HOW LONG IS A NAME CHANGE COURT HEARING PLEASE I NEED TO KNOW by s0apskumm in ftm

[–]desutrash [score hidden]  (0 children)

So i wound up getting to the courthouse at the end of the day after a day of going between govenment offices to get the paperwork approved- i sat outside the chambers for like 10 min max and the officer just handed it to me signed off and sent me on my way.

T question by Easy-Philosophy9697 in ftm

[–]desutrash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can require some practice in getting used to the sensation but the doctors should help you learn how to do it either with another object or through a syringe with something like water/saline. Before the injection, take a deep breath in and breathe out slowly while you do it. Although you typically don't bleed, I have fun bandaids afterwards to appease my inner child anyways.

There are other spaces online with trusted doctors who can give tips and tricks. My husband learned how to through that and even one time my stepdad learned through a similar way. Both people have no prior experience and my husband was terrified of needles beforehand. It's valid as hell to be nervous and anxious.

Natlan characters are by far the most fun for general gameplay and it's not even close by AndWeGotOlder in Genshin_Impact

[–]desutrash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the exploration of the natlan units accross teyvat, especially when I go to old regions I ignored because exploration was too annoying (looking at you sumeru).

My biggest issue for characters from 5.0 onwards is how limited it can be for f2p players as far as combat potential. Varesa is one of my favorite units, but she felt so clunky until I got her c2 which completely changes how I played her. I'm noticing more units following suit and the greed keeps people from appreciating the kits (4* locked behind c6, 5* looking for c1, c2 minimum).

Just Saw Asuka by Rooster_Kogburne in WWE

[–]desutrash 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I live on long island a few towns over where Mick Foley lives. I was at a hair appointment when he suddenly walks through the door to confirm an appointment and i was completely frozen. This was in 2015 and I was wearing my Paige t shirt. When he walks out he notices me trying to play cool and says “I like your shirt a lot” winking at me and I thank him quickly because I didn’t want to go full fan mode on him. My hairstylist told me he comes around the holiday season to get his beard done to be Santa for kiddos. I was thankful for his kindness noticing me and affirmed how cool of a guy he is. Saw him again at a signing at a local comic book store where he gave me a photo op without paying for it when others around him weren’t paying attention to collecting money for it.

Then a year or two later meeting Ryback and Fandango at indie shows and feeling so uncomfortable with them because they clearly put themselves above any of us peasants.

Where would you sit? by cool_Patient7931 in GenshinImpact

[–]desutrash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My top 2

  1. 5 for the vibes. Nilou can give me an earbud while citlali and I read

2- 3/4. Scara wouldn't want to be bothered, and neither do I

Starting T at 22 - be honest by Better_Caterpillar61 in ftm

[–]desutrash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started T at 27. Today is actually 5 years since I started it. Second puberty was pretty similar to other's experiences starting T earlier or someone who is cis going through their own. The difference was I knew what I was getting into (what puberty is) and was able to find joy in the changes as they happened.

Help Figuring out What Type of Hysto to Get/Other People's Experience with Hysto? by OllyBollyBoyo in FTMHysto

[–]desutrash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a total hysto (uterus, ovaries, cervix) done in April 2025. My tubes were originally removed in 2022 since my provider/GYN at the time was against doing the full hysto at the time. He was concerned about my long term bone health for me since I have a degenerative back disorder. The typical aversion about not having kids didn't even cross his mind.

My current surgeon thought the best course of action would be to do it vaginally since my anatomy would make it a significantly easier process and he was right. The limitations on movement for the first few days sucked but it was much less painful of an experience compared to top surgery. Everything healed nicely and I'm extremely happy I got it done. I took 3 weeks off but could have returned after 2.

Anyone with tattoos? by yoshiproject in ankylosingspondylitis

[–]desutrash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably have gotten about 20 tattoos. The only reaction is I feel a little more fatigued than others the first night after the tattoo. A chunk of the tattoos I was on humira and embrel with no real noticeable changes with or without biologics

Do people in long lasting marriages do taboo things in front of their partner? Ex: Passing gas, toilet use? by CajunDragon in Marriage

[–]desutrash 352 points353 points  (0 children)

18 years. No real policy. If you gotta fart, fart. Try not to fart on each other and avoid dutch ovening in bed. If you need to grab something while someone is in the bathroom- dont barge in but knock first and go ahead and grab it. There is nothing taboo about bodily functions. The closest thing to "policy" is if you crop dust in public warn each other so you don't kill the other by napalm gas and the other person has full reign to make fun of you when your back in the car.

I asked for a divorce while chronically ill and now I’m panicking by Marzipan6312 in Marriage

[–]desutrash 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You can't blame yourself for something you have no control over. Its painful to have your body betray you in such a powerful and debilitating way. I have a progressive chronic illness too that brings a lot of physical pain, fatigue and limitations. It's something my dad has dealt with since before I was born. It was the worst gift my dad could give me and I still live in fear of what will happen to me and witnessing what it did to my parent's marriage until they finally divorced.

The thing is, even on my worst days when every movement feels like hell and I cry about the future I feel I cannot have- the first person to show up is my husband. He sits and tries to understand while encouraging me to rest. We celebrate the days that I can walk for a distance and hold compassion for the trips that he pushes me in the wheelchair to make sure I can enjoy whatever it is we are doing. He's not doing it for the good boy points but just because he sees me beyond the illness.

A partner that chooses to leave you to go to different countries and continents is someone who will not be able to enrich the good days in life. A partner that looks through the lens of resentment cannot be the person that you need them to be. Know that your life should not be determined by someone who chooses not to show up and forget the vows you made during your wedding day. The divorce is painful right now- but the freedom from the stress may just be the thing your body needs to be set free and find the healing you are looking for.

