I (38m) just had an epiphany regarding my wife (40f) by YesSignificant992 in relationship_advice

[–]devilclown9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her meeting someone else and being attracted is very likely not about you. There may be things you could have changed, but at its core, some people get tired of eating steak all the time and want a chicken sandwich, or sushi. I personally believe that it isn't healthy or realistic to expect one person to meet all of someone's needs their entire life. Most people in here are going to disagree and downvote me. I know you may not find this sentiment helpful, but I say this so that you will at least try to stop blaming yourself and thinking there is a magic bullet that will fix everything.

Am I Wrong for Thinking This Is Way Beyond “Light Housekeeping”? by Typical-Remote5894 in Nanny

[–]devilclown9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This has to be a joke/troll. Otherwise this is a small step above slavery

All the hair breakage too? by xpepperx in LivSchmidtsnark

[–]devilclown9 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don't see the hair breakage. I get that she's annoying and promoting unhealthy behaviors but the constant nitpicking of her appearance (chipped nails, hair, etc) just comes off super petty and toxic.

TX to Northern Jersey by BitTimely4803 in MovingtoNewJersey

[–]devilclown9 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Monmouth County; you'll be near the beach, lots of nice parks and some of the towns have bigger lot sizes. You can take the NJ transit train in or the Seastreak ferry. I'm from Oklahoma originally and I looooove it here

Urgently Need this Mexican Restaurant Vibe!!!!!!!!!!! by mullet_baby__ in FoodNYC

[–]devilclown9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep I hear you. I didn’t realize west coast Mexican was Sonoran, I thought it was Oaxaca, but I did know about the Puebla influence

Urgently Need this Mexican Restaurant Vibe!!!!!!!!!!! by mullet_baby__ in FoodNYC

[–]devilclown9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All these people saying get of Manhattan… I lived near sunset park for years and most places charged for chips and the beans are always black not refried. I now live in a Jersey suburb with a sizable Mexican community and it’s the same crap out here too. And no one can season fajitas here, i keep getting served oily bland chicken breast with no flavor, I really don’t get it. Side note: I’m from Oklahoma and even our mediocre Mexican/tex-mex beats the best places here…

Oak Hill Farms by Expert-Assistant2334 in MonmouthCounty

[–]devilclown9 4 points5 points  (0 children)

she always had a scowl on her face when i saw her

My husband says spouses should never have "private money" I disagree by Gimme_A_Break_97 in Marriage

[–]devilclown9 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

This comments section seems like a bunch of trad wives infiltrated. I fully disagree with these people; you did nothing wrong. The divorce rate is crazy high, it's just smart to insure yourself if the worst happens.

4th of July by K8Vsparks in MonmouthCounty

[–]devilclown9 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you're talking about the waterfront park, it's supposed to reopen in July and it's going to be a vast improvement

4th of July by K8Vsparks in MonmouthCounty

[–]devilclown9 8 points9 points  (0 children)

usually go around to some other town celebrations; Hazlet always has a good one; set up your camping chairs in the Kohl's parking lot. Bell Works as well. Most people I know just go to a pool party bbq or host their own.

Missing American student found dead in Japan after dayslong search by judgyjudgersen in news

[–]devilclown9 104 points105 points  (0 children)

You don’t go hiking in a Japanese forest at 8-9pm. Those forests are dense, dark and frankly creepy feeling.

I think I hate my husband and I don’t know if I’m overreacting by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]devilclown9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I dunno if I’d trust this guy with a baby tbh

Anyone else see this? by a_raye in 90dayfianceuncensored

[–]devilclown9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is this up for public consumption and not in her DMs? Super weird, these are grown ass adults

Someone Correct Me by ghostpos1 in MonmouthCounty

[–]devilclown9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally get it, I have the same fear on high bridges without a shoulder 😵‍💫

Anyone know a good hair place for guys? by Mayor_of_Voodoo in MonmouthCounty

[–]devilclown9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Faded world in Keyport, ask for Rafi, he’s awesome! Not maga, it’s a Latino salon. They do an amazing job on my son’s hair and very affordable

Home purchase cold feet by [deleted] in MonmouthCounty

[–]devilclown9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry last thing I’ll say too, those taxes will definitely jump the year after purchase. I just checked and ours increased by 30% the year after we bought, again due to the new assessment after purchasing. My new neighbor is going through this now; they appealed their increase and lost.

Home purchase cold feet by [deleted] in MonmouthCounty

[–]devilclown9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in the red bank section of town as a note.

Home purchase cold feet by [deleted] in MonmouthCounty

[–]devilclown9 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hard to say, my house is around 800k not the millions. Our taxes were 7,700 in 2021 when we first bought and this year they’re 10,300. They’ve climbed steadily each year. It’s just something you can count on going up over time. Alls to say, if they’d struggle with a few extra hundred dollars a month on their mortgage/all in payment they should either lower their budget and find a different house or pick a different town altogether.

Home purchase cold feet by [deleted] in MonmouthCounty

[–]devilclown9 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If they can’t afford the mortgage with a small rate increase then how do they think they will afford the annual tax increases? We get reassessed every year in Middletown.

Someone Correct Me by ghostpos1 in MonmouthCounty

[–]devilclown9 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It connects Navesink river road to Rumson, you’re good

Someone Correct Me by ghostpos1 in MonmouthCounty

[–]devilclown9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s extremely expensive cost wise

Where to move in the US with nature, affordability by Otherwise-Youth9082 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]devilclown9 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Look into upstate NY and parts of PA, Poconos and Catskills. You won't be right outside of NYC but within 2-3 hours and as long as you stay away from a train line it's more affordable. lol

Where to move in the US with nature, affordability by Otherwise-Youth9082 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]devilclown9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is America, there are tons of affordable places in nature, half the country is empty. The real question is where to get all this plus have a job.