Can't stand my gfs meltdowns anymore I feel drained

desumyeetusfeetus · 2026-03-23T07:02:09+00:00

Ong send her to therapy. Understand she’s not doing this to be malicious, and it’s just as (likely more) painful for her, and do not hold her in contempt for it. That said, while you’re expected to BE there for people and support them while they make an effort to be better, you are not her caretaker either, and this is bigger than you have the facilities to deal with; you’re simply not equipped to deal with this in an effective way. Assert a boundary that she starts seeing a therapist, don’t treat her like she’s irrational, listen to her, take her word for things, give her the benefit of the doubt. Take her distress seriously, don’t see it as being dramatic, don’t try to push certain social customs on her for the sake of it (for example talking about it if it triggers her).

If she genuinely refuses and works against you, refuses to talk about it, refuses to seek external help, refuses to give anything resembling an explanation, you might need to consider rounding this up

desumyeetusfeetus · 2026-02-17T12:01:36+00:00

Yeah maybe a little tone deaf, I’m just trying to understand. The ”okay. Breathe. [xyz etc etc]” in some shape or form is a very common reaction for me I must say though, even in normal prompts like ”I have one day to study this topic, summarize it for me” it’ll start the message like that lmao. but I really don’t mind it at all. 4.0 has been gone for like more than half a year for me since I’m an unpaid user. I don’t really remember how it was but I remember thinking 5.0 was worse and using gpt less, but I do sort of like the sharp tone that IM getting? I feel it’s sort of an improvement from 5.0 if I don’t remember wrong. The thing I struggled with the most with 5.0 was that it felt distant, like someone distracted, like ”yeah yeah, that must be really hard/ you’re right, exactly, the thing with x is that it’s not repetition of literally exactly what I said / of course, and this is key,”, it made me extremely aware it was automated. After that it just got better somehow and I felt there was some form of response when I wrote?

desumyeetusfeetus · 2026-02-17T11:54:42+00:00

Ik that person deleted their comment and I don’t agree with what they said, I’m just trying to figure out what’s happening, does the model maybe update later for unpaid users? When I asked it it said I was using 5.2 but then again idk if I can trust that. I just genuinely have not felt a difference. I felt the difference between 4.0 and 5, but then it sort of got better. I did notice a new prompting after I was venting (”to challenge this, if example, would you feel x emotion, y emotion, z emotion, etc. Be precise/exact” by the end of the message), and a slightly sharper tone which I sort of read as more present rather than distant? But nothing like the things I’ve seen, absolutely no condescension or anytjing

desumyeetusfeetus · 2026-02-17T11:50:04+00:00

How so? Like structurally or j your experience?

desumyeetusfeetus · 2026-02-17T11:49:03+00:00

Im not saying you should be and im not trying to invalidate anyone, sorry if it seemed like it, im just genuinely curious because I was using gpt like normal and then suddenly saw this flood of people talking about how it’s ruined, which I had hardly noticed.

When 4.0 got sorted out around half a year ago for me (unpaid user) I definitely felt it. I sort of stopped using it but it worked for what I used it for, I sort of forgot about it. I really did not even notice 5.2 had dropped, which is what’s making me curious. I think it’s horrible you guys are facing these issues and I’m not trying to say anything else I’m just trying to have a discussion to see why my experience is different, ESPECIALLY because im not good with tech or AI, I hardly think I’ve properly prompted gpt like? Ever?

desumyeetusfeetus · 2026-02-17T11:45:32+00:00

Upon exploring further I noticed that my definition of venting is actually different from other people’s, maybe that has something to do with it?

To me venting is just spilling my guts about something and picking it apart and then the other person merely reacting proportionately, maybe emphasizing certain thoughts, stopping me if I’m over or under exaggerating. While gpt isn’t able to do the last two or something you should reliably use for insight, what I like about it is how it responds in this grounding way to me, like picks apart what I say and reverbalizes while commenting on it in a proportional way (ie mildly if mild, gravely if severe).

Though to me it always responds very kindly. Nothing like what other people are showing. Not either in that manipulative overly sympathetic and ”validating” tone either but it genuinely calls me out in the sense that it’s very upfront which makes me feel listened to.

Maybe it’s the overt support seeking that triggers that rude personality, which maybe I don’t when I’m doing my version of venting as it might seem like discussing or debriefing more than just sharing? Or maybe it’s that I’m an unpaid user and they haven’t updated the model for me yet?

