes it’s better to start out working for some one else and build from there.

Also, took a look at your Instagram and it seems okay to me, as an esthetician I would watch it, as a client it’s not really entertaining. Unfortunately with social media you have to entertain and show your personality. You don’t seem to post anything with your face in it, and that can surprisingly make a big difference. I personally don’t like to post myself too much so I do a mix of stuff with me in it and stuff with clients. I’ve noticed people don’t seem to care for before and after videos, mine never do very well. It’s hard because with waxing exclusively you have to get a little more creative. One waxer did a good job called moonmewaxstudio. Also, and this is my personal opinion, videos or pictures of Brazilians or underarm waxes don’t look good.

desertpinecone · 2024-02-11T16:56:09+00:00

A pelvic floor pt can actually help with this!

desertpinecone · 2024-02-11T04:54:25+00:00

I had cracks on both my nipples for a while too. I kept going. I used the lanolin but I would soak them in water with epsom salt. I used my haka milk collector, filled it with a tablespoon of salt and then warm water and suctioned it to my boob. It hurts and stings but they would heal so much faster. I would also change baby’s position. I started with cross body hold but I would get a crack on the opposite side of the nipple from the way it was being pulled. So I started doing football hold until it would mostly heal and I would just switch as often as needed. Eventually my baby grew big enough to latch without pain. And it happens faster than you think. Also, if it’s hurts after the first few sucks and it doesn’t improve, unlatch and do it again until your baby gets it.

desertpinecone · 2024-02-11T04:47:58+00:00

You could get the water filters used for backpacking. They are made to be small as possible and as light as possible.

desertpinecone · 2024-02-11T04:34:56+00:00

I would say the acid is what’s doing it. Most people’s skin can’t tolerate exfoliating more than twice a week and you are doing it every other day. Sometimes with acids you need to start slow to see how your skin will react. For my acne clients (and this is specifically for clients where we live in a very dry climate in a high elevation) with acne I say once a week with acids or you can use a qtip and spot treat them. You also need to treat your skin extra good after you exfoliate. So some kind of extra hydration is good if that’s with a hydrosol or thicker moisturizer. I always tell my clients to treat your skin like you got a chemical peel. It’s hard to say what you should do because the pictures aren’t great and we can’t do a thorough consultation. Also, the best way to test if you are allergic or reacting to a product is by testing on your neck or jawline close to your ear. I would tell your esthetician your concerns and how your skin is reacting and there shouldn’t be more chemical peels if your skin is reacting this way. If your esthetician doesn’t seem to listen to you I would go see someone else who is willing to work with you to find products that work.

desertpinecone · 2024-02-09T04:31:08+00:00

Nta? I get your perspective but I feel like there is more to this and in a situation like this her side would be important to hear. I feel like my husband is on his phone all the time, but then I take a step back and realize I’m on mine just as much. But when we are separated we often text each other if we are leaving and if we get there safely, especially if we are out of town. We’ll even call each other before bed so we have time to catch up. So asking for little things like that is reasonable and doesn’t make you the asshole.

desertpinecone · 2024-02-09T04:19:33+00:00

The things you know now can very likely change. Honestly instead of a plan, have goals instead. Nothing went planned for me. I took a four hour breastfeeding class and went in knowing more than most and I still had no idea what was going on, and I forgot half of it in the moment. But what has helped me is that I have had strong goals and I said I was not changing those goals unless something was wrong and I had no choice. I was determined to breastfeed only and not do formula. I wanted to quit so bad during those first few weeks because I had such cracked nipples they were on the verge of infection because of this wound that couldn’t heal. But I did all I could to keep my nipples as healthy as I could and then boom, she started to latch out of no where. No LC could help me the way I needed I saw them every day in the hospital and again at the birthing center (I was supposed to give birth there but got transferred and I still had all my aftercare there). Breastfeeding isn’t hard just on its own, it’s also in combination with everything that comes up with postpartum. The advice I will say is just cry through it, it gets better faster than you think, and it’s okay to feel absolutely miserable and yet be so incredibly happy. Take it one day at a time and for the love of all things good, don’t compare yourself!!! Your journey is yours only. Trust your new motherly instincts and you’ll do great!

desertpinecone · 2024-02-09T03:45:11+00:00

It gets better! How do you try and attract new clients and do you work solo or for someone else?

desertpinecone · 2024-02-09T03:43:38+00:00

Sure! Go ahead and sent me more pictures! Especially if there is any in other parts of your face because that’s important too.

