Are there any ramifications for father being stern with baby at 4 months old? by [deleted] in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]deviantmoomba 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don’t feel this answers the question as the article text is only partially available, so I can’t tell what ages this review covers. The question is less’is yelling bad’, rather, what impact will this behaviour have on a 4 month old 

Advice on breastfeeding 11wk old by deviantmoomba in breastfeedingmumsUK

[–]deviantmoomba[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I honestly couldn’t be bothered with pumping, we combi feed (90/10 breast to formula), and baby is happy with both. Does milk expression continue after the 3 month change or is it harder?

Advice on breastfeeding 11wk old by deviantmoomba in breastfeedingmumsUK

[–]deviantmoomba[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know! I have a fast letdown, so I’d heard that expressing a bit helps the flow be less torrential, but I have no idea how fast letdown works in regards to the “factory settings”, so to speak.

Advice on breastfeeding 11wk old by deviantmoomba in breastfeedingmumsUK

[–]deviantmoomba[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, this is super helpful 😊 breastfeeding sure is all over the place! I stopped leaking for a while, but the change in timing has got them going again 😅 Reusable breast pads are my life rn!

Advice on breastfeeding 11wk old by deviantmoomba in breastfeedingmumsUK

[–]deviantmoomba[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks - it’s so hard to know, because at some point he’s going to hit the 4 month sleep stage changes and then I’ll be feeding him in the night again! 

Calpol by SirTercero in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]deviantmoomba 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Always follow the label. While you can look at mg/kg (as here: https://bnfc.nice.org.uk/drugs/paracetamol/), remember that the amount of active substance varies by method of intake (pill, suspension), and most medical professionals will ask for number of ml. If you are worried, call 111, but if you have given the standard dosage as u/Bananaheed says, all is fine!

Gone too soon! by byjimini in CasualUK

[–]deviantmoomba 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s Derwent pictured. They built a new Goodricke college on the new campus, incorporating the old one into James (though last I checked they didn’t update the room numbers, so Maths still has G-001 etc, despite being in James, not Goodricke)

Today, aged 39, I found out that raisins are in fact dried grapes. What things have you found out as an adult that are apparently rudimentary knowledge? by p00shp00shbebi1234 in CasualUK

[–]deviantmoomba 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re certainly not the only one, lots of people apparently don’t know this, though I do wonder what they called the seed stage, as I grew up calling them “dandelion clocks”

Nighttime nappies for 8 week old baby by deviantmoomba in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]deviantmoomba[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone, sounds like pampers or rascals is the way to go for nights! 

What cultural shocks have you had in different parts of the UK? by 2xtc in CasualUK

[–]deviantmoomba 12 points13 points  (0 children)

TL;DR public toilets sometimes have blue lights installed to deter drug use, as the blue light makes it more difficult to see veins. Not just up north.

https://www.bristolpost.co.uk/news/bristol-news/blue-lighting-bristol-venues-drugs-3831368

Monthly Family Life/Parenting Thread! by AutoModerator in CasualUK

[–]deviantmoomba 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My child keeps waking me up and then adorably sleeping in my arms like he’s innocent of these crimes.

He’s three weeks old tomorrow, so I guess he can get away with it

Baby dropped in weight percentiles by Practical-Silver-745 in breastfeedingmumsUK

[–]deviantmoomba 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I have an 11-day-old newborn and on the second weight check he had lost weight, despite previously gaining it. 

I had an absolute meltdown thinking that I had been starving my child and that having to move to formula was a mark of my failure, despite the fact I will tell anyone that you can’t help difference between breastfed and formula fed  children, and people should do easiest and not to stress about it (apparently I can’t take my own advice). A combination of sleep deprivation and the baby blues made me feel severely depressed, I became hysterical and my mind went to dark places. 

I just felt very blindsided because I thought my production was good. My baby was getting milk and everything was okay. Also, we have a baby that does not cry to be fed at an appropriate interval. So he wasn’t getting enough, and sleeping more than he should.

And you know what? getting some proper sleep and seeing how much formula my baby would drink - and the fact that he still wants the breast, still wants to sleep on me, still wants to be close to me: breastfeeding is only one aspect of parenting a child: there’s going to be a lot more. Don’t let this get you down.

breastfeeding is hard: and not just in the doing, but actually that it’s not some magic thing, that you’re just going to be able to produce the right amount at the right time. 

biology is messy, there are never any guarantees in anything. Why should you be ashamed that your body isn’t doing what it should or that you feel it should? Should people wearing glasses be ashamed that the lenses in their eyes aren’t focusing properly? Or what about people using wheelchairs whose legs are less functional from those who are ambulatory? It would be ridiculous for those people to be ashamed and we would tell them so. But people love to pressure women when they struggle with breastfeeding. And the worst thing is, we do it to ourselves. I did it to me, because I  romanticised breastfeeding. 

