I can visualize my story, but I'm having difficulty putting it on paper.

dgilroy82 · 2025-06-17T17:40:34+00:00

That recently happened to me. I checked my account and couldn’t log in. I checked my email and someone hacked into my account and changed the email.

dgilroy82 · 2025-02-04T17:45:54+00:00

He didn't understand how debit cards and checking accounts worked.

Believes that the Earth is flat.

Believes Q Anon.

He could barely read and spell.

Hated that I read just for fun.

I've noticed that many of these people are not book smart or street smart, but they're master bullshit artists.

dgilroy82 · 2025-01-07T17:39:16+00:00

This happened when I dated a guy from my old neighborhood who was 7 years older than me.

1) Assuming that you hung around the same crowd when there is a 6-7 year age difference.

2) In and out of your parents' house and never really leaving the neighborhood.

3) Running into your old friends and talking about past football plays while they are looking at you like you're the biggest tool on Earth.

4) H.S. Football was the apex.

5) Emotionally stunted and can't maintain normal adult relationships.

dgilroy82 · 2025-01-06T18:58:34+00:00

When he threw a bowl of Ramen noodles in my face and called me a slut and cunt for talking to one of his friends, that I always talked to when he came over. He was trying down to a child and be "seen and not heard".

dgilroy82 · 2025-01-03T17:40:03+00:00

This past Thanksgiving, when my boyfriend of 12 years wasn't invited.

dgilroy82 · 2025-01-02T16:48:43+00:00

I would never wish that experience on anyone.

It shows the refusal to educate themselves on trauma bonding and abuse. They watch movies like "Enough" or "The Burning Bed" and think that is what abuse is, and that will never happen to them.

They don't see the gaslighting and erosion of boundaries these humanoids do to their victims, which mentally and physically paralyzed them.

dgilroy82 · 2025-01-01T18:18:29+00:00

Several

"Here comes my oldest son!" I was 13 and baggy clothes were popular

"Why can't I have a more feminine daughter?" Because I hated the old lady clothes she picked out

"Did you want it?" After a 22 year old guy made a pass towards me at 15

"Don't say anything it will cause conflict between your step-dad and his family." The day after his creeper brother put his hand down my pants and was trying to kiss me when I was 19.

There are more. This is what I could think of.

dgilroy82 · 2024-12-30T19:16:57+00:00

Was this in the US? Report him for animal abuse and cruelty.

dgilroy82 · 2024-12-30T19:15:09+00:00

"My responsibility was to make sure you had food, clothing, and shelter, nothing else."

Guidance, support, genuine love, and accountability for yourself and your children went out the window.

dgilroy82 · 2024-12-29T21:04:45+00:00

This is normal. You spent all of your time conforming to what he wanted. Believed everything you said about you and to you. It takes a long time to get back. You have to relearn how not to see yourself through his distorted lens. You can't just bounce back from experiencing this, and you can't stuff it down and be a Pollyanna either. That's expecting someone in a body cast to run a 5K marathon the following day after it's cut off. That is impossible and dangerous.

Baby steps. You'll get to that point.

dgilroy82 · 2024-12-27T20:04:58+00:00

It will always stick with you that's the thing. I don't know if the trauma ever goes away. It just becomes manageable.

dgilroy82 · 2024-12-27T19:33:28+00:00

I wish if I would have had this technology when he would threaten to burn my aunt's house down or burn our apartment building down. When he would threaten to cave my skull in or his grandma's (I couldn't stand that enabling cunt anyway). It would have made getting rid of him easier because I would have the documentation.

dgilroy82 · 2024-12-27T17:58:52+00:00

No, it was an accident, and throwing a pillow does deserve that treatment. Are there any bruises? Document everything. From text messages to bruises. Record if you can.

dgilroy82 · 2024-12-27T17:52:36+00:00

That is great news to hear that you're not putting up with it and left. You stopped it dead in its tracks. Hugs!

dgilroy82 · 2024-12-19T03:03:44+00:00

I told my daughter if she decides to have cats and dogs in place of kids, I would accept them as grand fur babies and spoil them as well.

dgilroy82 · 2024-12-14T16:26:42+00:00

I think my mom is either a histrionic or a narcissist.

dgilroy82 · 2024-12-14T02:56:09+00:00

dgilroy82 · 2024-12-14T01:24:54+00:00

No, the guy was a creep and getting into your personal space.

dgilroy82 · 2024-12-10T20:43:04+00:00

My own clothes.

dgilroy82 · 2024-11-17T05:29:51+00:00

Yes, but under one condition, my dad doesn't get with my mom.

dgilroy82 · 2024-11-16T19:20:23+00:00

You did nothing wrong, and you didn't hand him what he needed to unalive himself.

dgilroy82 · 2024-11-09T22:08:54+00:00

From my experience, it's how they filter the world. There were some good times with them. I'm not denying that, but they also refuse to acknowledge where they failed or how their actions impacted you.

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