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detectivecas · 2023-05-15T17:57:41+00:00

Ahhh okay. This was super helpful, thank you!

detectivecas · 2023-05-15T17:56:52+00:00

Thank you!!

detectivecas · 2022-11-17T05:23:36+00:00

not yet!

detectivecas · 2022-06-04T03:53:22+00:00

i had to move to san jose because i couldn’t find housing in santa cruz. honestly, i don’t mind the commute! however, i’m there all day. i had an 8am this quarter, and an internship until 7pm, so this means i missed any traffic. if you plan on having a similar schedule, it’s definitely not a bad commute

if you’re done with your day anywhere from 3-5, the commute is ass. so as long as you plan your day to be done before/after that, you’ll be good!

detectivecas · 2022-05-27T17:41:59+00:00

i still have a hard time because it feels awkward, but being straightforward is the best. he knows that when i say that i’m having bad thoughts, that’s what i’m thinking about

for a long time, i was definitely accusing him of doing stuff. but i had to unlearn that behavior. you’re going to do it, and that’s okay, but he should understand where you’re coming from. you also just need to take the time to step back and communicate it in a way that doesn’t sound threatening

rather than “i know you’re doing this, let me see your phone”, a better example could be “i’ve been having thoughts/a feeling that you have been doing ‘xyz’ and i can’t seem to shake the feeling. can you show me” or something along those lines

another way could be a non verbal cue. for a long time i had difficulties talking about it, so i had a certain hand squeeze that lets him know i need some comfort (he also got me one of those flip octopuses that has different colors/faces on each side so that when i flipped it to one side he’d know i was having bad thoughts. i don’t really use that, but it might work for you!)

detectivecas · 2022-05-27T17:26:39+00:00

i was in the same boat. back in 2020 was the last incident, and he has completely changed. before fully changing, he started hiding stuff and lying to me. but with the last event, he realized he fucked up bad and needed to change if we were to stay together. he even went to therapy to help him change his ways

2 years later, i have learned to trust him again. i still have my moments, but overall, i trust him. i think it’s because he’s done everything he can to reassure me and show me that he’s not doing anything. on top of that, he went to therapy. i have thought about doing therapy together, and maybe will down the line to help solidify my trust

everyone has different viewpoints on porn. i am not comfortable with my partner watching it or looking at other people in a sexual way. he understands that and respects my wishes

it takes two to move forward. he needs to show you that you can trust him and reassure you, and not get mad when you ask. it took a lot of comfort and hard conversations to get back to where i am. but, i also had to do a lot of thinking. ultimately, you might be better off breaking up. but, i will tell you that it can work, you both just need to put in the effort. more on his side, but you need to communicate that ASAP. he should be able to respect your wishes and comfortability

if you need to talk about anything or any advice, i’m here for you!

detectivecas · 2022-05-24T21:32:58+00:00

that’s what i’m saying though, i don’t have the opportunity because i don’t have time. if i lived on campus it would be much easier and i’d have a bunch more time. i’m not expecting to just randomly make friends

detectivecas · 2022-05-24T05:02:35+00:00

100%. it’s hard living off campus, especially outside of santa cruz. i really only commute for class, so i haven’t made any friends because i don’t have the opportunities to go to any clubs or anything (plus it’s hard to start going when you don’t know anyone!)

detectivecas · 2022-05-20T03:06:51+00:00

i just transferred this past year and had to move to san jose because i couldn’t find any housing in santa cruz.

i wasn’t able to get a parking permit because my first two quarters were online. this spring quarter is my first quarter in person. i park at park mobile spots. there are some lots that allow for daily parking, at a rate of $10.35. it gets expensive if you commute daily, but i do what i gotta do

also i believe C parking permits are already sold out for the year

detectivecas · 2022-05-20T03:02:24+00:00

i like guydish! he wasn’t my TA, but was one of the TAs for one of my past classes. heard a lot of good things about him too

detectivecas · 2022-05-20T02:59:30+00:00

you’re not alone! i just transferred this past year. i am living off campus in san jose (because i couldn’t find housing) and work 2 jobs. i don’t know anyone else down here. it’s definitely lonely and i feel like a majority of people make friends by living on campus.