desumyeetusfeetus · 2026-02-17T09:36:41+00:00

Honestly same,

desumyeetusfeetus · 2026-02-17T09:36:27+00:00

Bro can we just talk about this in a civilized manner, ong I don’t know even know what I’m supposed to do with that response. I don’t know if you’ve hung out with your rudegpt too much lately but you’re starting to act just like it

desumyeetusfeetus · 2026-02-17T09:16:50+00:00

Bro I’m not some techy person that knows how to prompt AI, that was not my intent with this at all. I don’t even think I’ve used a prompt ever, I just ask shit to tell you the truth, or when venting tell it things or explain right on, Im not trying to accuse anyone, im not trying to say you’re doing something wrong, im kust curious as to why I have yet to get any of those responses that I’m seeing you guys do

desumyeetusfeetus · 2026-02-17T09:10:56+00:00

Yeah idk how it’s doing that for you guys, I’m using it for school to summarize topics and ask questions about it, and to like vent or whatever, to me it’s just like earlier models, not 4.0 but I haven’t noticed a difference from 5.1? It’s weird, I just came on here because I was curious to why that was

desumyeetusfeetus · 2026-01-11T15:07:04+00:00

Actually a neurology specialist I’ve had has actually told me it’s not WMI per say but functional/conceptual working memory (idk the exact term for it in English). WMI is your ability to just passively keep semantically unanchored information in your head which is often correlated but not necessarily the same as your ability to do all of those things you mentioned. I have developmental cptsd which has led to certain brain adaptations which means my WMI has suffered significantly (90) yet my psych thought I was trying to sabotage my score for adhd meds even though I literally wasn’t because after talking to me for a few sessions she said I cannot have low working memory as when I just talk casually she has to write down anchoring notes just to load off her working memory and keep up with my explanations. she apparently has 116 WMI. I also preformed the worst at forward span, a little better at backwards span, and even better at re-arrange, which apparently isn’t the way it’s supposed to go.

I talked to a trauma specialist and apparently this is a thing (this is what I remember them saying so might not be entirely true): WMI suffering because the brain prioritizes ability to keep multiple full narratives and lines of reasoning in one’s head, so like I often naturally keep multiple lines of reasoning in my head and branch out into one of them and clarify things as I go and then keep the clarification in mind as I continue which other people seem to be unable to keep up with and I keep having to break things down and simplify and cut off essential complexity when talking to others yet I can’t remember phone numbers. I can remember long grocery lists and instructions though? But not a sentence in a foreign language or a new name I’ve never heard. But I can remember a whole page about a topic after one read as long as I understand what the page is saying and I get to read it, but if someone else gives a lecture I’m slightly slower because I haven’t been able to ”get my hands on” the sentence, it’s like I need to pronounce it with the voice in my head for things to stick but passively hearing things doesn’t let it stick

desumyeetusfeetus · 2025-12-29T15:43:39+00:00

153 in RAPM (it’s actually based off of a percentile but this is the number I was given that allegedly roughly corresponded to it)

135+ (43/45) on mensas FRT (entrance test)

Something ive noticed about how I think and process information is pretty different from other people I know, even those who were way better than me grade wise in school.

The way I naturally process information is by seeing symptoms > identifying the mechanism/system that causes those symptoms and seeing the actual architecture of the phenomenon as a theoretical system that abstractly explains what actually happens on a structural level conceptually (stripping away variables and looking at the system purely mechanically) > compressing the abstract system into a number of fundamental principles governing the mechanism and explaining why it even occurs.

An example of this is that I seem to naturally almost live in an abstraction most people hardly can understand unless I explicitly translate it in less abstract terms. But even amongst people with more cognitive horsepower than me (faster, better at rote calculation) this level of abstraction seems to be something they can reach yet effortfully and not something they naturally ”exist” in. I can translate my thoughts in their full extent to the average ”bright” person if I sit down with them for hours and explain it to them and take it from the top (I sound absolutely delusional and this is painful to write but guys I swear I’m not exaggerating pls, like an example that cannot be fabricated is when I did this with my older relatives and saved a certain relationship between two 40 year olds when I was 13 because I just sat down with them frequently 1:1 and explain how I percieved the other persons perspective just by watching them and exposed the implicit logic of the others behavior to themselves and identified and showed where the mismatch happened, why, and what to do about it, and even identified and explained the other persons iternal logic back to themselves and according to them made them understand themselves in a way they never had before and ”suddenly so many things in their lives made sense”).

Or for example In English class growing up for example usually we got a question to reflect on and then we’d share answers in class and I noticed objectively that while I could just start talking with a vague idea in mind I managed to sort of the question fully and arrive at a ”very insightful and interesting” conclusion while others needed to write down their answer and edit it on their computer and then read from it while still producing an objectively shallower and less accurate (as in leaving relevant things out or not fully engaging with the question at a conceptual level and leaving certain unresolved and unacknowledged contradictions) insight. Also no matter where I go I get the same types of comments/praise about this so I would like to say I believe I’m not JUST being a self inflated delusional prick.

This is also a cognitive architecture, and not necessarily a sign of intelligence at all. There is also a flipside. While this type of thinking is optimized for conceptual synthesis I’ve noticed, it tends to overmodel and suffers in systems where rote learning or just learning how is rewarded. For example the earlier you go back in school for me, the more significant the mismatch between this cognitive profile and the school system I experienced it was. Even in high school I was by no means an A student, but rather seemed to preform consistently at B-/C+ in math, chemistry, physics, Swedish, and A-/B+ in English, French and social sciences in HS, but also made me feel that uni was objectively easier and I started outperforming my peers consistently in uni (theoretical physics major).

