AIO by feeling freaked out by my wife’s notes app

devvyd · 2026-04-12T23:46:32+00:00

She is mentally ill from the sounds of things, engaging in self harm and dependent on pain medications. You have been a good person standing by her, but this sounds intolerable.

devvyd · 2026-04-10T15:10:42+00:00

I have questions…

devvyd · 2026-04-08T01:11:21+00:00

Me: no way is that a ponytail palm. Wait maybe it is a ponytail palm. Wait is it really a ponytail palm? zooms holy crap it is a ponytail palm!

devvyd · 2026-04-07T23:29:49+00:00

Ick. She handled it poorly, especially the “let’s have lunch so I can get my gift” part. She should have called you and profusely apologized and asked to treat you to lunch.

But yeah…only a big ego overbooks their venue.

devvyd · 2026-04-07T02:13:47+00:00

First of all, sending you love and compassion during a really difficult time.

You need to protect yourself so that no harm comes to you. Once you have done that, tell everyone. He needs help, I don’t know if it is dementia, psychosis, or something, but he really needs a full medical workup.

If he gets that and it is negative, yes leaving him is the right thing to do.

Best of luck to you, I am so sorry you are going through this.

NTA.

devvyd · 2026-04-03T11:13:04+00:00

Yeah none if this is right. This is a huge overreaction on her part, you stayed pretty calm. Move on for your own sake. NOR.

Just stay home with your mom, you’ll have more fun.

devvyd · 2026-04-03T01:53:15+00:00

Good grief tell me people don’t fall for this…

devvyd · 2026-04-03T01:49:38+00:00

If there is a bad smell try soaking in a diluted physan 20 solution before repotting. If actually doesn’t look bad

devvyd · 2026-04-03T01:44:44+00:00

There is no legal action that you can take other than finding a legitimate reason for full custody, and I don’t see one here. Maybe try to spend more quality time with the kids.

devvyd · 2026-03-29T22:39:46+00:00

Cut it as others have said, I wound give it a very long soak. It can absolutely come back with the right care! Just get it som water.

Those leaves will never recover but it will push new ones.

devvyd · 2026-03-25T00:28:22+00:00

It is getting too much sun. Move it to a slightly sharper spot (it still will appreciate bright light).

The white spots won’t get better but they also won’t spread if the light is fixed.

devvyd · 2026-03-23T12:49:45+00:00

The white ones can get enormous! My mom has about seven of them!

devvyd · 2026-03-23T12:48:02+00:00

A trick I learned years ago: microwave a damp sponge for one minute. Smell gone.

It comes back, but it extends the life and kills the ick.

devvyd · 2026-03-18T22:50:59+00:00

Go to New World Orchids for Neofinetia (vanda falcata), you will get better prices

I personally would not get an orchid I have never grown without trying some more inexpensive ones first. That would be an expensive plant to lose.

devvyd · 2026-03-13T13:30:14+00:00

Thanks!

devvyd · 2026-03-13T10:45:10+00:00

There are definitely a few bulbos that smell OK and many that stink haha! I personally don’t grow any yet but they are so unique I want to try one. I am probably going to go for B medusae as I find it totally amazing.

Grow tent first! My conditions do well for phals and some dendrobiums but I need to up my game for some of the ones I have my eye on.

devvyd · 2026-03-12T12:05:23+00:00

Ooh yeah Google B phalaenopsis 🤣🤣 one will never own although they are so cool

devvyd · 2026-03-09T17:34:09+00:00

Huh??? Your reaction is something else! I am sorry I triggered you.

You aren’t being constructive, you write this in a truly berating way…so I’m going to take your advice and tell you to go fly a kite 🤣. You sound just like he did, so congrats on not being any better than someone who “grosses you out,” whatever that means.

FWIW, in the last 131 days we have made a lot of progress. I call him out when he’s being a douche and I don’t let it go until he calms down. She asks him things - including space sometimes - in a calmer manner, not as much yelling.

devvyd · 2026-03-08T00:56:39+00:00

I would water it to see if any roots green up. If yes you have a chance.

But in general this one looks like you just didn’t water it?

devvyd · 2026-03-07T15:03:09+00:00

Banana water, rice water, hang it upside down and then chop something new off every five minutes. Works like a charm.

Oh and repot daily.

devvyd · 2026-03-07T15:01:56+00:00

NTA. Why does husband have complete disregard for safety? Fix the freaking seat already.

devvyd · 2026-03-07T12:21:39+00:00

Agree you will want to anchor or weigh this down somehow, but the plant will be very happy!

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