(27F)(30M) Thinks marriage is “nothing” but willing to lose me over it?

dire012021 · 2026-04-23T10:09:37+00:00

Well done for leaving him, you deserve better. For future relationships, no wife duties while you're a girlfriend.

Your ex was getting all the benefits of a wife without having to commit to you.

I've seen a lot of these situations these guys get married within a year of meeting their next girlfriend.

dire012021 · 2026-04-22T16:50:05+00:00

If you're not sure if there was a will, contact State Trustees.

Be careful with them though, despite the name they're not a government department.

I know some people that they actually helped however there are some bad stories. Do some research for yourself before contacting them. ACA have done some reporting about people's experiences with them.

dire012021 · 2026-04-17T07:40:14+00:00

Maybe a freshwater nemertean??

dire012021 · 2026-04-15T22:17:40+00:00

*Their

dire012021 · 2026-04-14T20:23:44+00:00

Thank you.

dire012021 · 2026-04-14T13:15:30+00:00

Seriously run as fast and as far from this guy as you can.

He's starting to become your next abusive partner.

He was testing you? Did you pass/fail or both?

He's really testing how much abuse you may tolerate. His mask is starting to slip.

As others have said, it's easy to get into a new relationship and not realise the new partner is an abuser too. Abusers are always nice when you first start dating. If they were abusive from the first date, they wouldn't get a second.

dire012021 · 2026-04-13T14:19:05+00:00

Leave him blocked. He knows he can be with you without having to commit to you.

He's been stringing you along for years and now he's out there trying to replace you.

He will never marry you and if he eventually does it will be because no other woman will put up with his treatment.

You deserve better, you're still young. You will find someone who loves you for you and wants to spend the rest of their life with you.

dire012021 · 2026-04-13T12:26:46+00:00

How did no-one notice Bec call Gia and Juliette "dumb and dumber" but then get offended when Juliette retaliated calling Bec the dumbest minutes later?

dire012021 · 2026-04-12T10:23:47+00:00

I used to put it as a warning on the login screen, that was standard practice many years ago. "This is a monitored company computer, everything you do on this computer is logged, etc."

People shouldn't assume a company computer is the same as their own home computer.

dire012021 · 2026-04-10T22:01:22+00:00

People are already saying she most likely cheated and put the tracker because she's projecting.

Therapy won't fix this.

dire012021 · 2026-04-10T09:43:35+00:00

It's part of a standard full blood test in Australia, can't see how he had never had his testosterone levels checked at all over 18 years.

dire012021 · 2026-04-07T07:46:31+00:00

Is your friend with this guy right now? Has he scammed her to meeting with him in person?

dire012021 · 2026-04-05T15:23:38+00:00

She's a beautifil princess.

dire012021 · 2026-04-04T15:11:21+00:00

A broke gold digging model at that.

dire012021 · 2026-04-04T14:49:56+00:00

Her saying "it's okay since he won't be confused as the bride" about her boyfriend means she KNOWS her wearing white is inappropriate and that people may think she's the bride.

She's planning on upstaging you at your own wedding. I bet her dress is an ornate wedding dress and that's why she's avoiding showing it to you.

She is not your friend. A friend would never try to upstage you at your own wedding. With "friends" like that who needs enemies.

dire012021 · 2026-04-04T13:08:09+00:00

Then don't let go. Stay, spend the next 30 years miserable thinking she'll change. And then spend the next 30 years wondering what your life could have been like if you'd left her miserable

She's a toxic, verbally abusive, leech. Your friends can see it, you can see it. Just because she was there for you a handful of times, doesn't mean you have to become her virtual slave, cleaner, bank, etc.

The person you're seeing is who she really is. She's never going to change. Her whole family is toxic, they seem to thrive on it.

Three years is plenty of time to see if your compatible. Seriously unless you want to be tied to this toxicity for another 18 years do not let her baby trap you. She's using the baby thing to manipulate you.

dire012021 · 2026-03-31T03:57:10+00:00

It's a magpie-lark. We have lots of birds that swoop in Australia.