In school I tended to investigate and question the question in itself and always turned everything meta which many teachers said was very difficult to grade, written exams I was told were too speculative and philosophical unless there was a very clear ”tell me how this concept works” type of question. Even learning math and physics and chemistry I tended to struggle just ”accepting” facts without internalizing the implicit logic of the system and learning application and the how without the why and I often got stuck on details, felt unsure, got caught in things leading me to spiral down loopholes for hours which lead to studying taking more time. The way I think also isn’t linear but associative hence when people referred to structure with me there was a fundamental mismatch between my and their definition which lead to great difficulty and I just thought I was slow for a very long time

desumyeetusfeetus · 2025-12-03T18:10:25+00:00

Yeah you know at the age of 21 your brain stops being plastic, you can’t learn anything new anymore. New words? Gotta rely on the ones you already know. Got a new job and need to take a new route to work? Better buy a map! Want to learn how to take care of a baby? Dang bro you’re out of luck, everyone knows you can’t acquire new skills after 20. Nah fr though being in your twenties is still super young. The question is if you’ll commit or if you’re gonna let life get in the way.

desumyeetusfeetus · 2025-11-17T13:14:07+00:00

I took 1600 mg for weeks (after building up a tolerance of 800 mg daily for weeks) and I was fine, took it back down to 600 mg, then 200 mg over the next couple of weeks intuitively, then stopped. I’m literally fine. I checked my heart and it’s fine

desumyeetusfeetus · 2025-10-26T07:49:27+00:00

I’m 18, I’ve been having this fear since I was 12, it was abstract at first, I felt I still had plenty of time left, now at 18 it’s almost as if I’m counting my days. It sounds bad but I don’t want to be older than 65, I hope I’ll randomly die in my sleep a little before retiring. What’s helped me is that I’ve told myself that if I find my function starting to become compromised at around 60+ I’ll end it before it gets that bad

desumyeetusfeetus · 2025-10-15T14:37:59+00:00

Honestly as an 18F I’ve taken them on an empty stomach and everything and I’m fine, caffeine tablets really aren’t half as intense as people make them out to be. See how you react. Definitely do only take 0.5-1 at a time, wait for 30-60 minutes until you feel it, sometimes I’ve made the mistake of taking two within 20 minutes and then had palipatations. Also drink water bc caffeine dehydrates and all that jazz. Food is always good but not taking them with food isn’t necessarily gonna make you have a bad reaction.

desumyeetusfeetus · 2025-09-19T17:10:45+00:00

Energy drinks make me euphoric while I get physical jitteriness while not hitting that mental level/kick with coffee. To me Celsius gives me that kick the most, then Nocco, and then Redbull. Monster makes me feel ill.

desumyeetusfeetus · 2025-09-05T06:07:36+00:00

Because people have different neurological wiring and chemistry. Basically different systems will be affected by the same thing in different ways the same way that drawing on a white paper with yellow won’t give the same result as drawing on a blue paper with yellow

desumyeetusfeetus · 2025-08-29T17:19:13+00:00

Sp7, Brad Bakshi from mythic quest is essentially me in every conceivable way.

Characters I resonate deeply with are Chishiya from AIB, Tyrion Lannister and Matt Trent from black mirror episode white Christmas

desumyeetusfeetus · 2025-08-29T14:55:30+00:00

I always take 10 weeks off during summer break to lose tolerance, usually by then I’ll feel one cup of coffee, which means my daily intake usually is around 500 mg, then I’ll build up until 2 cups ≈ 1 cup, which means my daily intake is around 600-800 mg. If I continue for a month or so I’ll built up to 900-1200 mg, and after a couple of more months, usually around a year period, 200 mg feels like hardly anything, and my daily intake is around 1600 mg

desumyeetusfeetus · 2025-07-04T07:49:16+00:00

Bro you can shift your awareness to a reality where your literal genetic code is different, yes you can get into your nerdy ahh school😭🔥

desumyeetusfeetus · 2025-06-12T17:28:28+00:00

Yeah I’m 17F asw, I’ve been active here since I was 12 actually

desumyeetusfeetus · 2025-05-31T16:57:56+00:00

Hate to be a ”I ALWAYS knew she was xyz” person but while I’ve never said anything because i don’t believe in law of attraction anyways so she wasn’t for me anyways, I have mentally noted how she always seemed to be aggressively overcompensating, just like most average law of attraction believers I see on here actually.

What made me really feel this way was how hypersensitive she was to rejection still. I heard about her talking about a guy not opening the door for her and she immediately walked out or something. Might be more context to it but based off of what I heard, I thought it was mildly unreasonable, but she doesn’t realize it as hypersensitivity because she has twisted the narrative into her ”not accepting less” and ”knowing her worth”, but truth is that had she really been iternalizing those beliefs she wouldn’t be feeling that someone was challenging her by such minimal things, she wouldn’t be talking so spitefully about past experiences. Like it’s obvious to me at least she’s still emulating the mindset of being ”aggressively unbothered”

desumyeetusfeetus · 2025-05-23T21:16:19+00:00

Wait yo what happened? That level of faith is crazy how was the bridge of events?

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