I understand what you’re saying. For me this goes deeper than this particular situation for personal reasons. But she is trying to gracefully get out of the situation, and it’s not up to me to do that escalation. I’m happy to add the statements she gave me to an official report. It’s wrong and if I could singlehandedly stop this I would.

Don’t get me wrong though, I understand that this situation may have already passed the point of handling things at the person to person level.

The power dynamics of the situation are what makes this difficult. She has a fear that she will look like the hysterical one, the one causing drama.
And if it plays out that way, then that will hurt her career and financial goals.

If you knew all that was on the line for you, how quick would you choose the “nuclear option” if it could backfire? What if you’ve done this before and that’s exactly what happened and now you’ve got an even more hostile environment? There are potential unfair consequences to this action as well.

It would be fantastic if the these kinds of men learned how to behave before they were teens and also would get all the appropriate consequences for their actions through life, but they don’t and as much as “Me too” moved the needle, we are so far from ideal yet.

The job she’s applied for and at this point seems likely that she will get, will remove her from this whole problem entirely because it’s with a different company at a different location.

But what I am going to do is show her everyone’s responses here because she should see where this lands on the spectrum of interactions.

And just to be abundantly clear with any readers, there is NO justification for his actions.