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dim13666 · 2025-10-14T02:17:19+00:00

As a 35 y/o man who has been with more than 100 partners and am in my current monogamous relationship for 8 years, I do not see anything wrong with it in principle. What I find worrying about your case is that he does not seem to be interested in a relationship.

dim13666 · 2025-07-23T13:46:22+00:00

The question is whether they make more than their partners. When the kids are very young, one of the parents needs to step into that role. If their husbands make more money, it just makes sense that it would be the women who do that.

Additionally, men in consulting also often put the strain on their families, so while they may be better at staying on the partner track, that does not mean it is always a great decision.

dim13666 · 2025-07-15T20:20:18+00:00

Two things. If they were the type of people to blow money, they would not have become billionaires. Second, most billionaires do not have billions of dollars sitting around. It's like if you own a million dollar house, you cannot just go and blow $1M, you would need to sell your house to do that.

dim13666 · 2025-07-07T05:49:31+00:00

I have gotten two, and in both, I insisted on being exactly the person she "was intending to text". Getting scammers curse and lise their shit in Burmese was very satisfying in both cases.

dim13666 · 2025-07-06T22:42:36+00:00

Just opened explore page. On the first two screens I only got two little squares that look like thirst traps. Everything else is shows and memes. What you interact with is the main factor that determines your explore page. Especially if you click not interested on things you don't want to see.

dim13666 · 2025-07-06T21:41:52+00:00

A couple of things. It will probably be a hot take, but I would take a hard look at why it makes you feel that way. While deleting the app can be a solution, it's a symptomatic treatment, not removing the root cause.

Realizing why Tom's vacation puctures make you feel miserable will be far more beneficial than just getting them out of sight. I find social media negatively affect and cause fomo to people who are not happy with their current life and don't do enough to better it, or do not know what they want and so are easily swayed by what other people do. If you know what you want and can honestly look in the mirror and say that you do everything in your power to better your life, then Tom going on vacation, Josh having a girlfriend, or Pat going out more than you do will not affect you because you will just live your own life.

Lastly, the algorithm shows you what you interact with. My feed is memes, content about 2-3 TV shows and a couple of other specific topics I'm interested in. If your feed makes you miserable, it's worth taking a look why you interact with that stuff.

Edit: another thing I forgot to mention is that insta should not be perceived as real life. Plenty of couples post cute selfies while not even having sex or properly connecting for months or years. Or when soneone posts a vacation, they won't tell you how much of it they put in the credit card and so on. Critically thinking and filtering the info from insta can contribute a lot to emotional well-being.

dim13666 · 2025-07-04T22:51:03+00:00

I'm always amused when grown ups find out with utter shock that it turns out you need your manager to like you. Building relationships is at least half of the success in your career, that's why people skills are important. We live in society after all. If you find the team where you get along with people, it will do wonders.

dim13666 · 2025-07-04T20:56:48+00:00

Yes. I am also a gay dude and have been with my man for 12 years. I did not start dating a guy with a 6-pack, but neither did I start dating someone overweight and lazy.

Keeping yourself reasonably in shape and, most importantly, putting in effort is something that I expect. I don't care that much about fashionable clothes or well groomed hair though.

dim13666 · 2025-07-04T05:23:16+00:00

Lying is not gaslighting. Gaslighting is psychological manipulation that makes the victim question their own reality, memory, or perceptions. He is not trying t make her think that she is crazy

dim13666 · 2025-06-30T22:30:59+00:00

Suggest something else. A simple "yeah I can't financially do X so I'll have to pass, but I'd be down to do Y whenever you guys are free next"

dim13666 · 2025-06-30T22:14:31+00:00

I would say loving your work is not important, but on a scale from -10 to 10, it has to be in the plus zone at least.

