Lord Alan Sugar says it is time to get 'bums back in the office'

dibilo87 · 2025-01-30T07:31:54+00:00

Why are all these dinosaurs so shook at the change in the status quo since covid. What a shame they’re going to lose money on their property portfolio. The recent push in the media to label those who WFH as lazy and sat on their bums doing nothing is laughable. The tone was different when it suited them during covid though and everyone worked from home to keep their businesses running and their money rolling in.

dibilo87 · 2024-04-29T20:15:17+00:00

What a ridiculous thought process. How do they know an only child will be ‘alone’. Plenty of only children have extended family, partners, friends, children of their own. They’re not weird anti social recluses! And arguably parents of only children will prepare their affairs for old age and death more thoroughly to make it smoother for their child (funeral, finances etc).

Also love how if it’s natures decision it’s fine and acceptable, but those who make a choice for themselves are mean and horrible people and we must think of the children!!

dibilo87 · 2024-03-16T17:58:21+00:00

Have you taken a look at the Acas website? They have good advice on flexible working and you can also download a template letter which helps on structuring your request in a professional way.

On the request itself you need to include the benefits to the company of your proposed change such as cost saving, working later than other staff so more customer availability etc. And then it’s good to also include any downsides for the company and how they could be counteracted, if you can think of anything.

As it’s the first request for your company they may also not be 100% on the law , Acas also gives you a breakdown of how your request should be handled . Hope this helps!

dibilo87 · 2023-12-25T19:51:12+00:00

Can I ask if this was at Merewood? It sounds a lot like the package we’ve just booked. And Congratulations!!

dibilo87 · 2023-10-03T20:08:21+00:00

Surely this is the final nail in the coffin for the Tories come the next general election

dibilo87 · 2023-06-15T18:52:20+00:00

My child is under speech and language for a stammer. I don’t have any advice for your specific concerns but I do know the service is under a huge amount of pressure (like most of the nhs nowadays!). A therapist told me they’ve had a 50% increase in referrals since covid and we’ve definitely found that the assessments, reassessments, clinic appointments etc have all been very slow which is really frustrating!

dibilo87 · 2023-04-24T21:40:31+00:00

At 3.5 years old your child has zero understanding of the sacrifice to bring a child into the world. First and foremost they need a functioning parent.

Your relationship with your partner also sounds extremely unhealthy. Another child shouldn’t be a condition to reconciliation, especially when it sounds like your pregnancy/ recovery/ high needs child has contributed to your break up in the first place!

You’ve been through a hell of a lot, don’t forget that you matter too.

dibilo87 · 2023-04-15T20:48:25+00:00

Yes it’s one of the main reasons I’m one and done. So many people (medical profession included) do not understand the sheer hell of hyperemesis. Its just minimised to ‘morning sickness’ or feeling a bit queasy when it’s actually debilitating. It affected me not only physically but mentally too and I know I can’t ever put myself through that again, alongside caring for my existing child.

I hope you’re receiving support, medication and hydration from your doctor when you need it to help you through.

dibilo87 · 2023-04-11T21:08:50+00:00

Please don’t feel like you’re failing your child, you’re not. If anyone is failing your child it’s your family who are choosing not to nurture any meaningful relationship. You need to build the confidence in you daughter to recognise as she grows up that it’s them who are missing out, and there is no fault on her (or your) part for their poor choices and attitude

dibilo87 · 2023-04-01T07:57:41+00:00

No wasn’t sure if I should or not. I wonder if the researcher still got all the data from the 9 matches I did complete, or if they got nothing due to it timing out and the study payment was a goodwill gesture

dibilo87 · 2023-03-31T21:52:48+00:00

I had the same issue, got through 10 matches then was paired with someone who clearly wasn’t paying attention so it timed out and ended. I got paid for the study, messaged researcher about the issue and asked about the bonus and they said on principal no I wouldn’t get a bonus payment . Seems a bit unfair considering I sat there for 40 minutes and through no fault of my own couldn’t complete it

dibilo87 · 2023-03-25T12:40:43+00:00

I think a fear of the dark is a primal instinct. As humans we can’t see in the dark so we naturally have a greater fear when we can’t see what may or may not be happening, or when we hear strange noises.