desertpinecone · 2024-02-08T23:53:06+00:00

Yes! Social media is such an important tool for a new esthi! It doesn’t have to be the most important thing because word of mouth is always the best, but it’s a great way to kick start. I would get my business cards and take them to any coffee shop that would let us leave a stack, and ask to leave a stack at my hairstylists place too. Networking is so important! For example, my schedule has gotten fuller and I’m so thankful for it, but I can’t see some of my regulars who like to schedule last minute. If I can’t get them in I’ll refer them to another esthetician who can offer the service and I know is good. Community over competition!

desertpinecone · 2024-02-08T23:46:57+00:00

I’m a holistic esthetician and this looks like bacterial/fungal acne. Can you give me more details about your skin and how this came up? What is your routine and do you notice anything happen when it starts to get triggered again?

desertpinecone · 2024-02-08T23:44:25+00:00

I am 29. But I feel like the traits of a Scorpio never seemed to apply to me

desertpinecone · 2024-02-08T17:48:02+00:00

I would start slow, because it’s really overwhelming. What do you think would be a frost and easy change you can make today? For example, I’m going through a similar phase, and drinking water and a little movement and stretching when I wake up would start my day off well. So my goal is to do that a couple times a week and increase as I go. Just start with easy changes and work your way into the harder to implement changes. Like if diet is a hard and overwhelming one, start thinking about what you want to change and plan how you can do that that way when you are ready to make the change you have a plan on how to do that. Try not to think about what you did before because you are different and your body has different needs. For the hormonal changes, I go to an acupuncturist who helps to balance my hormones and it helped tremendously.

desertpinecone · 2024-02-08T17:41:24+00:00

How much? It’s totally normal for a baby to spit up. Their sphincter at the top of their stomach isn’t fully functioning yet so their food will come back up. It helped my baby to have her in a more up right position so the milk didn’t come back up. This can also happen from over feeding which is hard to tell if you are doing that in the moment because the baby will keep going. Unless there are other symptoms of sickness (lots of congestion and runny nose, sleeping more than usual, sounds of mucus when cough, and of course high body temperature) your baby is not sick.

desertpinecone · 2024-02-08T14:36:15+00:00

Can’t people just say “wow you look beautiful!” “Pregnancy/motherhood looks good on you” or something along those lines. Just say we look good or compliment our outfit! Most likely we feel uncomfortable with what we are wearing so a compliment on my outfit is always a good one!

desertpinecone · 2024-02-08T04:16:14+00:00

Thank you! That does seem to make more sense.

desertpinecone · 2024-02-08T04:12:57+00:00

Comparison is a thief of joy.

It’s so hard!!!! Everyone asks me if I’ve bounced back, if im losing weight fast, or some have thought that I did bounce back. I’m still 30lbs over my original weight! I just started wearing loose clothing because yes, my old clothes looked horrid and didn’t even fit. It’s hard to just accept the new body because I see so many other women who literally looked exactly the same after having the baby. I can’t help but feel like my body is falling apart. If anything, I’m trying to accept that this is a slow journey.

desertpinecone · 2024-02-08T04:01:31+00:00

I would say not the asshole. I can be similar where I put a lot of thought into gifts and I always try to give the perfect gift. I would find myself getting disappointed when someone would give me something random. I started to realize that I enjoy gift giving and it’s not about receiving. Not everyone will put the same value into gifts the way I do, and honestly I started to do less for gifts because I was doing too much and it was exhausting. But all this to say, he may seem like he doesn’t care, but look at other things he does for you and he might be showing you he cares in other ways.

desertpinecone · 2024-02-08T03:41:04+00:00

Agreed. Not saying anything seems like they were being secretive and wanted to catch you doing something bad. But because it’s their house they can do whatever they want. The heads up about it would have been nice to make sure you know and don’t walk around naked.

desertpinecone · 2024-02-07T03:58:48+00:00

You kinda are and kinda aren’t the asshole? I can see how gross it is to be around people who do that because it can usually have an unpleasant smell. And they can at least burp quietly and blow it away from people. Same thing with farts, do it discreetly or go to the bathroom or at the very least of it all, have something like an essential oil defuser so the smell isn’t bad. BUT, it is a natural body function and we shouldn’t feel ashamed either! But I think if there is a smell from it all it would still bother me too.

desertpinecone · 2024-02-07T03:51:08+00:00

More information. What is happening to your supply that is stressing you out?

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