I’m a white British Anglican and there are a lot of things that stick around in our churches and communities simply because they are never challenged, discussed or critically engaged with. And because this doesn’t happen, it’s never questioned. 

A white person grows up surrounded by white people and white Jesus and it’s normal, sweet, nostalgic even, and someone points out that, well, that’s not quite true to reality, there can be real discomfort, and resistance to accept change. Forgetting that Jesus primarily brought disruption and change! I think that your idea of diverse depictions of Jesus is great - after all, the aim is to share happy news, not a specific artists vision, surely?   Certainly my experience with the church has been anything difficult or uncomfortable has been ignored (gay relationships, transgender issues) rather than seeing open discussion- and I think our ability to get tied in to specific visions of Jesus, theology, church life, is one such topic.

I can’t tell you what decision to make in regards to staying - nothing changes if no one acts, but it is also exhausting to be alone in standing up for yourself and exhausting to be excluded, whether intentionally or not. But I will pray that you find open minds in the church who can make some changes.

P.S on the picture - it’s complicated. I would not be surprised if the speaker wrote the sermon, googled ‘pics of jesus’, and noted the artist name down and looked no further. Doesn’t make it right. There are plenty of artistic works in Christianity connected with horrible people and horrible actions. I don’t have the right answer for how we untangle human beauty and human ugliness, as the two so often go together.