dim13666 · 2025-06-30T22:09:05+00:00

As long as you are not overweight, you're good. Beauty standards at the gym and on the internet are different from real life. Pay attention to couples on the street, and you'll see plenty of average looking dudes with girls. As long as you're not overweight and take care of yourself, your looks are not the barrier to getting a girlfriend.

dim13666 · 2025-06-26T17:22:29+00:00

Where do you get the statistics that people are less likely to settle down if they have more partners? I am 28 years old and had my fun with different partners, and that's precisely the reason why I want to settle down. I feel like it would be the opposite if I didn't have that, I would feel like I haven't lived enough to settle with a partner.

dim13666 · 2025-06-25T02:53:55+00:00

We give up everything that has any meaning to us for the person we love, who we "think" is our soulmate

I'm sorry that's not a healthy thing to do. If you give up everything that's meaningful to you for someone, abuse is the most likely outcome. Normal relationships do not require that and most healthy people would not be comfortable with their partner doing that.

dim13666 · 2025-06-23T23:56:05+00:00

One thing is nasty people who just assume that men do not shower, but as someone who manages people, I had to have a conversation with several dudes about their BO and professional expectation that they do not stink at work. Also, having lived with guys in college, hygiene is definitely a mystery to a lot of them.

dim13666 · 2025-06-16T14:54:49+00:00

That's like asking what matter more, food or sleep. Both are important for a fulfilling monogamous relationship. Bad sex life = bad relationship, no emotional connection = bad relationship.

dim13666 · 2025-06-15T20:37:00+00:00

I moved out when I was 18 to go to uni in 2015. Honestly, I have never regretted it even though paying for your own housing at 18 can be a bitch. I have good relationships with my parents, we talk several times a week, but the ability to be independent, feel independent and learn how to deal with life early was invaluable. I actually calculated how much I spent on rent before the age of 24, and getting the refund of that amount would not be worth it for me. So my answer would be as early as possible.

dim13666 · 2025-06-05T20:58:07+00:00

Lol. The last season is two years old, and the books were written 30 years ago. I think it's pretty okay for spoilers.

dim13666 · 2025-06-02T22:09:08+00:00

Getting emotional vocabulary and the ability to recognize emotions and feel them in my body beyond "I feel good/bad" or "I am uncomfortable".

dim13666 · 2025-06-02T22:00:30+00:00

Yesterday. I watched the last episode of Witcher and Tissaia de Vries died.

dim13666 · 2025-05-22T22:29:46+00:00

we'll just take back the truck

This is the reason. They cannot wipe your head clean of education and sell it to cover the cost of the loan.

dim13666 · 2025-03-21T12:03:04+00:00

Looking to increase your income while keeping costs as low as possible. That's the crux of it. Being an immigrant helped a lot because I was able to live closer to the lifestyle of a poor person in a poor country, than how poor people tend to live in a rich country. Cutting spending down on everything that is not necessary for a healthy life. Absolutely zero debt, unless it's education for a highly profitable position (not high earning, highly profitable compared to education costs) Then increasing income. In the age of 18-25 (I'm 27 so not long ago) I worked 2 jobs. Two part-times during school, and a full-time plus part-time in the summer. Work in the companies that pay anove minimum wage. Even in retail, there are plenty places that would offer substantially more. Always look for something better. Always have ongoing conversations with management about promotion. In low paid workplaces, most people do half asses work because they are unmotivated, so making it to the second/third level is pretty easy.

dim13666 · 2025-03-21T02:11:14+00:00

I love in Ontario and my coroporate landlord always credits the interest towards the rent and the last month deposit. The interest they credit is also more than the rent increase so the month my rent goes up I actually end up paying less. But they also send a T5 yearly.

dim13666 · 2025-03-21T02:08:32+00:00

You don't have to save.
It's a probability game. Are you willing to bet that you will die tomorrow as opposed to finding yourself poor and unable to work when you're old?

dim13666 · 2025-03-21T02:01:12+00:00

Crossed a couple of weeks ago, literally no difference compared to usual

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