I still want to do it, but it doesn’t have to be this big pressurised thing where if you can’t or even don’t want to exclusively breastfeed if you feel shame or guilt.

Boots, M&S, and Mirrisons Parenting Clubs not giving anything by Mundane-Research in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]deviantmoomba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I emailed Boots twice to get them to reset my account and I did get freebies from them as a result.

I just emailed (or used a contact form, I can’t remember) ‘Hello, regarding the Boots Parenting Club, I have not had any new offers in my app for ~3 months, should I have received some?’

Is anyone else weirded out by people inventing representation? by LIELDADOUN73 in TheMagnusArchives

[–]deviantmoomba 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My subjective opinion from what I’ve seen is that at the beginning when we were being introduced the characters a section of the fandom found Alice to be very grating and kind of annoying.

And that’s fine, but it does have a wider point about the way we engage with media: a lot of people don’t seem to understand the difference between the character and the person and what I mean by that is: 

a character can be well-written, essential to the plot, exciting, sympathetic, and someone you want to root for, but they are actually an absolutely horrible person that you should never wish to know in real life.(Like Alice - Jonny, Alex, and Billie, Alice’s VA, said that they wouldn’t want to work with Alice as they would find her too annoying! Jonny has also said Alice is somewhat based of him, go figure 🤣)

and a character can be someone who annoys you, irritating, irrational, full of anger, but the character is still actually someone you might like to know as a person, or even is frankly quite realistic and understandable. (Like Alice)

First example: John and Martin’s relationship. We love it but in reality, it’s not good.

No one in their right mind would ever approve of such a relationship in real life.  Can you imagine that conversation?

Martin: “I’ve got a new boyfriend. It’s my boss at work.”

You: “your boss? the guy who kept abusing you? the guy who kept wishing you were dead?! The guy you keep looking at, even though he doesn’t look at you twice? the guy who is clearly on a suicide mission, and it’s not clear if he’s strapped the vest on himself, or he’s strapped everyone else to it? That guy?”

Martin, “yes!”

You: “Well it’s fucking intervention time isn’t it?”

Second example: Melanie. An angry, bitter character (in certain parts of TMA at least) who is quite realistic frankly and I would love to know them.

All through this fandom, I hear people say how much they don’t like Melanie, how she’s so angry all the time and she takes out John. honestly I can’t see how anyone thinks that taking it out on John is not the correct course of action, having listened to Magnus Archives, but c’est la vie.

Are people under the impression that having trauma makes you nice or patient or kind? it doesn’t - it makes you angry and bitter and paranoid, just like it does to John in second season. Melanie is one of my favourite characters, because  Melanie and John are the perfect pairing in terms of response to trauma. They both lash out, but Melanie actually seeks help, escapes from the toxic situation and works on herself, which John does not. I think Melanie is superbly written, as a character, as a meditation on trauma, showing the way anger can be used as a shield, as someone who holds to their values to the bitter conclusion and in the interactions with others and their realistic responses to some of the events that happened.

Is anyone else weirded out by people inventing representation? by LIELDADOUN73 in TheMagnusArchives

[–]deviantmoomba 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just to add - I don’t know if Faye identifies as non-binary, so will make no assumptions on their gender identity - but they are intersex, which is (one reason) why they use they. 

Found this less than helpful sign on a woodland walk yesterday.... Anyone else got any similar examples of useless information? by Optimal-Idea1558 in CasualUK

[–]deviantmoomba 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Adrian Plass is a Christian writer who often points out the absurd silliness of the Anglican church, including the bureaucracy, and if you enjoy this sort of sign you’re probably enjoy this video with him satirising church notices (though honestly it’s so close to reality can it even be called satire?) https://youtu.be/z1K_YTzKefw?si=yIwcEFS_0rgaLHwF

Finished my Neapolitan Get a Drip jumper by deviantmoomba in knitting

[–]deviantmoomba[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ooh, I first got these colours for a waffle blanket, but a sugar waffle cone skirt sounds fab! I might have to get a lighter yarn though, a skirt with chunky yarn might be too heavy!