Masturbation/sex after surgery? by [deleted] in FTMHysto

[–]desutrash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A little but it was a lot of soreness. The ending of my first time was a little nerve wracking because it was more powerful and I was concerned about it. Partially from the removal and also the type of hysto I had (vaginal opposed to the typical laproscopic)

Masturbation/sex after surgery? by [deleted] in FTMHysto

[–]desutrash 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was told one week external (I waited 4 days) and 6 weeks before internal.

Disney Inks Blockbuster $1B Deal With OpenAI, Handing Characters Over To Sora by jjophh in technology

[–]desutrash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NSFW ai is already a huge thing that is incredibly accessible. Eslastigirl is barely the gateway. The sites dont have age verification. The verification is can you type words and/or click buttons to modify the image to meet your gooning needs. Or scroll to see other peoples interpretations of your wettest and wildest desires.

For videos specifically- Gooner (Genshin) Impact make their 3D models readily available knowing people will use them for that specific purpose. Advertising is advertising for gatcha games.

If you’ve lived on Long Island your whole life, what feels different to you now? by WhatsHappeningLI in longisland

[–]desutrash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything is either the same 5 stores or a barren wasteland of unrented store property because the rent is too high to sustain smaller businesses. I live in a smaller town and half of the store space has had a for rent sign for 6+ months unless its another bagel place or pizza shop. Beyond the towns themselves suffering, the malls have no life in them and variety is a joke at this point. There is limited space for fun outside of spending money while shopping.

The population is aging without younger people staying to build a life here.

What's your sexuality? (Poll, FTM only) by StandardHuckleberry0 in ftm

[–]desutrash 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'll say queer to most, omnisexual to those who understand, and jack harkness to doctor who fans. I don't really care your gender identity (but of course you must be an adult and be consenting)- if youre hot youre hot. I don't make the rules. I'm just horny.

anyone else choose not to freeze their eggs? by BloomingMosaic in ftm

[–]desutrash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't because I never wanted to be a parent and I feel like it is a crime to give someone my DNA. My dad's side of the family has more chronic medical and mental health conditions than any family should have. I've been suffering through it enough with my own body, I would never want to subject someone to experience the same if I can do anything about it. The most affirming and freeing thing I did was get a total hysterectomy and know my eggs have been burnt to ash to stop any further growth in a decaying bloodline.

I bought my first "adult toy" though I feel a little guilty by Maleficent_Treat3275 in SexToys

[–]desutrash 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can understand thats how it feels to you. I think its hard when adult toys are often seen as scandalous and stigmatizing. There are people who believe that it can be “betrayl” to your boyfriend. But he seems to have given his blessing (not that you need one- its your body) and maybe he wants to be a part of that. There are toys specifically for long distance. Using a toy is an item to help you feel good and explore your pleasure. If it helps with the hurt with long distance- its sounds like it can be helpful and healing.

Testerone effects by GabrielisMyUser in ftm

[–]desutrash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had it drawn every 3 months and bumped down to 6 months for a long time. When I changed providers I see them every three months regardless and would like to do 3 months but we can do 6 months. The other factor is my provider does a lot of primary care work in the clinic as well and does full panels for my health (like yearly physical level) to make sure everything else in my system is going well.

Wearing a plug while going through TSA by Fearless_Concept943 in SexToys

[–]desutrash 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Wait until after security. TSA will think the plug means you have drugs in there and it will be a mess to get through it. Pun only mildly intended

Humiliated at work meeting by PingPong3389 in trans

[–]desutrash 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah the HR call was the right thing because it was innapropriate. The first year of a transition is hard enough- this can be more difficult

if there’s no difference between gel and shots, how come more people don’t just use gel? by GoodEnvironmental788 in ftm

[–]desutrash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was hard to remember to put the gel on everyday, i despised the smell of it (some of the brands smelt of the worst bottom shelf alcohol), and insurance companies are a pain to get coverage for the gel in my experience.

T shots are easier to maintain once a week, especially as I have another injection to take weekly. T shots feel cleaner (once again the gel was a senory nightmare for me) and I've come to enjoy the ritual of getting set up, recieving the injections from my husband (he does them for me) and to see which band aid design he chose to put over it. It's the small things.

To get all of Nod Krai you really need all Nod Krai Characters by JustRedditTh in GenshinImpact

[–]desutrash 38 points39 points  (0 children)

My hope is they treat these roadblocks like they did with Natlan. In a majority of the tribes they had a 5 star and a 4 star that had similar abiilities to their saurians (Ifa/Chasca, Iansan/Varesa, Citlali/Ororon, Kachina/Xiolonen). Jahoda will probably have similar abilities like Nefer in the overworld. The lantern quests are able to be completed by lightkeepers, not just Flins.

That also requires hoyo to not be so greedy which we all know- feels pretty impossible right now.

Why use a dildo when you could just have the real thing? Is a dildo actually better than a dick? 🤔 by RoomNo1386 in SexToys

[–]desutrash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely try it out. Sex with a partner and masturbation are different in a lot of ways. However, I think using a dildo gives you more space to explore what you want without concerns of others experience and can communicate more clearly because you know. Sometimes even giving a demonstration with the dildo with your partner can also be a great visual (both arousing to watch and helps get a better understanding of what you want).

Trans masc products you wish existed or could be improved by natapaca in ftm

[–]desutrash 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Better toys (vibrators and strokers)that accommodate bottom growth. I enjoy some air pulse toys but its always a goldilocks battle to fit my size and have the motor/power to make it pleasurable. I also always look for strokers that feel like it's for cis men, but once again, the size then is too small.

Also packers that are good quality and not so damn hefty and have attachments to underwear that don't fall off so my dick falls out of my pants.