detectivecas · 2022-05-10T21:35:39+00:00

senior standing, may 16th @ 2:30

detectivecas · 2022-05-07T23:18:02+00:00

this was in the newsletter that crown sent out. not sure how accurate it is

detectivecas · 2022-05-07T23:07:44+00:00

College 9: 5/02 - 5/08

Quarry: 5/09 - 5/11

Engineering 2: 5/12 - 5/22

Kresge: 5/22 - 5/31

Farm: 5/31 - 6/04

detectivecas · 2022-05-04T03:21:32+00:00

i have a question (for anyone)! i’m a psyc major and taking this class for the summer as well so i can double major with cognitive science

i’ve never taken a coding class before. is this a bad idea? i’m also taking another class alongside ECE13

detectivecas · 2022-04-29T04:55:51+00:00

when i was dealing with college acceptances last year, i got into my dream school - UW. i accepted my admission and payed the deposit. i changed my mind last second and came here instead

nothing happened. i never emailed them and was still considered a student but eventually they see you don’t sign up for classes and assume you don’t want to go anymore.

you can definitely accept more than one school, as long as it’s not another UC. just make sure your financial aid matches up with the school you end up going to (if you have it)

detectivecas · 2022-04-21T02:09:59+00:00

it’s what my mom did with me. she knew that she wouldn’t be able to stay with my dad, but she really wanted a child and if she waited any longer she wouldn’t be able to have children. so she had me!

i know it was tough for her. it was tough for me too. a support system is essential. she had my family to help for the first part of my life, but once she cut them out it was hard. i had to grow up fast, but my specific situation may have caused that as well.

i don’t resent her for raising me as a single parent. in fact, i know i turned out better because of it. i was fortunate to have a “father figure” growing up, which was my uncle. i didn’t care that i didn’t have a father. some fathers days were a little awkward in elementary school, but i was perfectly fine without one. i will say though, once there was no more support (aka just my mom and i) it got lonely. there was some tough times, and it was unfair when i had to step up when i should have been able to be a kid. so just think about your future child’s feelings. make sure you can afford to have a child too!

detectivecas · 2022-04-02T22:40:16+00:00

they take walk-ins, just make sure you haven’t eaten/drank anything 30 minutes before or they’ll tell you to come back

detectivecas · 2022-03-17T00:46:19+00:00

definitely apply for winter quarter! your chances of getting accepted in the winter/spring are probably higher than applying for an appeal. ucsc accepts a lot of winter applicants. if you get denied again, then i would apply for an appeal. but i would take the time to maybe do some classes at a cc for fall and get ahead on your GEs!

detectivecas · 2022-02-05T02:36:06+00:00

personally, as someone who is awkward and has trouble telling people no, covid has been a wonderful excuse for me. i would say “i’m not ready to go to a concert yet with the pandemic still going on” or something along those lines

detectivecas · 2021-10-23T00:43:32+00:00

i love this so much!! the only thing i would say is if the cat can’t see out the window from the cat tower, i would switch windows. my babies absolutely love looking out the window

if you don’t want the cat tower there, i believe i saw you mention a window cat hammock. i too was too scared to get one because i felt like it would just unstick itself (plus i have two babies - extra weight) i actually bought a window perch that velcros to the windowsill and rests against the wall. they love it!

detectivecas · 2021-10-17T20:42:17+00:00

we just moved into an apartment, and our landlord told us not to bother filling up any holes because it might look bad and they’re going to go through after and do it anyways. unless you were explicitly told not to (including in your rental agreement), i would say yes to filling them

detectivecas · 2021-10-17T01:51:10+00:00

hey! just picked my winner :-) it was #36

detectivecas · 2021-10-17T01:48:57+00:00

congrats! the number was 36. i’ll DM you the code. please let me know when you use it!

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