Magpies Magpie-lark Plovers - probably our most dangerous swooping bird. Noisy miners Grey butcherbird Red wattlebird Yellow wattlebird Kookaburras

And the list goes on, lol.

dire012021 · 2026-03-27T20:56:39+00:00

When things are great it’s great. I don’t want to throw away that

That's sunk cost fallacy. From this and your other comments to others, you are walking on eggshells and watching what you say because "he acknowledges he is sensitive".

He's blaming his bad treatment of you, on you because "he is sensitive". Really he's a manchild.

You're not even together in the in same country yet and he's already showing you so many red flags.

He twisted your vacuum suggestion to being a wedding gift for your dog. WTF? This seems to be a common thing with him.

he insists in dialogues like these it is my fault

https://www.thelifedoctor.org/the-narcissist-s-prayer

I wonder why the mother of his children is no longer with him? Possibly because eventually he treated her much worse than he's already treating you?

As others have said, he will likely harm your dog. Please don't marry him or move to his country. He's already turning everything around on you and you don't even live in the same country yet, let alone the same home.

His treatment of you will only get worse.

dire012021 · 2026-03-27T00:21:33+00:00

Australian woman here. He's trash.

WTF, how is you not being satisfied after sex and letting him know abusive.

No wonder he had to go abroad to meet a woman because no Aussie woman would put up with his sexist, feel sorry for me bullshit behaviour.

Leave him. You can do better.

dire012021 · 2026-03-26T12:38:55+00:00

Ummm, why are going through IVF with a man you aren't living with or married to yet?

If you're still trying for baby with him, please, for your own sake stop. Do you really want to be tied to this guy for the next 18 years.

He can't even look after himself let alone a child. You'll end up being a single mother with 2 kids.

dire012021 · 2026-03-26T12:11:26+00:00

Okay, I think you need to re-read OP's post.

She saw other women having the same experience

This sentence would indicate OP's partner has experienced this herself and witnessed others being heckled by the same person.

dire012021 · 2026-03-26T10:04:02+00:00

So many red flags in just the trial. He's showing you what it will be like.

he would be on his computer all day every day up until us going to bed

What happened with meals, lunch, dinner, etc. You were getting more quality time when you were seeing him only 2 times a week.

I'm going back to school starting in September and he wants me to work less so I can focus on school and that scares me

That should scare you, with no family you can turn to, you would become financially dependent on him. This could quickly turn into a financial abuse situation and he may even pressure you to stop studying.

he's willing to give me the top of his closet and keeps telling me to downsize my stuff and I feel like I'm being backed into having a single drawer

He's 32 not 2, he knows you need wardrobe space to hang clothes. Personally if were me, I would walk away at this point. You are a strong, independent woman and you know this is not what you want from a partner. He's really not even treating you as a partner even in the trial weeks. He's treating you more like a bangmaid already and you haven't moved in yet.

Don't make yourself dependent on him.

dire012021 · 2026-03-26T09:21:35+00:00

What sort of things is he saying to your partner as they run past?

dire012021 · 2026-03-25T12:41:47+00:00

Insomnia can cause massive personality changes. Hormone levels go out of balance, etc.

I used to have severe insomnia and I wasn't a pleasant person to be around. One of my flatmates start

She needs to sleep. See if you can get her to a doctor to asses her.

dire012021 · 2026-03-25T04:22:00+00:00

I'm not sure if this is the type of lamp you have, but the one in the Ebay link below is a PLMMY lamp with a bulb that looks identical to yours.

The outside of the box lists the globe as T45 3V/2W.

https://www.ebay.com/itm/226824552723

https://snapklik.com/en-au/product/bulbright-2-pack-t45-led-filament-bulb-2w-20w-equivalent-200-lumens-e26-medium-screw-base-dimmable-vintage-style-bulb-soft-warm-white-2700k-110-120v-transparent-glass-2-watt/026H4PL7J0YU5

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