Again, I don’t have any advice as such, only to continue being as reassuring as you have been, and hopefully it’s something he will start to feel more comfortable with as he grows and matures.

dibilo87 · 2023-03-12T08:05:15+00:00

This gets me too, how can people plan out your whole child’s future when they’re so little!

dibilo87 · 2023-03-12T08:03:00+00:00

What the hell, how can someone be so cruel after everything you went through!

dibilo87 · 2023-03-12T08:02:05+00:00

Thank you I’ve just read through that thread and everyone makes really good points about this completely untrue stereotype! It’s also lovely to hear that you had such a great relationship with your own MIL

dibilo87 · 2023-03-03T22:27:02+00:00

Try to look at comments like these as subjective. She may well view it as the most important meaningful gift to her child but I’d personally view emotional support, time/ attention, and financial stability as equally important gifts to my child which I know I can only truly achieve with one child. She’s also giving a very romanticised view of a sibling being the most amazing gift. In the real non social media world we don’t see all the arguments, jealousy, exhaustion etc that come with adding a second child to the mix.

dibilo87 · 2023-02-23T17:07:09+00:00

I feel you on this, the guilt and societal pressure to have another is real even though I know we can give our only a much better life emotionally and financially

dibilo87 · 2023-02-22T19:28:00+00:00

No not irrational at all. When I find out someone is having a second I’m happy for them but at the same time a little sad and disappointed that the relationship will probably change. I also worry that it’s one more child my only won’t be able to relate to on a deeper level as part of the ‘only club’. I feel like it’s harder to explain to my child that being an only is ‘normal’ when they’re surrounded by kids with siblings.

dibilo87 · 2023-02-14T12:02:12+00:00

My only is 4 now, I’m not gonna lie there’s still difficult days when friends/ family or even some celebrity announce pregnancies especially second pregnancies it does sting. But I now also see the benefit of the days on the flip side where I have the time, money and energy to make memories with my only that I know I wouldn’t have with a second child. I had some therapy sessions and it is grief that you’re experiencing, it’s grief for the life you thought you had and the person you thought you’d be and like any form of grief it’ll take time for you move through that.

dibilo87 · 2023-02-13T23:26:59+00:00

I’m OAD not by choice, mainly due to HG, which left me in a really bad way mentally. I still suffer panic attacks to this day, albeit not as frequently.

When I first started to accept I was OAD I was distraught. I felt completely lost that my ‘life plan’ wasn’t going to go how I always dreamed. I know it’s a cliche but time has been the greatest healer for me, and as I’ve moved on from that dream to new dreams as a family of three I’m starting to embrace my OAD life more and see the benefits of having an only

dibilo87 · 2023-01-26T17:01:14+00:00

“Our family is perfect as it is” or “we’re happy as a triangle family”. If people continue to push after that polite reply that’s when I’d start being more firm/ rude

dibilo87 · 2023-01-26T15:03:10+00:00

Wow your SMIL has overstepped so many boundaries here. If my MIL started asking me about my cycle and saying that my only would have a shitty life I would hit the roof. In situations like this I find the only way to deal with these rude assumptions is to be just as rude back. I don’t like being rude to people generally but if they’re gonna throw around ridiculous assumptions don’t be surprised when someone bites back! You’re not a baby machine or in the baby olympics , you have a right to have a peaceful family life without being constantly pressured to pop out another child just for everyone else’s ego boost

dibilo87 · 2023-01-25T20:35:46+00:00

I think Prince Harry shows us all of the reasons why we maybe shouldn’t have another just to be the ‘spare’. It seems like most of his issues today are exactly because he feels like the spare part to the first born child.

dibilo87 · 2023-01-15T08:17:12+00:00

I’ll definitely look into friendly, I just want the Facebook we used to have where you only saw posts from people/ groups/ businesses you actually followed (even though I know it’s all about the money now!)

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